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| Author: | Annihilation [ Fri Oct 04, 2013 10:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | HELP NOW! What's the next step? |
Hey! So tonight I ended up hanging out alone with this one person I am really into. I know you're not supposed to get oneitis, and I'm not, I'm still gaming others as well, but this one is somehow special and I really want to make something happen! But I meet this person all the time as we go to the same university and have our studios right next to each other, so I don't want to fuck it up and make it awkward! So that's what makes me feel hesitant about making an obvious move. We were in a group setting with a lot of people there and it was fun – I felt like there was a lot of glances and eye contact between us – and then afterwards, others wanted to just go home but we went to a bar to get one drink, just the two of us, and talked about a lot of normal stuff about our studies and work and such. I did do some DHV storytelling and I did the Cube, and it all felt natural and right. But it was a bit too friendly for my taste, and I didn't know how to make it flirty and sexual without it being too obvious I was making a move. I didn't know how to take it further than that, even when I saw a window of opportunity open, I didn't act on it because I just froze. I feel like I fucked it up and that now it's too late. What can I do now? There might be an opportunity to see each other tomorrow night, again in a group setting. But should I maybe send a Facebook message or call or something to maybe meet up before that or what? What can I do to make it clearer that I'm interested in more than just friendship, but not be too obvious in a way that if there is no interest towards me, it won't get weird seeing at school??? HELP! What do I say, what can I put in a message??? |
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| Author: | Alsagei [ Sat Oct 05, 2013 1:35 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: HELP NOW! What's the next step? |
If it feels for you that you did it too much friendly, maybe it was because you didn't follow the correct steps for a courship. Did you forgot to do Kino Escalation? Which is the art of touching, you can do Kino, and telegraph interest, but then microcalibrate it with disinterest, and you would then find yourself holding hands or kissing or doing whatever with this girl, without staying in the friendzone. Since I don't know how many time you've been together, and what you've framed to her, I can't tell if you're already a friend. But try light touches, without freaking her out, try physical games, to get physical contact, it's powerful, you're not going to become, her girlfriend, don't let that happen! Do your magic, just let it be. |
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| Author: | Annihilation [ Sat Oct 05, 2013 10:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: HELP NOW! What's the next step? |
Thanks Alsagei for your response! We haven't hung out much, and never just the two of us before, so I'm not at least yet stuck in the friend zone, but I'm worried I didn't make it a courtship either. I made a conscious effort to do Kino, but I didn't escalate with it, because of my fear of it becoming too obvious. But I like your suggestion of doing kino combined with IODs, that's a good idea. Should've thought of it myself. We didn't meet tonight, but for sure we're meeting next week at school, and also, because I'm now doing the 30 Day Challenge from Neil Strauss's book The Rules of the Game, for day 30 I am holding a party next Thursday. This person is also invited and seemed excited to come. I might ask if we might meet earlier and make nice drinks for the party together. Or is that a good idea, do you think? |
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| Author: | Xoved [ Sat Oct 05, 2013 10:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: HELP NOW! What's the next step? |
Call her and invite her for a drink. Once you're there, don't talk a lot about studies. Play games like thumb wrestling and the question/answer game, be interesting, don't go to all that college talk. One more thing: KINO ESCALATE, watch for signals, then kiss. |
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| Author: | Alsagei [ Thu Oct 10, 2013 2:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: HELP NOW! What's the next step? |
Well i'm glad you're not yet stuck on the friend zone. You still can get that girl, and you will. About the party, it sounds awesome! I mean, by inviting her a little earlier, I think it's a good idea! But may I suggest not to be just the 2 of you alone? It would maybe feel uncomfortable or not good at all for the girl, too much interest! You could get some more friends, females and males. If I was in your place, I would invite more females than males, and pretty ones, 10's if possible! For her to know I got a great Social Circle full of cool people, and one that she'll want to be part of. And lastly my friend, do Kino, microcalibrate it with disinterest, I assure you, I works like charm! If you do everything fine, she's attracted and you fail at the Kino she'll perceive you as a chicken, she'll think you're weak, and you're displaying fake confidence, you're not direct, you're not alpha! Therefore, attraction will be lost. Do Kino, and good luck tomorrow dude! Kill it! |
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| Author: | Annihilation [ Tue Oct 15, 2013 3:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: HELP NOW! What's the next step? |
Thanks for your replies and tips! I ended up having a very busy week last week, and we didn't meet until the party, where we did talk but only in a group setting and nothing special happened. I did try to do kino, but again, nothing more than how friends might touch. Actually, I now think that this person might not be straight, or my friend said he's sure about it. I didn't even consider it at first but now I think it might be true. But hey, I could make a new friend and pivot – social proof! |
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