Wonder if you awesome guys out there can help me?...
Got a specific sticking point with this girl; I'm trying to get her to talk dirty (either sexting or on the phone) but she keeps 'bailing' at the last minute.
She'll start with all the sexy banter, bang on about being horny and how she wants to meet me n' shit but won't get explicit with the banter.
Of course, if she wasn't 8,000 miles away I'd just meet her but as it is that ain't gonna happen.
I'm moving on to local girls but this one is REALLY keen and keeps messaging me so I just want to get as much learning value out of this as I can, especially as she's exhibiting what I assume is a common objection.
My goal is to get comfortable and adept at talking dirty and escalating in general, I'm not used to it, still a virgin. It doesn't phase or embarrass me, I just want to get good at it so when it counts I can deliver without looking like a fool.
Here's an excerpt from a convo we had:
Me: If I was there with you I'd show you what I thought of your enthusiasm
Girl: Oh really? Im special enough for <my name>?
Me: that depends…what would you do for me, how would you make it special for us?
Girl: Id light a candle haha.
Me: shame…you'll have to do better than that
Girl: Ill actually care about you? Ha and it wont be just meaningless sex.
Me: you're getting warmer…what would you do to me, what would you have be my first experience to remember with you?
Girl: Its not something you can explain. I gotta go though. Dinner with family.
Whether she HAD to leave or chose to in order to avoid the conversation, I don't know, I'm assuming the latter.
To be clear, she has at every turn initiated the topic of sex. Clearly she isn't quite comfortable enough to talk dirty, or tell me what she wants to do to me.
How can I best get over this hurdle, I must be doing something wrong?
Thanks for your help guys.
Hal