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Author:  Subjugator [ Sat Jun 01, 2013 4:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

So I would like to start off by saying all my friends who I talked to this about find it absolutely strange and as for my self I find it a bit different as well. So there is this girl who just started working at my job. She cashiers I do customer service so I never talked to her until she came over to do some training. It wasn't busy that night so we talked. She gave off a few IOI's so I asked her for her cell number. She tells me that she doesnt have a cell phone. This much is true, she uses our store phone to call her parents on occasion, I always just thought it meant her phone was dead. I asked for her Facebook info, didn't have that either. Instead she gave me a house number. This is where my friends said nah bro just drop it....shes weird if she doesnt have a cell/facebook. But I was like w/e...called her a twice and each time she was busy. The next time I saw her at work I asked her out on a date. Heres where it gets weird again, she told me she had to ask her parents first. btw we are both 19. So I was like okay. Next time I see her she tells me that her mom said she should wait to get to know me better but she flat out told me that she finds me attractive and that she likes me. I still want to pursue this girl but my question is how do I go about using this house number. I haven't had to do something like that ever even though it sounds ridiculous that I haven't. The current plan I had was to talk to her in person the next time I see her and try to make like a phone date where like we can agree on a time to do this. Because the two occasions I tried, she was busy with something or about to leave the house. Also if it matters, she told me her experience level with guys is at 0 as in she never dated before.

Author:  Flex007 [ Sat Jun 01, 2013 5:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

Just my opinion here, I think you're pushing to hard for a date, sometimes girls just need more time to become comfortable with you, keep talking to her but don't push for a date, when she's ready she may even ask you out.

Another idea
Give her attention (give her want she wants) and then back off and repeat, if done properly she may chase you.

Author:  Subjugator [ Sat Jun 01, 2013 6:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

I'll try that. I wasn't really pushing too hard for a date. It was more of the fact that I wanted to talk to her but when I did call she wasn't available and I don't get the chance at work either. I was actually about to tell her that if I saw her today and if I didn't see her, then I'd call her tomorrow

Author:  Positron [ Sat Jun 01, 2013 9:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

I would tell her to call you to see if she's interested. If she doesn't, drop her. It's hardly worth it anyway.

Author:  Subjugator [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 2:53 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

So should I be more passive or more aggressive? I feel like if her parents like me, that would escalate things quickly in my favor. So I was thinking of just being real with her and telling her that I want to meet her parents so they don't I'm some kind of whack job after their daughter. It is definately weird because we are casual friends, but I feel like its the step to take since if her parents say jump, she would just ask how high.

Author:  Positron [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 3:05 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

This chick must be really amazing for you to be going through all of this with.

She told you that she likes you and finds you attractive? That doesn't really mean much, sorry. And she acts realllllly fucking sketchy. As I said before, make sure she likes you before trying any further. Say something like, "hey, let's talk tonight. Call me when you have the time." If she likes you, she'll call you. If she doesn't, drop her. Or say something like, "fuck what your parents say. just tell them you're going out with a friend and we can hang out." If she really likes you, she'll want to have some fun sneaking around behind her parents.

If either of these don't work for you, just drop her man. Seriously, she's not worth the effort. There's almost nothing I hate more then sketchy girls who insist they like a guy even when they don't but they're just too cowardly to say so, so they keep it going and leading you on forever and making excuse after excuse. Two is my limit dude. Try twice and then let her know if she wants to hang out, she can make a move because you're done trying.

Author:  Subjugator [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 3:36 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

Sounds legit. I was going to give her my number tomorrow and tell her to call me on Tuesday if she wants to talk. She doesn't work, I don't work and we both know shes not going anywhere.

Author:  Flex007 [ Mon Jun 03, 2013 8:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

If a girl is being sketchy/flaky it doesn't necessarily mean she's not attracted to you, some of my worst experiences with flaky girls have been with girls that were the most attracted to me, however girls don't always make their decisions based on how attracted to you they're.

What ever the reason is for her being flaky, you still shouldn't waste much time on her, keep your options open and go talk to some different girls.

If you get to invested in this girl it could turn into a very stressful situation for you.

Author:  Subjugator [ Thu Jun 06, 2013 2:51 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

This girl is really feeling it. These past few days I've been talking her up. She's definately ready to be my girlfriend, although I still have the parents situation to deal with. I told her straight up that I would meet her parents and she looked at me with a scared/surprised look and was just like no no no not yet. The closest I get to getting them to accept me is just her mom asking about me whenever I call her house. Basically I don't know how to handle this one except by keeping contact up with this girl until shes ready to introduce me. I asked her straight up what I needed to do to get her parents to like me and she only told me to just give it a few weeks first and I don't like that feeling. I want to be straight up.

Author:  Positron [ Thu Jun 06, 2013 2:55 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

Call her and tell her what day and time you're going to come over and meet her parents then.

Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Thu Jun 06, 2013 3:34 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

Quote:
So I would like to start off by saying all my friends who I talked to this about find it absolutely strange and as for my self I find it a bit different as well. So there is this girl who just started working at my job. She cashiers I do customer service so I never talked to her until she came over to do some training. It wasn't busy that night so we talked. She gave off a few IOI's so I asked her for her cell number. She tells me that she doesnt have a cell phone. This much is true, she uses our store phone to call her parents on occasion, I always just thought it meant her phone was dead. I asked for her Facebook info, didn't have that either. Instead she gave me a house number. This is where my friends said nah bro just drop it....shes weird if she doesnt have a cell/facebook. But I was like w/e...called her a twice and each time she was busy. The next time I saw her at work I asked her out on a date. Heres where it gets weird again, she told me she had to ask her parents first. btw we are both 19. So I was like okay. Next time I see her she tells me that her mom said she should wait to get to know me better but she flat out told me that she finds me attractive and that she likes me. I still want to pursue this girl but my question is how do I go about using this house number. I haven't had to do something like that ever even though it sounds ridiculous that I haven't. The current plan I had was to talk to her in person the next time I see her and try to make like a phone date where like we can agree on a time to do this. Because the two occasions I tried, she was busy with something or about to leave the house. Also if it matters, she told me her experience level with guys is at 0 as in she never dated before.

You are being too easy man. You just got a FEW IOIs and you got her number and started blowing up her phone right away? Make her work for you dude... That's why she told you she "doesn't have a cell phone" and she "has to ask her parents." She doesn't know how else to let you down nicely.........

Author:  Subjugator [ Thu Jun 06, 2013 4:34 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

For the average girl yeah. But if you knew the girl the that is 100% true. She legit doesn't have a cell and she legitimately has to ask her parents to go out. But I know what you're saying, Any other girl you would chase a bit, then let her chase you. Just so you know, this girl will follow me if I were to go on break. If there was a day she expected I'd call and I didn't she would ask me what happened..and also gives off hard signs of being interested...so let me tell you I got that covered as I stated previously.

Author:  Betamax [ Thu Jun 06, 2013 6:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

What the fuck. Is this a troll?
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Has anyone stopped for a second and wondered... who in the right mind a) doesn't have a phone, b) doesn't have Facebook, and c) must ask her parents' permission for a date? It's like dating in the 1960's.

So. Give us some additional details. What country is she from? What is her religious background? Why are her parents quite visibly sheltering and isolating her from the outside world? Notice how she got scared about you meeting her parents? Obviously they must be the scariest parents there are out there to be protecting their daughter that way. Check her pants. I'm sure she's wearing a fucking chastity belt.

So, either this is the beginning of the greatest love story, or the beginning of some fucked up life for the poor girl with the chastity belt. Either way, keep us updated on your 1960's love story.

Author:  Subjugator [ Thu Jun 06, 2013 5:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this situation weird/Am I handling this right

Nice post/pic, it made me laugh...more of the second though, but its w/e.. I was seeking some input but the vibe I'm getting is prob to drop it and walk away. So yeah, I get it. All I'm feeling is that other guys might have just dropped it like a bad habit which is why she has been single for life.

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