Hey guys,
I have met this girl on a forum and turns out we have the same tastes and passions (ie: she loves japan, its culture, its food, etc. just like me). We don't really know each other but we said that we should meet for drinks since we live in the same city.
Now, even though sharing a hobby/passion with a girl is fun and cool, it is not sufficient to spark attraction.
As a noob AFC, this is still my weak point and somehow manage to screw up and bore the girl in the end. Loss of attraction = friendzone = end of game...
The point is that I have to act more flirty and play with her.
So, I am posting here hoping that you guys could help me a bit prepare this date. I know I should not overthink this but I still need to think about the things I am gonna talk about in order to avoid these dreaded silences.
Here are some topics I thought about:
*does she have a yukata (japanese traditional female dress)? I then tell her that I find women in yukata sexy...
*dating in japan and how men are not flirty enough. Then go on about how japanese women have a thing for westerners and that they are sexy in their own way...
These are just food for thought. Is there any way I can exploit these topics to escalate?
Amongst the material I have read, I saw that in order to escalate, you need to use sexual innuendo and also talk about sexual things (ie: what is your favourite position? is kissing cheating? etc.). However, I am not sure if this is appropriate for a first encounter such as this one. Moreover, i find these questions to be too direct to be used with a girl you have just met (and do not plan on a ONS)
I would be very grateful if you could give some tips and some concrete examples of how I can escalate things to keep the attraction going.
Thanks in advance, mates!
Cheers.