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| Author: | goovreau [ Sun Mar 10, 2013 12:23 am ] |
| Post subject: | Need serious help with closing |
Theres a girl I've been talking to for a while, about my age, my game has been pretty good, we hung out once, but it was a lunch thing, and i dont like to kiss on first lunch dates. it appears like she's losing interest, she used to text all day, flirting calling me loser, nut, etc but now after like a week of talking to her she appears to be losing interest, no longer answering right away, normally taking anywhere from an hour to 7 hours to respond, and not really flirting anymore, like no smileys/multiple letters etc etc... what should i do?? not text her for a couple days? we go to the same school. Any advice at all is welcome, any plays, texts that should give a response or anything like that |
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| Author: | AmazingArt [ Sun Mar 10, 2013 12:44 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Need serious help with closing |
Good job goov, but you will never get this girl or any girl until you learn one thing. That is "freedom from outcome". You're too dependent on the girls reaction right now. To overcome this you need to stop trying to convey value to the girl. Here is a practical routine you can do. Whenever you start talking to her and voices in your head start telling you "make the conversation more chatty, more flirtatious, say something that she will like" discard those thoughts and don't convey any value. By not conveying value to her you will be free from outcome and will feel really good. |
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| Author: | goovreau [ Sun Mar 10, 2013 12:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Need serious help with closing |
Quote: Good job goov, but you will never get this girl or any girl until you learn one thing. That is "freedom from outcome". You're too dependent on the girls reaction right now. To overcome this you need to stop trying to convey value to the girl. Here is a practical routine you can do. Whenever you start talking to her and voices in your head start telling you "make the conversation more chatty, more flirtatious, say something that she will like" discard those thoughts and don't convey any value. By not conveying value to her you will be free from outcome and will feel really good.
What do you mean by "don't convey value"?
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| Author: | AmazingArt [ Sun Mar 10, 2013 3:40 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Need serious help with closing |
Basically what it means is be free from outcome. It means don't try to get the girl to "like you". |
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| Author: | Bond-007 [ Tue Mar 12, 2013 7:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Need serious help with closing |
Amazing is landing you into some fundamentals. Now that`s a principle you should have in life, not only with women. But focusing on the subject that matters the most to you right now you basically have two options: One is going all in; showing her you really are interested in her and making her see you. This means not giving her a fucking chance to say no. Stop texting, call her and tell her the two of you need to meet. The other is playing it cold, if she replys after two hours, you do so after three and so on. In my experience this strategy has leaded me nowhere, it`s always a next! on that girl. Why? Simply because if you are the guy and you don`t show her interest; are you seriously expecting it from her? Are you waiting for her to take the iniciative? That never happens in my world. I`m at a very similar situation at the moment with a girl that has gone cold on me, still she wants me and I can tell. I deserve her going cold on me couse I haven`t kiss closed after 3 dates being the last one on a dancefloor. Do not sit on your ass. I repeat: do not sit on your ass. If the girl`s worth it, go all in. How do you know if she`s worth it? Only you can tell. |
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