Firstly, you can't be the guy ever girl wants to shag. Do you want to shag every girl? Even the decent looking ones; some just aren't your type right? Same with girls - some just won't ever sleep with you for one reason or another. So don't even try and aim for that - as much as you learn and practice, you will never be able to simply click your fingers and get any girl you want. You can maximise your chances and get more girls by becoming better at 'pick up', but you won't ever get every girl.

I would generally agree that your character/personality is the most important thing. And yeah, that can be broken down into a number of aspects. However, I would say that one of the most important things is just your general outlook on life. I will discuss the individual aspects below, but let's just focus for a second on life outlook. If you go around in a negative frame of mind, your body language is probably poor because you'll be a bit defensive, you won't smile at people, you will probably tell few jokes or be sarcastic and 'negative funny'. You might be popular, but you probably won't be as popular as you could be, because some people just think you're miserable, or you miss out on making strong friendships because you're negative.

Now turn that around - if you focus on just one thing make it being happy. Now just by focussing on being happy, you will almost certainly improve your body language, you'll probably stand up taller, have more of a spring in your step, you'll probably smile more, probably have a twinkle in your eye. You'll probably tell more funny jokes and be better natured. People will like you more just because you're a positive person, so you'll be more popular.

Now I'm not saying it's all as easy as flicking a switch from negative to happy and you'll be brilliant with women. Obviously it's not that easy. Obviously you'll need to work on certain things and improve yourself in certain areas. However, what I am saying is that if you're half decent with girls already, sometimes you can get so caught up in trying to do the small stuff that you miss the bigger picture. Sometimes, if you think you're doing most things right but you're still not having success, instead of focussing on all the possible little things you could be doing wrong, it's sometimes better to stand back and look at the wider mindset.

Right, in saying that, I will make a point about the individual facets. Quite often they aren't individual. You can break them down in terms of what you need to improve on, but often they go hand in hand. Think of the most talkative, funny person you know. Do they slouch and look uncomfortable? Are they unpopular? Chances are, they have pretty decent body language and are pretty popular as well. Why? Confidence.

Confidence is both a result of and leads to all of those aspects you can name. If you're confident, your body language will probably be better. Alternatively, if you consciously improve your body language, you will probably feel more confident and in turn actually become more confident. If you are more confident, you will probably be more talkative, you'll probably make friends easier, you'll probably have the mischevious smile going on. Alternatively, if you consciously work on making yourself more talkative or making friends easier, or smiling more, then you will probably feel more confident.

And confidence is the one thing that every girl likes.