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Author:  Shadowboxer [ Thu Dec 13, 2012 10:52 pm ]
Post subject:  do compliments really work?
Do compliments help you with women? I've read some compliments like "You have a great energy about you!" but it seems...kinda fake. What functions do compliments serve?
Author:  ants3940 [ Fri Dec 14, 2012 12:39 am ]
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only compliment a woman when she jumps though your hoop.
Author:  puaninja [ Fri Dec 14, 2012 1:47 pm ]
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Compliments work when you are feeding off their insecurities. You don't tell a beautiful woman she is gorgeous, because her looks aren't a point of insecurity for her. That's why you neg her.

Telling a girl she has great energy is not meant to compliment her, it's meant to open her and get her attention and not come across as too complimentary toward her looks.

If the girl is hot, but dumb as a box of rocks, you say things like "You know, most girls don't get that joke. I can tell you are pretty clever." Make her think she is smart. If the girl is tall, scrawny, and gawky, tell her she has the body of a model. If she is short and fat, tell her you like short girls or that full figured women are beautiful.
Author:  SkippyASW [ Fri Dec 14, 2012 7:42 pm ]
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If the girl is tall, scrawny, and gawky, tell her she has the body of a model. If she is short and fat, tell her you like short girls or that full figured women are beautiful.
Somewhere along the way I say:

for a TALL one: If you were taller and fatter, you could've been a model! ;)

for a SHORT one: Damn...too bad you're so short... you could've been a model! But don't worry, I also speak with short cute girls. And then try to make her qualify to me.

I had really good replies at these two, but used them only with HB9,10.
Author:  ez_attraction [ Fri Dec 14, 2012 8:36 pm ]
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Let me ask you a quiestion. How would you feel if a woman came up to you and gave you a compliment? I suspect you would probably feel good, especailly if you felt that it was a genuine compliment. If you see a woman you like and there is something about her that you really like, then I see nothing wrong with giving her a compliment.
Author:  No_Name [ Sat Dec 15, 2012 9:30 pm ]
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Let me ask you a quiestion. How would you feel if a woman came up to you and gave you a compliment? I suspect you would probably feel good, especailly if you felt that it was a genuine compliment. If you see a woman you like and there is something about her that you really like, then I see nothing wrong with giving her a compliment.
It's not bad to give girls compliments. But the reason why people don't is because once you do give her compliment it's giving her the power. It's similar to saying "I like you, do you like me?" and the girl gets to choose if she does or not. So instead do nice things for her like opening the doors all those things gentlemen do. You want the girl to think "I like him, does he like me." So once shes naked or after sex you compliment her.

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Author:  zeeshan [ Mon Dec 17, 2012 4:59 am ]
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Telling a girl she has great energy is not meant to compliment her, it's meant to open her and get her attention and not come across as too complimentary toward her looks.
Author:  AFC AzA [ Mon Dec 17, 2012 5:55 am ]
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AFC + compliment = needy AFC

decent guy + real sincere compliment = compliment

there's always fine line for complimenting woman... its easy to come across as NEEDY compliment
and real sincere one. everyone loves compliment. even if shes hot and compliment on that will work.


so if you're kinda new... and MM or all those complicated gamer you should stick with the NEG...
if you're natural you know you compliment all the time.
Author:  Gmorsik [ Sun Dec 23, 2012 6:46 pm ]
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Author:  7000 [ Sun Dec 23, 2012 10:51 pm ]
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I think no_name you may have sort of a point, but I disagree with some of the connections you make.

I would say that if you say something like "wow, you're gorgeous", it does give her all the power. If a girl came up to me and said something about me being hot or whatever, I'd immediately start teasing her and playing up to that.

However, if a girl came up to me and said something like "wow, I love that jumper", or "your hair looks so cool" or something like that, two things happen. Firstly, I feel good about myself because something I have put effort in to is being praised (hair or jumper). Also, I'm getting a bit confused/intrigued. Does she only like my jumper, or is she trying to flirt with me? Now I just play it as though she's always flirting with me, and tease her anyway! haha.

But turn it the other way round. You go up to a girl and compliment her on something she's wearing, or a piece of jewelry or something like that and two things will happen. She will feel good because most women put a lot of effort into looking good, and so getting praise instantly makes them feel good about themselves. However, she's now wondering whether I'm genuinely complimenting her just because I like her dress etc. or whether I'm flirting with her.

She's not got any power from that, if anything she's more confused. But she's a bit intrigued (is he flirting or not?) and she's also had her mood boosted by me (because I praised something she's spent ages putting effort into - ie; her clothes etc.)

So there are possibly 3 positives and no negatives from that!

I would agree with ninja above about direct compliments relating to her attractiveness etc - only do so if you're playing off her insecurities. But be careful here. Some girls won't be insecure. If you go up to a girl and say "wow if you were taller you'd be a model" and she actually loves her height, she could well form a negative impression of you simply because you don't think her height is perfect. So it might actually not be playing off her insecurities, but instead just indirectly insulting her. So be careful.

Personally, that's why I stay clear of compliments about appearance altogether at an early stage. Complimenting something she has put effort into (rather than natural things like beauty/height/body) means you get the same mood boost, create intrigue about whether she thinks you're flirting or not, AND you don't risk indirectly insulting her.
Author:  Zeus101 [ Tue Dec 25, 2012 8:23 pm ]
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Im with puaninja on this. Beautiful girls are used to compliments about their looks, so by giving them more, just puts you with the rest of the AFCs that have tried it on with her and make hard work for yourself. Compliments are no way a bad thing but use them to aid your game. For example if she is shy, then throw in a compliment about her personality, to try and give her a confidence boost and open up a little. Dont go for the obvious "you're really hot" or something along those lines, be different. Dont be afraid to use negs aswell, sometimes these can be just as effective as a compliment when used correctly. One of my favorites is "Nice dress choice, i picked the exact same thing out for my SPAM to buy a while ago, think she is wearing it out tonight aswell haha!" - as this shows value, that your SPAM entrusted your choice in dress enough to buy it, that you are good to go shopping with (with girls love) and that someone else might be wearing the same dress out (even though there isnt), which knocks the target a little bit. Sometimes i even throw in a cheeky "and she looks so good in it tonight, got all the boys looking" if i feel the target is way too confident for her own good :)

Zeus
Author:  Mago812 [ Tue Dec 25, 2012 10:55 pm ]
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Compliments work in my opinion, but only in small quantities.

As it goes for "I love/like you", "I miss you" and other stuff, i usually keep the ratio of her/me around 3:1 or even less. Otherwise, i say "Awwww", "thanks" for the compliments, or C&F response.

That way, when i say to a girl that i missed her, or that i like her ass in that jeans (yea even with so sexual comment) they literally melt.

And girls can sense honesty, or at least i'm not that good in faking that. If i like the look of a beautiful women, i'll compliment that. (The background on this one, if you made your bed right with negging her first, she will appreciate your compliment on her looks. Once one chick broke in front of me "You never tell me i'm beautiful" - althow i did, just not direct and not often. And she was a 9 with the energy of 12, literally having random guys on the street stopping her only to compliment her looks.)

Everyone is insecure, when it comes to dealing with a person who you take interest in.

Just imagine, you can have 100s of women telling you you are handsome, but despite that, for some reason you self esteem falls with the girls who you think are out of your league.

Compliments are fine, especially when you have some connection. Just don't over use them.

my 2 cents.
Author:  Octave [ Thu Dec 27, 2012 9:19 pm ]
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I havent read all the above replies but plain and simple. Compliments work when they are genuine. Your non verbals or tone often give away a faux compliment. There is nothing wrong with making someone feel better about themselves, just dont kiss their ass. If you give a girl a genuine compliment and she is a bitch about it then simply put. Fuck her shes a waste of your time and you can do better.
Author:  Versalis [ Sun Dec 30, 2012 3:00 am ]
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I always tell a girl that I think she's cute/hot within ten minutes. The thing is, I don't go on and on about it and I don't bring it up again. Some compliments are good. Just make sure they're varied and basically natural. IE Do not sit around trying to come up with some to throw her way.

Lol, Mago. I use the ass in jeans compliment as well. I do wonder why most guys think that's a problem. I have almost never had a bad reaction to it. Though it is true that I've never used it before the girl shows interest in me.
Author:  Mago812 [ Mon Dec 31, 2012 3:15 pm ]
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I do wonder why most guys think that's a problem. I have almost never had a bad reaction to it. Though it is true that I've never used it before the girl shows interest in me.
Because most of guys are not comfortable in expressing that they are sexually attracted to a girl.
All compliments work better when used later in interaction, at least from my experience. I'd say that this signals you only compliment people when you get to know them and you're not just a dude throwing around compliments.

And the nice ass in jeans also works best if you use it when you meet for the second time. (otherwise you are simply complimenting her ass, you don't know how she looks in other clothes.)

And i started thinking that maybe i should try and go with just "I like your ass." :D
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