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| Author: | tongki [ Fri Nov 09, 2012 7:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | Err.. Fk am I done or do I still have a chance?? HELP!! |
Ok guys, I am pretty damn lost right now. I've executed almost all of the PUA methods to get to where I am, and I might have possibly blown this away. Please bear with my story so I can deliver the clear picture to you guys before asking for help.. So basically what happened is, I am interested in this girl at grad school and I've been using all these alpha methods, pua to get her interest. It was almost to the point where I was pretty certain that she was interested in me, since whenever we would walk to our parking lot, she would walk slowly and stick around for extra minutes to talk. So finally, when we were hugging each other good bye in the parking lot, I pulled her back and gave a kiss on her cheek. (Yes, optimal situation would have been to kiss her on the lips but.. I just couldnt. I take the blame..) As soon as I kissed her on the cheek, she said, "Oh my gosh" This was not in a bad way like "OH MY GOSH YOU CREEP." It was just a surprised oh my gosh, then as I turned around to walk to my car, she said "Drive home safely." Once again, optimal situation would have been for me to kiss her on the lips and perhaps not hurriedly walk away to my car. I do admit that I fked up I was hella nervous and my heart was pounding like a lil boy on his way to Disneyland. I honestly felt pretty ok at that moment but she did not text me the next day, and I finally asked her if she wanted me to to-go some food since I was going to subway (which we usually do for each other). Then she took 40 mins to simply reply, "It's ok! Ty" (which was longer than the usual time to text). Then she hasn't made any effort to talk to me or see me on campus. Now I am pretty damn confused. I don't know if she is avoiding me now or what the hell she is thinking. It is confusing me because until this all happened, I was pretty certain that she was interested in me. What do you guys think is going on and what should I do to overcome this? Or has the ship sailed already? Any help would be appreciated.. Thanks guys!! |
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| Author: | Jbomb79 [ Fri Nov 09, 2012 1:19 pm ] |
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Tough one mate. if the only real interest was that she walked with you to your car and hung around talking for a bit its very possible she just liked you as a friend. What I would have done it get her out of the normal environment and get her on a date/coffee etc. That way you would have definitely known if she saw you as more than a friend and kissed her then. If she is avoiding you now then you are in trouble as I would say she was just going for the LJBF. I also see you had to run a lot of game on her to get her to show some interest. Talking is something chicks LOVE to do. If thats all that was happening then yeah probably just friends. Sucks to hear I know but looks like the reality. If she is interested she will contact you. I would leave her for a while and see how she is |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Nov 09, 2012 3:28 pm ] |
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If no sexual escalation had taken place, you likely confused the shit out of her, back off for a bit. Blow this off like it never happened, proceed as normal. Re-open start from scratch. Then escalate properly, building a little comfort. Just don't make this one chick the center focus of your life. |
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| Author: | tongki [ Fri Nov 09, 2012 8:20 pm ] |
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Thanks for reading my lengthy report and replying with sincere advice! Jbomb79- no that was not the only IOI I felt from here. I've felt IOI's from her body language, her sort of trying to qualify herself as a "good girl" etc. I am pretty certain she was interested in me, at least a little bit. Yeah I totally agree with you that I should've taken her out of school environment. Honestly, it was sort of spur of the moment. I just really wanted to kiss her (although it ended up on her cheek) that night. I guess I'll have to wait a little bit. Heywood- Yeah, sexual escalation did not really take place. Only escalation I was doing was slight Kino-ing like patting her head, rubbing her back (when she said she was cold), hugging, etc. Nothing like holding her hands or definitive escalation. Haven't ran into her at school for past two days, which is rare for us. I was planning to just greet her warmly whenever I see her, but you would recommend just acting normal? Also, I probably did confuse the shiet out of her, but what does that entail to? Thanks so much guys! |
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| Author: | User13247 [ Sat Nov 10, 2012 1:03 pm ] |
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The only reason that she would be surprised by an innocent kiss on the cheek is that she knows you were going for a real kiss, which means she also knows that you were too scared to actually go through with it. I don't think she's confused about what you did, I think she's uncertain about what to think of you. The difference is crucial, because confusion calls for clarity, whereas uncertainty can be remedied by action. Personally, I think now is the time to follow through, to be assertive and to take the lead. |
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