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Author:  NickNL [ Tue Oct 23, 2012 2:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Need help with a flaker
I've been seeing this girl, we already met a few times going out and kissed on a few occasions, however whenever I text her to hang out she flakes at the very last moment.

First time she flakes because of school (sounded very fishy), didn't speak to her for 2 days and then she asks for a new date. Next date she's sick (which I think actually was true), but I saw her later that night when going out. I ignored her and she apologized the next day). We met up at a pool party instead, which went great (we hung out together for the better part of the evening).

After this it went downhill, we met up when going out again, but this failed horribly because my wingman couldn't distract her friend, got a text when I got home though: "hey hotty :wink: , sleep well! xx"

Tried for a 3rd date later, she obviously flaked (hey I didn't know it was going through so I made other plans, blabla), after that she was a bit distant. My text game is horrible so that might be the cause, but because of exams we won't be able to meet up for at least 2 weeks, and I'm not sure if I can keep it interesting that long. I thought about freezing it untill the week after exams (when we have vacation) and then texting something along the lines "hey! ready to party for a week straight!?"

Any help?
Author:  john5814 [ Tue Oct 23, 2012 2:43 pm ]
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As long as you've had fun together and made some sort of connection then she has something to miss, which is good.

I'd create some distance, keep texting her but make sure she knows you're not waiting for her and you have other options like going out with friends and other girls.

Keep the flirting going and/or negs here and there but she should be working to try and see you, not the other way round.

Good luck bro x
Author:  itsding [ Wed Oct 24, 2012 8:15 am ]
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this is the same for me yet a little different i posted a topic about it also! hope everything works out man!
Author:  itsding [ Wed Oct 24, 2012 8:23 am ]
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this is the same for me yet a little different i posted a topic about it also! hope everything works out man!
Author:  Reality Show [ Wed Oct 24, 2012 8:44 am ]
Post subject:  Get her invested
Adam Lyons says that if you can get a girl invested she will get attracted

Here are a few tips I have

1. Talk to a few new girls, sarge, call girls or whatever before you get in touch with this chick. There are cool girls out there who are down. Find backups and find better ones. This girl you are talking to is wasting / disrespecting your time. Also if you get some other female energy in your life, it could jump start your girls desire to be with you. It's more attractive. Also only call women if you are moving or doing something.

2. You could try teasing her and holding it against her that she kept flaking on you. It made you feel really bad. So bad you are posting on the forum. Tell her in detail how it hurt you. It will probably be funny. Let her feel guilty. Push her. See what happens. She knows you are upset. Put her on the spot. Even if she hates you for it, she will respect you for your balls and you will feel like a man for sticking up for yourself.

3. A few months ago I met a girl who wanted to fuck. Hardcore sexual energy. She kept telling me she controlled the sex blah blah blah. Did I agree to fuck her? On her time? Hell no! She would have flaked and stood me up. She would have disrespected my time. So what did I do? I set her straight, called her on her bullshit and told her: "You book us a hotel room. Call me when you are there and I will come by and fuck the shit out of you." I wasn't gonna spend one fucking second on this chick, unless she acted like my woman and let me be the man. I broke my own rule a little bit and ended up negotiating with her later. I got the first hotel room. After that we were fucking at her place. Suggestion for you? Tell the girl to make it up to you. Put her on the spot. If she isn't willing to iron this out, then she ain't no lady, she ain't down anyway and you will have exposed that part of her. If she is cool, she will be super glad to fix the situation. Escalate brother.
Author:  itsding [ Wed Oct 24, 2012 8:51 am ]
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reality show, i know this isnt an answer to me or on my post but reading your first 2 tips have hit home for me and iwill take them on board! thanks!
Author:  puaninja [ Wed Oct 24, 2012 12:57 pm ]
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I'm curious as to what type of date OP had arranged. If it was something lame like meeting up for coffee, or something that had expectations of romance put into it, then I'm not surprised she flaked.

A date should be fun and low pressure. That is all.
Author:  NickNL [ Wed Oct 24, 2012 2:17 pm ]
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I'm curious as to what type of date OP had arranged. If it was something lame like meeting up for coffee, or something that had expectations of romance put into it, then I'm not surprised she flaked.

A date should be fun and low pressure. That is all.
Going for a drink, nothing special.
Anyway, I tried putting her on the spot, but she said she was really sorry which made me sound like a dick for being so harsh, probably only making it worse.
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