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Author:  IAmKonstantin [ Wed Oct 10, 2012 6:41 pm ]
Post subject:  How do I play this right?
So I accidentally ran into a girl that I picked up yesterday at university and I'd like to start gaming her again. I don't think I did it right the first time because we had about a month of NC. Here's what happened....

When I was gaming her I think I came off as too Cocky when running C&F but at the same time she's the type of girl that likes guys when they take control....no problem there. When we were txting, she wasn't contributing much to the conversation and it was kinda one sided so I picked on her a little bit to get a response but all she replied with was a ">.< hahaha" so I had enough at that point and said "nice talking to you" and then we didn't speak for a month.

I'm really big on girls contributing to a conversation just as much as I am, and when it doesn't happen I find it rude/uninteresting. Is this something that happens to a lot of people or am I just being picky?

When I saw her yesterday, I just made eye contact and smiled but didn't stop to talk to her. Not even a minute later I get a txt from her...

HER: Is that really all I get?
ME: What do you mean? I said hi!
HER: Barely :P
ME: Last time we talked, you gave me the impression that you didn't want to keep talking. So I got the hint and left you alone
HER: Where would you get that idea from?! A >.< face doesn't mean I want you to leave me alone! then you were rude and said nice talking to you, and I didn't like that
ME: Lol Ok well what did you expect me to respond to that? Plus there was nothing stopping you from messaging me either
HER: Sigh I'm sorry I didn't expect you to take it that way....yeah I guess I was annoyed with the way you responded

I feel like I got another chance with this chick and I want to play it right this time....I learned my lesson with her and I should tone down the cocky but what can I do to get her out and hang out with me?

Thanks guys! Appreciate the help!
Author:  Don Horneone [ Wed Oct 10, 2012 7:29 pm ]
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Sounds like girlfriend material to me, but then that kind of directness "I didn't like that" and "yeah I guess I was annoyed with the way you responded" is something I rate very highly
Author:  IAmKonstantin [ Wed Oct 10, 2012 7:57 pm ]
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Sounds like girlfriend material to me, but then that kind of directness "I didn't like that" and "yeah I guess I was annoyed with the way you responded" is something I rate very highly
She is definitely GF material....this is why I would like to play it right this time. Any suggestions?
Author:  Don Horneone [ Wed Oct 10, 2012 9:02 pm ]
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Based on what you've posted, I'm not sure you need suggestions from this forum. I think you should continue the conversation with her.
Author:  Myths [ Wed Oct 10, 2012 9:11 pm ]
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Based on what you've posted, I'm not sure you need suggestions from this forum. I think you should continue the conversation with her.
^^^^^
Seriously, She's already hooked.

Although why would you play down the cockyness? Your in this situation because of it......
Author:  Don Horneone [ Wed Oct 10, 2012 9:18 pm ]
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Although why would you play down the cockyness? You in this situation because of it......
Yeah definitely. This is one of those situations where "be yourself" may actually be the right advice.
Author:  stevejabba [ Wed Oct 10, 2012 9:20 pm ]
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You should never be anything other than "yourself"
Author:  IAmKonstantin [ Wed Oct 10, 2012 9:50 pm ]
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Although why would you play down the cockyness? You in this situation because of it......
Yeah definitely. This is one of those situations where "be yourself" may actually be the right advice.
Sorry I wasn't clear...I think I crossed the line between cocky and arrogant. She's the type of girl that likes confidence, but a tad too much and she loses interest and thinks it's arrogant.

How do I turn on the attraction with her again and get her to come hang out with me? I asked her to come study with me and my wing-woman at school but she flaked twice so I didn't want to come off as needy and keep asking, so I just ended the convo with "Once you're done being Ms. Popular you have my permission to txt me and we'll hang out if I feel like it :P"

Like i said i don't want to come off as needy by asking her to hang out a lot and her flaking, but at the same time I don't want to miss my window of opportunity.

Also I heard of Texting games....can you suggest a few off the top of your head?
Author:  PitchPerfect [ Fri Oct 12, 2012 8:22 am ]
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it's Cocky & Funny because you need to balance your cocky with funny. Just cocky and you"ll inevitable come off as arrogant.

Also, you shouldn't have asked her to 'study' or be your 'wing woman'. If she finds confidence attractive, he onus is on you to man up, grow some balls and ask her on a date! If she flakes again, well, GFTOW
Author:  puaninja [ Fri Oct 12, 2012 1:03 pm ]
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I'd actually keep working this angle of being arrogant and aloof. I've found that keeping a slight degree of tension between the two of you is an attraction strategy. It then builds up and turns into sexual tension. Ever heard two people arguing and someone says "Why don't you two just fuck and be done with it?!"

Call her up and tell her she sucks at texting and that you want to take her to a movie. Start some petty argument or tease her on the way to the movie. Tell her she's trouble, or that you could just slap her sometimes, yet you still feel drawn to her for some reason but you don't know why. The movie will start, you can no longer banter back and forth, and now you have all this built up sexual tension and are sitting arm to arm in a dark theatre. If you can't initiate kino or kiss close after all that, then no point in taking it any further.
Author:  IAmKonstantin [ Tue Oct 16, 2012 4:02 pm ]
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it's Cocky & Funny because you need to balance your cocky with funny. Just cocky and you"ll inevitable come off as arrogant.

Also, you shouldn't have asked her to 'study' or be your 'wing woman'. If she finds confidence attractive, he onus is on you to man up, grow some balls and ask her on a date! If she flakes again, well, GFTOW
I told her to come out with us on the weekend and she gave me some bullshit excuse, flake again...so I had enough and told her "Ok that's cool, from now on I'm just gonna assume you're busy so I'm not gonna ask you to come out. If you want to see me then let me know when you're free and we'll hang out....if not then it's your loss :P"
Author:  puaninja [ Tue Oct 16, 2012 5:54 pm ]
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Not much else you can say at that point, since she's obviously not down to party. You handled it well and recognized when to move on.
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