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Author:  TensionT [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 1:19 am ]
Post subject:  How to deal with emotionally absent girls
Hello, my friends

I went out with a girl but she seemed to be absent (physically she was there, but…). :roll:
I was always talking about lots of different subjects just to see if she contributes to the conversation but I came to the point of shutting up for sometimes just to see where this was going. It didn't improve much!
In two occasions, we were in my car, I asked her a question but she didn’t even replied, i.e., she wasn’t even listening what I said. :shock:

We have a week of “friendship”, jogging together and a coffee every now and then. But now she seems to have lost her interest.

How do you deal with a girl like this? Input is appreciated.

Thanks
Author:  AmazingArt [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 2:09 am ]
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Call her out on it. I see this so many times. Guys feel like they always have to be nice and reserve their feeling to themselves. Fuck that. Call her out on it and tell her something like " look hun if your going to pretend I am not here I don't want to hang out with you anymore". This will blow her away because only a REAL MAN would have the guts to say this to a girl. Good luck.

- Amazing Art -
Author:  TensionT [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 12:17 pm ]
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I was tempted to do that.
But I've done something which it is somewhat similar.
By the end of the day, I asked her if she wanted to go eat something and she said “You know, my sister asked me to dinner with her and I am supposed to be there in half an hour.”
So I told her “Ok, so we don’t want you to be late. I’ll take you home now!”
She said: “No, but I am a bit late it won’t be a problem.”
I said: “No, no, I don’t want you to be late because of me. I’ll take you home!”

When we got home (she’s my neighbour) I told her “Now we are fine. You’ll get there on time!”.

I was not mad, in fact I’ve done this with a smile in my lips. :) You know, you asked for it, you'll get it. I simply didn't want to be with someone who was more worried about being late than being 100% with me.

Since then, she back off and stopped calling me.
Author:  TensionT [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 12:29 pm ]
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We've been jogging every day in the past week. We've been talked a lot about may things and she never mentioned any problems.
Our afternoon started well, she was fine and happy but then it turned out to be like this.
Author:  TensionT [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 12:45 pm ]
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I simply don't have time or patience to deal with things like these
Just to clarify, when I said she didn't call anymore, this was not entirely true.
Last monday I texted her to cancel our daily jogging (I had a lot of things comming up...she knew that). Her reply was: "Today I can't also".

The next day, she texted me cancelling it, she didn't gave me a reason. Said also when she cas she will tell me. I said: "That's fine, tell me whenyou can"!
Author:  TensionT [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 3:48 pm ]
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In the meanwhile she texted me... invitng me to another jogging session.
Let's see how it will be. 8)
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 4:22 pm ]
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Maybe your boring?

Have you tried to tease her? Neg her? Be playful?

Have you tried to have sex? kiss? anything?
Author:  TensionT [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 4:25 pm ]
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Yeah, maybe I'm boring.

I'm always teasing her lightly and playful but in wht comes to kiss her or sex her, I haven't.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 4:31 pm ]
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Amp it up a little, when she's walking away from you, smack her ass a little, then GRIN! Tell her it's her fault her ass looks good in ______!

As your leaving to go jogging, take her hand, hold it up spin her around, look her over like you want to fuck her right there, and say "Ready to get all sweaty?" with a big dirty smile!
Author:  TensionT [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 4:44 pm ]
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Amp it up a little, when she's walking away from you, smack her ass a little, then GRIN! Tell her it's her fault her ass looks good in ______!
I will amp it up but if I smack her ass I think it would be the end of it all. :lol:
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As your leaving to go jogging, take her hand, hold it up spin her around, look her over like you want to fuck her right there, and say "Ready to get all sweaty?" with a big dirty smile!
Nothing like some NLP techniques, word sugestions and so on. :wink:
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 4:58 pm ]
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I will amp it up but if I smack her ass I think it would be the end of it all. :lol:
You would be amazed! Besides how could she be mad, after all it's her fault for wearing those tight little jogging shorts/pants!

Sexual innuendo/frame, works wonders!

Example: "You'll have to jog behind me, It's to HARD for me to run/concentrate if your in front!"
Author:  JamesWatson31 [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 7:01 pm ]
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You must absolutely escalate on this target ASAP.
Author:  TensionT [ Wed Sep 05, 2012 11:45 pm ]
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You must absolutely escalate on this target ASAP.
Yeah, I also think I must. But there are two "problems".

The first is my "fault". I started this relationship as a respectful guy and father of two sons. So, the image sh makes about me is of someone who is polite and with good and respectful manners. You know the type... :wink: Basically, a AFC.

So, I believe applying now examples like the one bellow Heywood presented, would be schoking. :lol:
It would be a 180 degree turn in my behaviour and would seem unnatural.
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Example: "You'll have to jog behind me, It's to HARD for me to run/concentrate if your in front!"
The 2nd "problem" is this one: this girl lives in a small city, and you know how small cities "metality" affects people behaviours and way of thinking.
Obviously, every woman has desires and, secret or not, they all want to get layed. But in this context, the "environment" and what other people think can be a cockblock.
Also, she's a 40 years old woman, divorced, with a daughter so she's very cautious about what kind of situation she's getting in.

So, how would you escalate?
I believe the best way is not to come too strong and too obvious. I think the best is to keep teasing her and conduct the convo to a point on which some degree of "intelectal and emotional intimacy" exist. Then, the escalation can be stronger.

In it's essence, I want to go gradually and keep calibrating my actions.

How do you would do this one?
Author:  JamesWatson31 [ Thu Sep 06, 2012 6:49 am ]
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You are being too AFC. I know it well as I was like this for a long time. Never got anywhere but unhappy with myself and hundreds of lost causes.

Real men do have 'good and respectful manners' as you put it. They also fuck a lot of women.

Women love men and they ALL want to be touched, kissed, and fucked hard.

Take her out somewhere one evening and have fun with plenty of kino and a K close.

Listen not to her words but her body language. You are the prize so make her qualify herself to you and not the other way round.

Read up on the escalation ladder and push pull.
Author:  TensionT [ Thu Sep 06, 2012 12:36 pm ]
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You are being too AFC.


Yeah, I know! :?

I have to invite her for a coffee or something. She never goes out because of her daughter. She has only one night free per week and I have t schedule something with her one week before (she's always at family home, parents, sister, etc).
And during jogging, it's a bit hard to do whatever I want to...even talking it's hard because my breadding is too fast (should quit smoking).

Any tips for the jogging sessions?
Maybe I should increase my teasing and play with words until I can arrange a meeting with her in a relaxed setting.
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