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Author:  Matador-90 [ Sun Jul 29, 2012 2:53 am ]
Post subject:  Where to take it from here .... :S
Hi guys, been reading alot this summer .. so yes you can say i am new to everything. anyway, i want to game this beautiful med-student, using some site, and i am not sure where i stand(attraction. qualifying or comfort) and where to take it.
PS: conservative highly frustrated chump!
PSS: non-native english speaker

So. This is the actual conservation
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You study medicine..oh God, the girl who broke my heart was studying medicine, you guys are NERDS .. i can never talk to you now :/
5 days ago

Hhhhhhhhhhhhhhbhhhhhhhhhh yeah I’m in my 2nd year . no kidding ! Poor you :p , trust me not all medical students are the same :p . She loses you not you .
P.S. : about your broken heart come i will sew it . :p
5 days ago

I know :D u’re sooo fun .. and it funnier to notice that the thing u said is part of “god-complex” which mostly doctors develop. yup I know why u can fix anything now LOL!. oh God, did i just found the twin :p
so tell me, what shows you watch?
2 days ago

Thanks for complement XD . hehehehehe :p .
Well , I’m not a keen of **** series . but I kind of watch some Episodes of ****** . I love English series , I’m so addicted that I finished watching vampire diaries in 3 weeks , greys anatomy , gossip girl , how I met your mother , pretty little lairs , 90210 , the OC , according to Jim and so other ones :p . Finished my life time story hehehe , how about you ?
about 13 hours ago

addicted to English series. really? i wouldn’t have imagined. :p
that's boring .. you and i are soooo different!! oh man.
no actually you and me are alike :p and what i really want to is never watch tv and shit except of course for, how i met your mother. that show is so damn funny!!!! totally that’s u got good taste of series :p
hey. i was thinking of seeing some corpses.. are you in??. PS. hope you not gonna faint as last time hahahahahahaha
about 2 hours ago

Different is good , make you special :p. . I dont watch TV either , and it’s been ages since I sat or touched the remote control . I watch them online which make a difference :D . Oh yeah I’m totally in :p
P.S. : little bet afraid but I got used to it , saw more scary things than this :p

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So guys, give care to share some thoughts
Appreciate ur constructive inputs and pointers :lol:
Author:  natureinthecity [ Sun Jul 29, 2012 7:47 am ]
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Hi bro, congrats on the Med Student - some of them are absolute stunners with high standards and expectations for themself. Thumbs up!

First things first, you weren't clear about the situations and scenario's that the dialogues went down in. If that is via txt/IM or anything electronic. The first thing you need to do is STOP 'gaming' a girl electronically.

I have absolutely been guilty of this pre-game, but the truth of the matter is that game is not run electronically. The only reason you should be using tech to chat to her is to sort out a meetup.

It seems by what she is saying that she is attracted to you.

What I like about what you've done:
  • you've displayed high value by triggering the pre-selection switch of you ex girlfriend.

    you've push-pulled the interaction. The push pull comes across naturally, like you dislike it, then decide 'no some of it is ok'.
    -being decisive and un-persuadable is highly attractive to woman.
From limited knowledge of your encounter with her I would say you are in comfort. However when you next meet up with her you will need to DHV and build attraction again before heading into comfort.

Stop txting/messaging her now, until you see her next. You've continued too much chit-chat that SHOULD be done in person because....

You are approaching the LJBF zone You have already displayed value towards her and if you do not make it clear you have sexual interest in her soon, she may grow accustomed to thinking of you as a good friend because you have SnR value, and she will not want to lose that.

So yeah, when you see her next, start from scratch. It wont take you long to put you back in to comfort. Make sure after you attract her (DHV) start SUBTLY qualifying her. You do not want this to be obvious. You want her to 'just' pick up on it by herself. When she realises that you are qualifying her to gage weather you want to invest in her more, she will find this immensely attractive.

Woman unconsciously believe that the alpha male they meet will have plenty of options available and will put them through their test to see whether this is a girl they want to move forward with. This is why you can't qualify too obviously.

Next, reward her with IOI's when she pasts your tests. ALWAYS adapt the better frame. Reward her with IOI's judiciously however. Sometimes you will not want to reward her with IOI's when she passes a test. This is so you can keep an element of hope, and suspense.

Good quote on this from The Mystery Method:

"You don't want it to be explicit that you are Screening her. Be very
subtle, and she will realize it on her own accord, without thinking
you're trying to make her feel screened. Somewhere in her mind an attraction
switch will flip and she'll think, Hey, this guy is screening me to
see if he wants to invest more.
She naturally assumes that the man she is looking for will be selective. It's a behavior that she's been expecting and thus is a powerful
DHV. It sets the right frame, it's the signal she's been waiting for, and it
baits her to invest."

"Animal trainers know that it's much more effective to reward intermittently
than consistently. Likewise, IOIs given to the target as a reward
should not be delivered predictably. Uncertainty must be
introduced to the equation to make the experience more compelling,
so that she can feel a broader range of emotions such as hope, doubt,
surprise, longing, fear of loss, and other forms of drama.
So the idea that we reward her with IOIs is only the simplest interpretation.
In truth, we reward her investment with an intermittent
and unpredictable mix of IOIs
and IODs. This hot-and-cold,
push-pull dynamic is very emotionally
stimulating. When she
is being rewarded in this manner,
she is more likely to chase
you and to comply with compliance
tests."

Take her out tell her she can come give you her opinion on some things as another female opinion would be good. Checkout a venue.. your bestmate is having a party and you and some others are organising it. Make the dates mundane and boring THEN you can 'just' stop in for coffee or that otherwise 'intense convo'.

Get that kino going bro, or this could be another story that ends badly :)


Good Luck brother
and good gaming!
D
Author:  Matador-90 [ Tue Jul 31, 2012 6:22 am ]
Post subject: 
Thank you bru. really appreciate the effort in reply :D

totally agree with you as for LJBF. when i remember I've been in same situation that ended badly. simply as u said. I believe its the time to make clear "to her" that i have interest in her along with the other recommendations. to be honest .. the part of being clear of my interest is where i have problem .. i have bad experiences of being too direct with my interest happened last semester with 2 different girls .. which of course freaked them out. I read it somewhere .. " To get a girl, you should be willing to lose her" well i lost the last two tries but i'll keep learning and improving ..

Thank you and best of luck to u 2
M
Author:  Ilustrado [ Tue Jul 31, 2012 8:18 am ]
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I agree with natureinthecity here, it looks like she's attracted to you, but it'd be a good idea to present yourself as scarce and not always available, since it'll appear to her that you have a busy lifestyle with lots of other things to do, increasing your value. If you keep talking to her online you'll find yourself friendzoned for sure, I've had past experience with this. Now that it seems she's attracted to you, you could try to test the water by flirting - nothing too direct, just subtle hints that'll let her know that you might be interested in being more than just friends. If she responds positively to that then it should be pretty easy from there, if she doesn't then you need to build more attraction, and that's going to be far easier in person than online. Goodluck!
Author:  Matador-90 [ Tue Jul 31, 2012 11:15 pm ]
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I agree with natureinthecity here, it looks like she's attracted to you, but it'd be a good idea to present yourself as scarce and not always available, since it'll appear to her that you have a busy lifestyle with lots of other things to do, increasing your value. If you keep talking to her online you'll find yourself friendzoned for sure, I've had past experience with this. Now that it seems she's attracted to you, you could try to test the water by flirting - nothing too direct, just subtle hints that'll let her know that you might be interested in being more than just friends. If she responds positively to that then it should be pretty easy from there, if she doesn't then you need to build more attraction, and that's going to be far easier in person than online. Goodluck!
Thanks Pal!
i'll sure go for it very soon .. you take care and Enjoy the game :p
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