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Author:  Raneox [ Thu Jul 12, 2012 1:55 pm ]
Post subject:  I ALWAYS FUCK UP at this one point, advice needed.
Whenever a girl asks me these questions " how was your night?" or "plans for the weekend?" .. I give them a response but they NEVER respond back. I have no idea why. Advice would be appreciated, thanks in advance guys :)

Example for each:

"How was your night?"
Her: No i remember everything i was sober :) how was your night?
Me: A sober "her name" clubbing, that's different. Let's just say we left at around 5.. wbu?
She didn't respond.. any ideas why?

"Plans for the weekend?"
Her: Haha life is good!!! Plans for the weekend?
Me: Nothing planned actually. Yourself? I've forgotten how you head looks ms "her name" .
She didn't respond. Was she hinting that she wanted to meet up with me?

Thanks guys. This is over text btw.
Author:  stuckupcurlyguy [ Thu Jul 12, 2012 2:27 pm ]
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There are two things happening here.

1) your brain is doing what is naturally human and looking for patterns where there are probably none. This is only two girls - do you know how high the sample size has to be for psychologists to conclude anything in a social experiment? Bloody large. If it happened with ten girls at this exact spot, there could be different circumstances with every girl, each could be slightly different. There is no specific problem with your game, more a general lack of interest on her part. Which brings me to...

2) your texting is boring. I know people say "go indirect to look cool" but really, chodes get laid every day because they're daring while the sexiest of PUAs let opportunities slip because they're trying to stick to a rulebook. If you're looking to fuck a girl, you need to get her EXCITED, and you need her to want to have sex with you (obvious, isn't it?). Do you think asking her bland questions about her day is anything special? Is it going to make her want to go on a date with you if she doesn't already? Is it going to distinguish you from all the other guys she talks to on a daily basis? No, it's just filler. Be more direct, challenging, and willing to lose her to your own forwardness and you'll get more intense responses instead of a stream of luke-warm bleh.
Author:  Pyrite [ Fri Jul 13, 2012 3:52 am ]
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I completely agree with the notes on boring texting. Break those rules and force her to respond with something interesting. Sometimes it gets you in trouble and you lose one, but I've always been happier losing a girl because I pushed too hard than losing a girl because I didn't push hard enough. You're going to be better off starting with "Let's play a game" or just going direct. Good luck.
Author:  Raneox [ Fri Jul 13, 2012 12:28 pm ]
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I remember i pushed too hard on this girl and she said "to be fair, i don't know you enough" to go out somwhere with me. But from there things could have got interesting, i see what your saying pyrite. But i think i fucked it up, what type of response would u say to something like that?
Author:  worldrunner [ Fri Jul 13, 2012 4:03 pm ]
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You do not want to start a normal conversation on sms... it takes ages to tell someone what you did last night.

Instead of: How was your night? ---> Send something like: I hope you didn't do anything embarrassing last night.

Anyway the moment she replied "how was your night?" was the invitation to call her and tell her, or if you have the guts at the moment just reply with: "what about if we go for a drink now and I tell you all the details?"

Me: "Plans for the weekend?"
Her: Haha life is good!!! Plans for the weekend?
Me(new line): I was planning to send an SMS to a girl that I kind of like and ask her out for an ice cream but I'm to shy to do that.
Author:  s465435d2 [ Fri Jul 13, 2012 5:23 pm ]
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Quote:
Me: "Plans for the weekend?"
Her: Haha life is good!!! Plans for the weekend?
Me(new line): I was planning to send an SMS to a girl that I kind of like and ask her out for an ice cream but I'm to shy to do that.
I really like this. I'm definitely gonna use this on one certain girl, and I think it'll work perfectly. I love how some girls get so jealous and inquisitive.
Author:  NikAFC [ Fri Jul 13, 2012 8:48 pm ]
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Lie in your texts. They are simply boring the girl. Say something involving other ppl and it would automatically become cool no matter what it is
Author:  Raneox [ Sat Jul 14, 2012 5:07 pm ]
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Thanks alot guys! esp worldrunner. When you guys call a girl, do you hint her beforehand, or just call her randomly?
Author:  Pyrite [ Wed Jul 18, 2012 4:18 am ]
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In response to ".... I don't know you enough ...," you just respond with something like "Well, it's hard to know you better without spending some time with you." I don't like that exact wording but that's the general idea. Two things to remember there: First, if you play it too safe forever, you just lose out. Secondly, and probably more important considering the effect on state, you can come back from simple rejection. Some rejections you can't. Sure. But I can site a number of examples, personally and from others, where that play-it-safe rejection is just another shit test. Keep playing.
Author:  Pyrite [ Wed Jul 18, 2012 4:18 am ]
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Also, why would you hint at calling a girl? Read some 60 years of challenge notes. Tension.
Author:  SwagStrong [ Sat Jul 21, 2012 9:01 am ]
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@Raenox -- your big problem is elicit a repsonse from her with your text. Don't just talk at her. Lead her into a response you want. think about it....

Scenario 1) Never talk about yourself and say what about you. This is like saying "me me me me me me me me me. Please say something back?"
Scenario 2) Never say "nothing planned." This is like saying "I'm not cool, and I have no friends, and I don't know of anything social going on."
--> "A friend is having a birthday night out, I'm 50/50 if I go... have you ever been to XYZ bar?"
--> "Planning to have fun tonight! Still figuring out where (DHV you have options). Will you be out around XYZ neighbourhood?"
Scenario 2) I've forgotten how you head looks ms XYZ? What the fuck is this? Doesn't make any sense to tell her you don't remember what she looks like? Stupid...

Also @worldrunner I like the I hope you didn't do anything embarassing last night this is super good to get her thinking, talking & open up about some random detail and get "in" with her personal side breaking down the wall.
But @Worldrunner I disagree with your "plan" to send a text to another girl. Shy is not good. Just be bold. I would rather say "I was planning to text you and see you later tonight! I heard XYZ bar is good on Saturdays have you been?" --> Get to the point. Yes or no let's go! No point holding on forever.
Author:  ALPHA LiON [ Sat Jul 21, 2012 11:51 am ]
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Lie in your texts. They are simply boring the girl. Say something involving other ppl and it would automatically become cool no matter what it is
no need to lie just stop having a boring life go out more do crazy things go to new and exciting places. easier said than done of course 8)
Author:  Tr@veler [ Sun Jul 22, 2012 2:43 pm ]
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Fuck lying. your text game is weak. Two rules I follow: Either attract (I love roleplay) or meet up. NO OTHER NEED TO TEXT.

She doesn't care about how your night was. There are things you can totally IGNORE in texts. This is one of them. If you ever spot something in her text that she asks that you know will lead to boredom, don't react to that at all. You could've literally skipped "I was out with blabla til 5 blabla" and just moved to a new thread that YOU control.
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