Girls love it when you take the lead. You can just call her, tell her to meet you because you are going to do something. And you don't tell her what you will do (This shit is powerfull as hell!). I can still remember my first k-close as a starting PUA; I just picked her up and when she asked me what are we going to do, I told her: "I don't know *realised that was a mistake, you should always know what you will do and what will happen, or at least you should appear so* and corrected myself: Just kiddin'. You'll see." - "That's what I love about you, you always have things planned (althow that's not the case, not even remotely)"

And more random it is, the more they like it. Just don't do something creepy.

And I always try to teach women something. Eating with chopstiks, shifting gears if she's not a driver (chance for some kino her, just put you hand over hers and on the transmission) or w/e.

Actually, I have a new lamp, semi-chandelier like thats been waiting for a week or so for me to have some time and to get some girl to help me put it on the ceiling.

You are teaching her something, so the conversation can never run dry (you can begin to talk about your chinese lessions or the great wall of China with chopsticks or about what else you need to redecorate in your apartment when you have time (you show her that you are busy) or anything. You can also have kino with chopsticks, transmission; not to mention standing on the ladder when you help her put some holes in the ceiling for the light - can stand behind her and almost hug her. When you do something together, she will also feel more familiar with your place, plus you get her invested. Not to mention you could have a great internal joke bout "That time you were mounting a light in your kitchen..."

Bottomline, create a situation that can be a red line of convo so it won't all depend on your personality keeping the conversation going. And if it's appropriate, you can still talk about stuff you would talk about when on coffee if things go well. But you have a backup plan if they don't.

For attration, it doesn't matter what you do or talk about, it matters HOW you do it, body language and voice tonality.

should i try and qualify her and say " If im annoying or botherring you just tell me."

I personaly wouldn't do that, you lower your value by assuming you are the problem in the interaction. Instead, you could do something like "This today isn't working for me. You probably have something on your mind. Let me take you home and I'll see/call you ___."

She will either be glad that you noticed that she isn't in the mood (yea that can happen) OR she will shift her mood and say "Sorry, I'm better now." or something like that.

But I still think you should do or make something together, it sounds like you don't have enough connection, therefore you dont have material to talk about with her.

I would suggest:





1. Do something random and interesting/funny (wash a car together or smth)
2. Make her laugh while kino escalade
3. More kino and keeping her entertained and some word twisting in more sexual way (For example, you say "Lets wash my car" she says "Let's do it!" and you go with a bit serious face: "But what about the car?"-you get the idea.)
4. When you have done all of the above, don't wait and try with the kiss. If you dont succed, just freeze her out a little (You missed a spot, let me get it/I'm going to make some coffee/w/e), redirect the spotlight and try again later.

Or if I'm missing your point, elaborate your situation a little.