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| Author: | TheBaker [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 8:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Losing the text game. |
Iv'e met a girl about a week ago and I'm talking to her on fb now. The thing is I'm losing the text game, and I really don't know why. Any help will be appreciated thanks ME hey how have u been since i met u and ur friend :L [:)] xx HB heey, ive been good thanks [:)] what about you?xx ME im very good thanks [:)] wubu2 causing any trouble lately ?;) xx HB haha not really..finished school on friday [:D] what about you?xx ME same finished school and waiting for an occasion to go out really :L xx HB haha, did you not go out on your last day?xx ME nope its my training day and u know rules r rules [;)] xx HB haha, what you training for?xx ME mix martial arts and a self defense system called krav maga,:) xx HB aah nice xx ME haha every girls reaction :L xx HB hahah xx ME r u into any sport ;)xx HB no..im the un fittest person alive xx ME interesting with a footballers surname i was expecting more :L xx HB really? aha xx ME yup Izale McLeod :)xx HB aaah, i never knew that xx ME i wouldnt if my m8 wasnt such a football freak xx HB hahah xx ME so ur not into sport from wht i can see [;)] then wht r u interested in xx HB emmm i dont really know :L xx ME jeez ur bf must have a hard life with u :L :L xx HB hahah xx HB i never know what to say when people ask me that :L xx ME id say i live on the edge u know bank robberies and stuff, and if u dont want to sound too extreme say i like music :L :L xxx HB haha i like it :L xx ME anyway im going to search for some vodka and might go to my m8s. It was nice talking to u we should finish this convo later ;)xx HB haha okay, yeaaah xx Im sorry for the state of the text but its copied and pasted. |
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| Author: | nashnewbie [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 9:24 pm ] |
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Finish what convo later?. What are you hoping to accomplish? |
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| Author: | TheBaker [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 9:27 pm ] |
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I just runed out of things to say and I thought I might talk to her later. Also I noticed I'm losing the game and I panicked a little. I know I'm losing the game because she doesn't sound interested and I've also read that " The number of texts you send should be relatively close to the number she sends." |
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| Author: | Jjjazzj4 [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 4:37 pm ] |
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don't do all the work! the problem with texting is that you don't know what the other person's doing. she could just want to have someone to talk to as she does something that requires her attention. you ever answered a text in the movie theater? you say some lame stuff, cause it doesn't have your full attention. so two options: 1) put the conversation in her hands. this is what i could think of to boost that particular convo back into gear. "ehhhh i don't like sports (something along those lines)" "then what's your thing? music? art? interpretive dance?" --that might be enough to get her to open up, or she might respond: "hahahah" "no seriously" "i dunno" "and the Most Boring Female Award goes to: you." it's just a good tactic to give her the power to direct the conversation, while maintaining your dominant stance in it. 2) call her out on it! girls love socially aware men. "seems like you're wrapped up in something, i'll talk to you later." |
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| Author: | O2 [ Fri Jun 08, 2012 8:55 pm ] |
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I'd suggest A) Stop using the emoticons, especially :L. Occasional B) Don't try so hard, you have to make her believe she's the honoured one speaking to you, cut her off with sorry gotta go meeting so and so.. C) Freeze her for a couple of days then start a fresh. That's what I would do anyway.. |
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| Author: | 90909 [ Sun Jun 10, 2012 3:56 pm ] |
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Hmm ok... As with any form of game text game is about picking a specific goal and heading off in that direction along the most suitable path. Whilst it should be viewed as just a game i.e., you can hit restart every time you crash and burn and you shouldn't feel a lot of emotional pressure to get any outcome (this mentality is the most effective cure for AA by the by My credential? Three months back consistently flaked upon by no more than 6.5s, Now? Bar the occasional missed beat consistently get flirty and when I feel like it dirty by 5th text or so (often haven't even met the girl). My advice: 1. GOAL. You need to decide what your aim is so you have a direction to head in whether your set on a day 2 or day 1 if you haven't met. To maintain interest you should always try to lead up to a meet. 2. Select PATH. So say I'm gaming a HB8, I've met her once casually through a mutual friend I want to get a day 2. To make my life easier I would always have initiated with a flirty C&F vibe when we met as I find this is the best way to be in text game initially. Ok, I'm gonna try to build attraction/interest here working on what we had before culminating in a semi-casual meet up, I'm going in cocky funny, I'm going to pull a few tricks to get comfort and familiarity but flirty so things don't go all AFC on my ass 3.GO! I start with something a bit cheeky like a tease (very obviously light hearted and funny) usually a joke which we had at the first meet, if you can't tease try something appropriate from the cornucopia of openers available on the net .Consider: Any HB8+ and many social HB7.5s normally have a plethora of text flirts under their belt. About 75% of those will begin thus "~How are you/hows your day been/wat u up2?" By all means go for the standard lines but jeeze don't expect good game 4.FRaME conTrOL. This is the biggy and really its not a specific move to pull more a style in which to play which straddle 3, 5 and 6. You need to be the one setting the presidents here. She asks you whether you work out for example (haven't had this myself but it does happen) you spin it into role reversal (5, below) with a "I hope you're not only interested in me for my pretty face and manly physique". 5. ROLE REVERSAL. You know how the pros always go on about getting girls to chase you? Well this is simply that. With the C&F vibe going its easy at points to introduce the idea that she is chasing you. If you've got her laughing along well enough then throw in a "I hope your not chatting me up 6. ESCALATE. Now you should turn on the flirt i.e., get a bit suggestive, throw in a few minor ISIs and build it all up till you feel your a little way from hitting peek interest THEN get her NO if you're fbing. . I've now got to a point where I can get quite a few girls to ask for my number/contact details from the internet (not that thats and achievement or anything 7.MEET. Day 2s shouldn't be explicit DATES per se, rather a casual meet. I find the best day 2s are where you invite the girl along to accompany you round town on a few errands. This is very mystery method esque in that you're going in a little under the radar. You should indicate that you are going to do what ever it is anyway making it clear she is joining YOU on your grounds doing your thing (Alpha stuff blabla). Any how this is not a guide to day 2s and I don't yet feel qualified enough to give day 2 guides but...meh. If she says no, don't sweat just carry on flirting and try again in the same way later. Rejection can often be dealt with by inviting her to a group thing, much more safe etc... I'm doing it again! I know this doesn't explicitly answer your question but the materiel the other guys have given you combined with this guide should see you through now and forever more. Text game like any game is one that requires skills attainable via practice, but because you've got time on your hands to think up a response you can apply a lot of game rules much more smoothly than say during a cold approach. Feel free to critique everybody EDIT: Regarding frame control flipping roles etc, when asking her to give you some interesting detail about herself always spice it up a bit so it doesn't seem to judging. |
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| Author: | Mantis- [ Sun Jun 10, 2012 4:02 pm ] |
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Quote: I'd suggest A) Stop using the emoticons, especially :L. Occasional
This, You are trying way and way to hard. B) Don't try so hard, you have to make her believe she's the honoured one speaking to you, cut her off with sorry gotta go meeting so and so.. C) Freeze her for a couple of days then start a fresh. That's what I would do anyway.. I honestly stopped at the 3rd or 4th line. I found it boring and mainstream what I read. You dont want to get to know her better over text, you want to establish a d2. Ask yourself: why am I texting her? If the only answer is: to get to know her better, you are doing it wrong. If she initiates talking on the other hand, just talk to her imo. This however is not the case here. |
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| Author: | poeticlyskuac [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 1:55 am ] |
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Quote: Hmm ok...
As with any form of game text game is about picking a specific goal and heading off in that direction along the most suitable path. Whilst it should be viewed as just a game i.e., you can hit restart every time you crash and burn and you shouldn't feel a lot of emotional pressure to get any outcome (this mentality is the most effective cure for AA by the by My credential? Three months back consistently flaked upon by no more than 6.5s, Now? Bar the occasional missed beat consistently get flirty and when I feel like it dirty by 5th text or so (often haven't even met the girl). My advice: 1. GOAL. You need to decide what your aim is so you have a direction to head in whether your set on a day 2 or day 1 if you haven't met. To maintain interest you should always try to lead up to a meet. 2. Select PATH. So say I'm gaming a HB8, I've met her once casually through a mutual friend I want to get a day 2. To make my life easier I would always have initiated with a flirty C&F vibe when we met as I find this is the best way to be in text game initially. Ok, I'm gonna try to build attraction/interest here working on what we had before culminating in a semi-casual meet up, I'm going in cocky funny, I'm going to pull a few tricks to get comfort and familiarity but flirty so things don't go all AFC on my ass 3.GO! I start with something a bit cheeky like a tease (very obviously light hearted and funny) usually a joke which we had at the first meet, if you can't tease try something appropriate from the cornucopia of openers available on the net .Consider: Any HB8+ and many social HB7.5s normally have a plethora of text flirts under their belt. About 75% of those will begin thus "~How are you/hows your day been/wat u up2?" By all means go for the standard lines but jeeze don't expect good game 4.FRaME conTrOL. This is the biggy and really its not a specific move to pull more a style in which to play which straddle 3, 5 and 6. You need to be the one setting the presidents here. She asks you whether you work out for example (haven't had this myself but it does happen) you spin it into role reversal (5, below) with a "I hope you're not only interested in me for my pretty face and manly physique". 5. ROLE REVERSAL. You know how the pros always go on about getting girls to chase you? Well this is simply that. With the C&F vibe going its easy at points to introduce the idea that she is chasing you. If you've got her laughing along well enough then throw in a "I hope your not chatting me up 6. ESCALATE. Now you should turn on the flirt i.e., get a bit suggestive, throw in a few minor ISIs and build it all up till you feel your a little way from hitting peek interest THEN get her NO if you're fbing. . I've now got to a point where I can get quite a few girls to ask for my number/contact details from the internet (not that thats and achievement or anything 7.MEET. Day 2s shouldn't be explicit DATES per se, rather a casual meet. I find the best day 2s are where you invite the girl along to accompany you round town on a few errands. This is very mystery method esque in that you're going in a little under the radar. You should indicate that you are going to do what ever it is anyway making it clear she is joining YOU on your grounds doing your thing (Alpha stuff blabla). Any how this is not a guide to day 2s and I don't yet feel qualified enough to give day 2 guides but...meh. If she says no, don't sweat just carry on flirting and try again in the same way later. Rejection can often be dealt with by inviting her to a group thing, much more safe etc... I'm doing it again! I know this doesn't explicitly answer your question but the materiel the other guys have given you combined with this guide should see you through now and forever more. Text game like any game is one that requires skills attainable via practice, but because you've got time on your hands to think up a response you can apply a lot of game rules much more smoothly than say during a cold approach. Feel free to critique everybody EDIT: Regarding frame control flipping roles etc, when asking her to give you some interesting detail about herself always spice it up a bit so it doesn't seem to judging. This is very well put! Exactly! All the advice is good. Immediately get rid of your emoticon habit, 02 was spot on. You looked needy. She started off interested(asked questions) but than just got crappy hahas and all the basics. This means you became boring. One good thing, she never stopped responding. In fact, I'd say she is interested in you but not the conversation. She shows a lot of submissive language. Avoid using your interests in a conversation(really football last name?), switch to hers. You looked for her interests, but really you just put her on the spot. Seeking out her interests is as easy as just being fun, rather than forcing an answer. You need more sexual flirting. There was a great thread put up here about the use of the words You and I. A sign of leadership and alpha is using the words You, We, and Our. I represents a beta male. Eliminate I and go for you, it will make you look better. More alpha and less beta. This is one think you should definitely change in your language pattern. |
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| Author: | Diegoazul10 [ Mon Jun 18, 2012 4:35 am ] |
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Are you all saying text messaging Is nothing more than just logistics when it comes to Seducing women Meaning it could only be used to transition To something else like a phone call or A date Therefore having a full on conversation with A girl on text is not the way to Go? Ok then so how can we quickly transition? Once I get the girl on text When can I make the transition to a phone call ? In the End I think text messages are pretty dull My buddy says that once you have a girl On POF talking to you gotta quickly ask their Number or something Or they will "get bored" |
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