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| Author: | Gaia_16 [ Sat May 26, 2012 9:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Did she tell her freinds about me? |
Hey guys! I´ve been playing this girl who I´m kind of into, we dated last week and it went great! Today I called her to ask her out and she was with some friends and one of them shouted: "You can´t go out with her until I meet you haha" and they were all laughing and stuff. Is that good? does it mean she has told them of me? |
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| Author: | jacklei [ Sun May 27, 2012 9:03 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Did she tell her freinds about me? |
Quote: Is that good? does it mean she has told them of me?
it means you have positive status in her social circle which means its all good for you unless you mess it up being all AFC in her circle... girls talk and they talk.... so she definitely told her about you and if she was teasing her that means you have green signal dude.. rock on |
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| Author: | samex [ Sun May 27, 2012 6:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Did she tell her freinds about me? |
Quote: Quote: Is that good? does it mean she has told them of me?
it means you have positive status in her social circle which means its all good for you unless you mess it up being all AFC in her circle... girls talk and they talk.... so she definitely told her about you and if she was teasing her that means you have green signal dude.. rock on 
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| Author: | Gaia_16 [ Mon May 28, 2012 11:05 pm ] |
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Thanks guys! that really does cheer me up. I was starting to get oneitis with this one :s It sucks, because it´s exactly when you get it when you begin making crutial mistakes that affect your game! Oneitis sucks! Luckily I was able to fight it haha I´ll keep on gaming her anyways, hope everething goes fine. |
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| Author: | vcwriter [ Tue May 29, 2012 12:36 am ] |
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If her friend is trying to get in the middle of the situation, it means you created some kind of attraction between you and her. (If she wasn't into you at all, her friend wouldn't need to do anything.) Sometimes this can be a full on cockblock, which means she doesn't like you. In this case, she just wants to check you out. They probably talked, or her friend could read between the lines. That's a good thing. The girl is attracted to you, and her friend is cautious but optimistic. "Not yet" means "yes" as long as you're patient. |
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| Author: | Gaia_16 [ Wed May 30, 2012 5:01 am ] |
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Thanks guys! @Vcwriter is it ok if I sometimes feel very unsure aboyt my game even when I´ve done things the right way? I´m pretty sure that is because of the oneitis, is it or does it happen to every player once? |
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| Author: | vcwriter [ Sat Jun 02, 2012 7:23 am ] |
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Quote: Thanks guys!
When it feels new, it will be like that. You'll do something, and it might feel like you just jumped out of a plane for the first time, and you think your parachute might not open. But once it works and you land safely, you don't worry about it anymore. You trust that you know what you're doing. You even get to a point where you've had some success, and so failure doesn't bruise your ego like someone who *needs* to have women's approval.
@Vcwriter is it ok if I sometimes feel very unsure aboyt my game even when I´ve done things the right way? I´m pretty sure that is because of the oneitis, is it or does it happen to every player once? |
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| Author: | Conker [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 2:17 am ] |
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There's a lot in this statement, more than vcwriter suggested. What just happened was mega points for you, dude. Her friend just called you both out on the situation - it looks like you guys are going to"date". That's normally a fucking embarrassing thing to say. She wouldn't have said that in front of her friend, while she was on the phone to you, so that you could both hear it, unless she knew her friend was already thinking about seeing you again, a lot more. So yes they've talked, and her friend is making light of what is already a good situation, and in a way, letting you know she wants this for her friend - to meet a cool guy. She's also saying she wants to meet you. Super points. In a joking way, she's letting you know you're being welcomed into their little friend circle. And yes, so that she can suss you out. But it's more a formality. As long as you're still being the guy that got this girl interested, things will go well. People want something that looks like a good thing, to actually be a good thing. You're already in a positive light. And the fact that they both laughed when her friend said that is good. She was comfortable enough about that joke that she didn't even protest. She just laughed and let it slide. Don't take what she said as something super positive or negative as to what's about to happen. She's just calling it out on what it currently looks like. As long as you keep moving forward with what you were doing, independent of what this girl said, you'll be fine. A good idea would be to call out her friend on what she said, eg. "She's a live one... I'm watching her." "Is she usually trouble?? Geez..." etc. that kind of thing. It's likely the kind of statement that needs diffusing, to break the tension (the implication that you want to "go out with her"), or a good bit of material to make a joke about. I imagine, from what you said (and this may differ from reality) that now that that phone conversation is over, the next meet up will be with her and her friends, and you can bring up as a funny story "...we were talking on the phone, and her friend says YOU CAN'T GO OUT WITH HER TILL YOU MEET ME! Geez!" but of course you should do whatever feels natural to you. But when you call her out on it, you should neither confirm or deny her statement, it keeps things interesting and it's probably too early days for that kind of talk. And even if you were being pressed for this information, eg. "sooo, are you going to go out with her?" You'd still diffuse it, bring the attention to the statement itself "Wow, what is this, Larry King?" or "You're really keen to know! Why?", maybe she answers some boyfriends in the past have been trouble, and then you can use that as a conversation topic - what was that guy like, what he should/shouldn't have done, what a guy should do, some funny stories of bad boyfriends you've heard, etc. still without answering that question. It's more important that you show confidence in your response, rather than answering directly. Your confidence is the answer they're looking for. Of course you have to always practice being truly confident and not hiding behind an act of bravado, which never works. If you're calm and just doing what you were already doing, you'll be fine. |
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| Author: | JF [ Sun Jun 03, 2012 10:13 am ] |
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I agree with everyone else, kudos for you man. I do think she's into you. And if she told them about you, well women do talk about almost everything with each other is my opinion. They might even text each other while there in the same room just to gossip about you (that is if your also in that room ofcourse). |
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