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| Author: | stupidface [ Wed Feb 29, 2012 6:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Wanting Expert Advice on Messed up Situation |
Hey fellas, long time casual reader of the forums, but never felt the need to ever post or join the club. I hope you can forgive me though, b/c I am in need of some insight for understanding a weird situation. You seem like the experts with this sort of stuff, so I defer to you. Also, this is long. Sorry. Skip to the bottom if you don't want to read the story/background. BACKGROUND Currently I am away from home finishing up a professional degree. I have a lady back home waiting for me, so while I'm attached, the distance has noticeably weakened the bond for me. Please don’t judge me. I’m just being honest about the circumstances of my life right now. STORY SATURDAY NIGHT One of the women in my cohort recently invited me over to dinner; I was actually apprehensive about going over (and I assume she must have sensed it) b/c she even said a few times that she "doesn't want to have sex with me nor even see me in that way". Either way, my gut was telling me otherwise. I still went over, figuring she just wanted to make me some dins cuz she felt bad for poor lonesome me (though she dropped hints that she was lonely too?!?). Anyways, she made me dinner, we hung out and drank, snorted a couple lines, she told me about some of her deep dark secrets; then she got changed and we went to the bar; mid-way into drinking at the bar, she comes onto me and starts tonguing me. Didn't see it coming and wasn't planning on things going there. This happened a number of times and each time I halted it. Not sure why. I could tell she was pretty loaded and decided it was time to go home. We go outside and catch a cab. Go back to her place. I'm not even sure how it happened, but I'm pretty sure she initiated, and we wound up boning. SUNDAY MORNING Next morning we're both awake and we're spooning and fooling around with the idea of having sex again. We kiss, there's some rubbing, that sort of shit, but she keep's saying how bad this is and if we do it again, it'll "count". I was hesitant myself and if I had moved faster, it would have happened. This was over a period of at least an hour, probably two. Anyways, she gets a text from her ex-bf and he says he's coming over b/c he’s a bit of a freak. So I have to get dressed and fuck off. I leave by saying "don't get weird, alright?” Nice touch. I know. THE FOLLOWING MONDAY We work in the same area and communicate via the online mssging system a lot. On Monday she mssgs me and we talk about everything. She says she feels horrible, doesn't remember anything, and is upset at having slept with me because she "doesn't even think about me in that way". I said we should meet up face to face to talk and try to regain some normalcy, so we're doing lunch tomorrow. WHY I’M HERE Can anyone here give me some insight into her behavior? It's fucking confusing as shit. I've noticed for awhile now that this girl's body language towards me has always been very open and positive. In fact, if it weren’t for her constant refrain of "I don't want to fuck you/I don't think of you like that”, I'd very much assume she wanted to bang me. But there could be other explanations... She's seeing a guy, but nothing too serious, though she says she feels bad b/c it will make him jealous/untrusting; and she feels bad for me b/c I have a woman back home (though she knows the relationship is on the rocks) and what occurred might compromise our friendship. She doesn’t blame me for anything (so she says). She has invited me out before, though I declined (actually had shit I needed to get done). Personally, I don't regret anything except the shitty drunken sex and not boning again the next day. Total missed opportunity. The comedown from the coke was also a total mind fuck, but it's fine now. WHERE YOU COME IN I would love to hear some experienced PUA opinions on this situation: is she playing coy? Is the "I'm not attracted to you" stuff something I should take seriously? I’m trying to navigate a bit of a minefield here, between wrecking a relationship permanently or missing an opportunity for other things. This isn't "oneitis" and I can easily let it go, but I can't help being curious about the potential outcomes. I'm thinking of trying to get her to come out or hang out with me in the near future and to escalate, but I'm not sure if this is a wise choice. I don't mind being rejected, but b/c she's also a friend and sort of a co-worker (we work in different branches), I don't want to trash that. |
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| Author: | PurpleSmash [ Wed Feb 29, 2012 6:46 am ] |
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Sounds like buyer's remorse. She still wants to see you, so she is still interested, but she's checking to see if you're fine with just being friends, aka handing your balls over. If you are, then go and be her friend. Otherwise tell her you can't be "just friends" with someone you've slept with. If she keeps contacting you after that, read between the lines and realize she wants to fuck. Then go give her what she wants. |
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