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Guys!

I have ADD and because of it I have difficulties because I have no idea what to talk about with a HBon date, like we just sit there and stare at each other and she's not saying anything.

So I was trying to come up with a script of fun things to talk about to fill the time before the end of the date (which I consider the meat and potatoes of the date).
Help me put more stuff on here so I can just keep it opened up on my phone as the date progresses so I don't forget anything.

1. Talk about how she looks cute in person 1 minute
2. Talk about where you shop 1 minute
2. Talk about how much better she is than your last date 1 minute
3. Talk about how was her travel to the place of date 1 minute
4. Lie her that you attended some party to increase your DHV 1 minute
5. Make up a story about some crazy friend of yours 1 minute
6. Ask about her friends and the place she likes to hang out 1 minute
7. Ask her about her to show you her favourite dance 1 minute
8. Talk about food at the place you're taking her 1 minute
9. Ask if she cooks her fav food etc. 2 minutes
10. Tell her you want her to cook you some food 1 minute
11.Talk about where she lives, her job etc. 3 minutes
12.Ask her if she ever got hazed in sorrority 2 minutes
14 Tell her some fake story about you being in a fraternity 1 minute
15.Talk about her family 1 minute
16.Talk about vacations (listen her blabbering how she wants to go to europe) 3 minutes.
17. Lie you visited europe 1 minute
18. Lie you will take her to europe 1 minute
19. Tell her how to visualize how great it will be to visit some spa (to put her in NLP trance) 1 minute
20.Talk about polictics 2 min
21.Talk about her plans for the future 3 mins
22. Do the cube technique 5 mins
23. Palm reading: 2 mins
24. Ask what is she doing next week 1 min
25. Ask if she want to go bowling next week 1 min
26. Talk about movies/video games 1 min

Ok so I have enough stuff to talk about for 40 mins, can you recommend some routines to fill up the remaining 1hr 20 mins to at least kill 2 hours ?

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Wow, first of all, never follow a script. This is ridiculous. Even if you plan ahead and manage to remember the script, it will never go the way you planned it. A conversation doesn't work like that. You need to listen to her, she's giving you information to work with, and you either comment on it (relate, critique, whatever) or ask interesting questions about it. This goes on back and forth between the two of you. You are not interrogating her.
It's good to have some routines and topics stacked so you can pull something when the conversation gets stuck, but those should be actual routines and not random questions. Usually the only things I stack are 2-3 DHV stories (interesting/funny ones) a game or two, and maybe some cold reading routine like The Cube. But seriously 99% of what you say isn't scripted.

Also, there are a lot of things here that I wouldn't recommend discussing on the first date. Most of it is just small talk, some are lies that you cannot possibly get away with (traveling to Europe, really?) and some is just straight up creepy.

I don't want to discuss any specific lines, but seriously you just need to CHILL. Chances are after this date is over you'll laugh at yourself for trying so hard to script everything. Just relax, if she's meeting you she's already interested and invested. Just flow with it and focus on having a good time.

I wrote in my post I don't plan on memorizing it, Ill just pull it up on my phone so I can use it as a memorandum, if you will.

Having natural convo doesn't seem to work I already went on 5 dates and HBs tend to be very shallow and vapid have nothing to say most of the time.

Author:	SuperSajin [ Thu Feb 23, 2012 1:04 am ]
Post subject:	Help w/ routine: I Run out of Things to talk about!
Guys! I have ADD and because of it I have difficulties because I have no idea what to talk about with a HBon date, like we just sit there and stare at each other and she's not saying anything. So I was trying to come up with a script of fun things to talk about to fill the time before the end of the date (which I consider the meat and potatoes of the date). Help me put more stuff on here so I can just keep it opened up on my phone as the date progresses so I don't forget anything. 1. Talk about how she looks cute in person 1 minute 2. Talk about where you shop 1 minute 2. Talk about how much better she is than your last date 1 minute 3. Talk about how was her travel to the place of date 1 minute 4. Lie her that you attended some party to increase your DHV 1 minute 5. Make up a story about some crazy friend of yours 1 minute 6. Ask about her friends and the place she likes to hang out 1 minute 7. Ask her about her to show you her favourite dance 1 minute 8. Talk about food at the place you're taking her 1 minute 9. Ask if she cooks her fav food etc. 2 minutes 10. Tell her you want her to cook you some food 1 minute 11.Talk about where she lives, her job etc. 3 minutes 12.Ask her if she ever got hazed in sorrority 2 minutes 14 Tell her some fake story about you being in a fraternity 1 minute 15.Talk about her family 1 minute 16.Talk about vacations (listen her blabbering how she wants to go to europe) 3 minutes. 17. Lie you visited europe 1 minute 18. Lie you will take her to europe 1 minute 19. Tell her how to visualize how great it will be to visit some spa (to put her in NLP trance) 1 minute 20.Talk about polictics 2 min 21.Talk about her plans for the future 3 mins 22. Do the cube technique 5 mins 23. Palm reading: 2 mins 24. Ask what is she doing next week 1 min 25. Ask if she want to go bowling next week 1 min 26. Talk about movies/video games 1 min Ok so I have enough stuff to talk about for 40 mins, can you recommend some routines to fill up the remaining 1hr 20 mins to at least kill 2 hours ?

Author:	Richmaster [ Thu Feb 23, 2012 2:12 am ]
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music

Author:	needlz [ Thu Feb 23, 2012 10:36 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Help w/ routine: I Run out of Things to talk about!
Quote: Guys! I have ADD and because of it I have difficulties because I have no idea what to talk about with a HBon date, like we just sit there and stare at each other and she's not saying anything. So I was trying to come up with a script of fun things to talk about to fill the time before the end of the date (which I consider the meat and potatoes of the date). Help me put more stuff on here so I can just keep it opened up on my phone as the date progresses so I don't forget anything. 1. Talk about how she looks cute in person 1 minute 2. Talk about where you shop 1 minute 2. Talk about how much better she is than your last date 1 minute 3. Talk about how was her travel to the place of date 1 minute 4. Lie her that you attended some party to increase your DHV 1 minute 5. Make up a story about some crazy friend of yours 1 minute 6. Ask about her friends and the place she likes to hang out 1 minute 7. Ask her about her to show you her favourite dance 1 minute 8. Talk about food at the place you're taking her 1 minute 9. Ask if she cooks her fav food etc. 2 minutes 10. Tell her you want her to cook you some food 1 minute 11.Talk about where she lives, her job etc. 3 minutes 12.Ask her if she ever got hazed in sorrority 2 minutes 14 Tell her some fake story about you being in a fraternity 1 minute 15.Talk about her family 1 minute 16.Talk about vacations (listen her blabbering how she wants to go to europe) 3 minutes. 17. Lie you visited europe 1 minute 18. Lie you will take her to europe 1 minute 19. Tell her how to visualize how great it will be to visit some spa (to put her in NLP trance) 1 minute 20.Talk about polictics 2 min 21.Talk about her plans for the future 3 mins 22. Do the cube technique 5 mins 23. Palm reading: 2 mins 24. Ask what is she doing next week 1 min 25. Ask if she want to go bowling next week 1 min 26. Talk about movies/video games 1 min Ok so I have enough stuff to talk about for 40 mins, can you recommend some routines to fill up the remaining 1hr 20 mins to at least kill 2 hours ? Wow, first of all, never follow a script. This is ridiculous. Even if you plan ahead and manage to remember the script, it will never go the way you planned it. A conversation doesn't work like that. You need to listen to her, she's giving you information to work with, and you either comment on it (relate, critique, whatever) or ask interesting questions about it. This goes on back and forth between the two of you. You are not interrogating her. It's good to have some routines and topics stacked so you can pull something when the conversation gets stuck, but those should be actual routines and not random questions. Usually the only things I stack are 2-3 DHV stories (interesting/funny ones) a game or two, and maybe some cold reading routine like The Cube. But seriously 99% of what you say isn't scripted. Also, there are a lot of things here that I wouldn't recommend discussing on the first date. Most of it is just small talk, some are lies that you cannot possibly get away with (traveling to Europe, really?) and some is just straight up creepy. I don't want to discuss any specific lines, but seriously you just need to CHILL. Chances are after this date is over you'll laugh at yourself for trying so hard to script everything. Just relax, if she's meeting you she's already interested and invested. Just flow with it and focus on having a good time.

Author:	C1PH3R [ Thu Feb 23, 2012 11:17 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Help w/ routine: I Run out of Things to talk about!
Quote: Quote: Guys! I have ADD and because of it I have difficulties because I have no idea what to talk about with a HBon date, like we just sit there and stare at each other and she's not saying anything. So I was trying to come up with a script of fun things to talk about to fill the time before the end of the date (which I consider the meat and potatoes of the date). Help me put more stuff on here so I can just keep it opened up on my phone as the date progresses so I don't forget anything. 1. Talk about how she looks cute in person 1 minute 2. Talk about where you shop 1 minute 2. Talk about how much better she is than your last date 1 minute 3. Talk about how was her travel to the place of date 1 minute 4. Lie her that you attended some party to increase your DHV 1 minute 5. Make up a story about some crazy friend of yours 1 minute 6. Ask about her friends and the place she likes to hang out 1 minute 7. Ask her about her to show you her favourite dance 1 minute 8. Talk about food at the place you're taking her 1 minute 9. Ask if she cooks her fav food etc. 2 minutes 10. Tell her you want her to cook you some food 1 minute 11.Talk about where she lives, her job etc. 3 minutes 12.Ask her if she ever got hazed in sorrority 2 minutes 14 Tell her some fake story about you being in a fraternity 1 minute 15.Talk about her family 1 minute 16.Talk about vacations (listen her blabbering how she wants to go to europe) 3 minutes. 17. Lie you visited europe 1 minute 18. Lie you will take her to europe 1 minute 19. Tell her how to visualize how great it will be to visit some spa (to put her in NLP trance) 1 minute 20.Talk about polictics 2 min 21.Talk about her plans for the future 3 mins 22. Do the cube technique 5 mins 23. Palm reading: 2 mins 24. Ask what is she doing next week 1 min 25. Ask if she want to go bowling next week 1 min 26. Talk about movies/video games 1 min Ok so I have enough stuff to talk about for 40 mins, can you recommend some routines to fill up the remaining 1hr 20 mins to at least kill 2 hours ? Wow, first of all, never follow a script. This is ridiculous. Even if you plan ahead and manage to remember the script, it will never go the way you planned it. A conversation doesn't work like that. You need to listen to her, she's giving you information to work with, and you either comment on it (relate, critique, whatever) or ask interesting questions about it. This goes on back and forth between the two of you. You are not interrogating her. It's good to have some routines and topics stacked so you can pull something when the conversation gets stuck, but those should be actual routines and not random questions. Usually the only things I stack are 2-3 DHV stories (interesting/funny ones) a game or two, and maybe some cold reading routine like The Cube. But seriously 99% of what you say isn't scripted. Also, there are a lot of things here that I wouldn't recommend discussing on the first date. Most of it is just small talk, some are lies that you cannot possibly get away with (traveling to Europe, really?) and some is just straight up creepy. I don't want to discuss any specific lines, but seriously you just need to CHILL. Chances are after this date is over you'll laugh at yourself for trying so hard to script everything. Just relax, if she's meeting you she's already interested and invested. Just flow with it and focus on having a good time. Completely agreed. Also even if you manage to remember everything, you can tell ONS's BS, but don't do that with a girl you are actually on a date with. What if it turns out really well? Someday she will find out you lied to her about yourself and you don't want that mate. First try to achieve inner game. It's way easier if you are confident so you won't worry as much about it. If that still doesn't work, read some basic psychology books on conversation.

Author:	SuperSajin [ Thu Feb 23, 2012 2:03 pm ]
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I wrote in my post I don't plan on memorizing it, Ill just pull it up on my phone so I can use it as a memorandum, if you will. Having natural convo doesn't seem to work I already went on 5 dates and HBs tend to be very shallow and vapid have nothing to say most of the time.

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Author:	C1PH3R [ Thu Feb 23, 2012 4:03 pm ]
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Quote: I wrote in my post I don't plan on memorizing it, Ill just pull it up on my phone so I can use it as a memorandum, if you will. Having natural convo doesn't seem to work I already went on 5 dates and HBs tend to be very shallow and vapid have nothing to say most of the time. Maybe you should change social circles then, I know lots of smart HB's..

Author:	puasmooth [ Sun Feb 26, 2012 10:03 pm ]
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Then, go on a date where you don't have to talk non-stop: Movies, Walk in a park, sports bars, theater, concert, dance clubs, bowling, restaurant, etc etc.

Author:	C1PH3R [ Mon Feb 27, 2012 6:43 am ]
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What the hell do you do during a walk in the park or dinner in a restaurant then..?

Author:	Leo-Jed [ Mon Feb 27, 2012 4:06 pm ]
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I just thought of a great converstation topic to add to your list. Tell the girl about a guy you know that was so worried about keeping a conversation going that he created a big list of questions!.. on the list were little estimatations of how long each question should take. The funniest part is the questions are so mundane and boring I would have used it as a bed time story rather than try to create a stimulating conversations from it. I bet you get a good laugh! Dude seriously girls will get bored of questions being fired at them. Expecially if they are questions they get asked all the time. It will just turn into an interview. When it comes to conversation you have to get the fact that she's a girl out of your head. People in general love to express their opinions, debate deep topics, talk abou their feelings and have stories of their own from the past that they can't wait to tell you if the conversation is flowing. You voice toke has to be good. Use pauses and be excited and animated about what you are talking about. She will feed off of your energy. Make sure you're not talking her head off!. the fun part of a conversation is when you are both talking and LISTENING! The venues you choose are also very important.

Author:	SuperSajin [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 5:30 pm ]
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hate if u want, f# - closed a HB6 on the 1st date with this stuff.

Author:	Leo-Jed [ Thu Mar 01, 2012 6:04 pm ]
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Good to hear well done!

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