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| Author: | Junglepimp [ Fri Jan 21, 2011 6:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | She wont let me BREAK UP! |
Okay, not putting you through the horror of having to listen to my story, in short my girlfriend is a bitch to me when we're together, and when breaking up she turns into little miss sweet and says all sweet stuff. This makes me weak and frustrated. The same girl who didn't give a Fuck 2 hours back is now all '' leave me if you must, all I care about is your happiness. I'll always love you. You're an amazing person. This was a beautiful relationship. You'll always have a place in my heart. I hope you'll take me back one day. ''. Either I end up saying bad shit after that, or I end up going emo or feeling like she's changed. I take her back. She gladly comes back. And again, I have to deal with a bitch who complains, sexually frustrates and makes me feel like a jerk. Why does she never break up? How do I break up with her and resist my temptations? |
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| Author: | Chelios [ Fri Jan 21, 2011 7:35 pm ] |
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Be a man, be honest, and tell her why your breaking up, face to face, let her know, your beyond games. Really isn't as hard as you think, especially if she makes you feel that way. Relationships should be 90% happiness and only 10% frustration, by arguments, etc. IMO. |
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| Author: | cedius [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 7:30 am ] |
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Quote: And again, I have to deal with a bitch who complains, sexually frustrates and makes me feel like a jerk.
You summed all of what you should do here!Look at it this way...how long has this behavior been going on...TOO long perhaps. Will it change...Fuk no! She knows if she says some sweet things, she hopes you will forgive her and take her back. It's a game to her and you are her YO-YO. If you aren't happy, move on...you are staying because its a comfort. You don't want to move on and start all over with someone new...but it's not as bad as you think. After being away from her for abit, you will miss her and that's where you need to be strong. I was in a similar relationship just like you before...regardless of how unloved I felt at times...when things were at a good point...I didn't care, I would deal with it in hopes that things would get better but I was deceiving myself, it bothered me to a point to where I woke up and said...I need to move on. It was hard...but I am much more happier! I miss her still, but I'm not frustrated anymore. Am I happier, yes. Do what you feel is right, understand that this wont change...you will grow tired and then finally leave...BUT...you need to decide that and you will know when you are ready. Realize that you were in this for a reason and there is nothing you can do for not doing it sooner. Learn from this. Every failed relationship, whether it was you or her...learn from it, dissect what went wrong so you don't make the same mistakes again if it was you. If it was her...then look for the signs that began to make you think...whoa...this chick is (fill in the blank), do I really want this? Either way...good luck Good luck. |
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| Author: | Junglepimp [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 8:18 am ] |
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Keeping in mind what you've all suggested, This is what I'll say to her guys: ''The whole episode, I can't get over it. The 'deflation' moment. The fact that you used our physical connection as a tool of revenge (won't get intimate with someone who doesn't talk) just because I was a little busy... The thought of touching you repulses me, disinterests me. Spoke to Priyanka (idk if i should have, but I did. She understands me the best I feel) and she said that I shouldn't give you what my integrity doesn't permit, even if it means not giving you time. And I'm afraid, scenario won't change. It.. Yeah. Won't. Can't. I'm tired of being used as a yo-yo. Having a lil miss sweet during breakup, and the same old Aishwarya after patch up. BUT... Logically you'll ask, how is it even a relationship when there's no talking and seeing each other. And the answer is, it isn't''. |
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| Author: | bvanevery [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 9:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wont let me BREAK UP! |
Quote: How do I break up with her and resist my temptations?
Do it, do it clean, and do it now. "Clean" means NO contact with her afterwards. You can make any breakup speech you want to her, hurl any accusations you want, if it will give you a sense of closure or empowerment. But once you've done that you are DONE. No more going back to the shit trough.You have been a door mat. If you don't know what a "door mat" is, go look it up. The reason you get back with her is you want to go back to being a door mat again. Try to understand why you were a door mat. That will give you strength to resist becoming a door mat again. If you don't face the psychology of your situation with brutal honesty, you're not going to overcome it. Channel Oprah and her audience of bitches. Listen to them telling you to "respect yourself" and stop taking shit. If you want to be an emotionally healthy person, you have to insist on a baseline of emotional health with any person you get involved with. If they've got too much baggage, shoot 'em down early and often. Being single is definitely better than having someone mess with your emotions. |
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| Author: | Junglepimp [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 10:38 am ] |
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I do want it to be over, by all means. I just don't know how to start again. She's in her own happy world, not aware of what I'm going through. The problem I have is that I've tried two times now... Then taken her back. And it makes me look stupid. Like someone who is so not in control of his emotions that he changes his decision every second moment. |
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| Author: | bvanevery [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 10:53 am ] |
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Quote: I do want it to be over, by all means. I just don't know how to start again.
By going out on the town, using the personals, trying out gender balanced hobbies, and/or getting your friends to fix you up. How can you be on this site and "not know how" to start?Quote: She's in her own happy world, not aware of what I'm going through.
Irrelevant. You cut her off CLEAN.Quote:
The problem I have is that I've tried two times now... Then taken her back. And it makes me look stupid. Like someone who is so not in control of his emotions that he changes his decision every second moment.
Look up "door mat." Do your homework. If you don't understand what a door mat is, you will continue to be one.
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| Author: | Junglepimp [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 11:57 am ] |
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I meant how can I start the breakup talk again without sounding stupid... The after breakup phase is something I'll deal with later. I looked doormat up. Matches me. |
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| Author: | Little Panda [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 12:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wont let me BREAK UP! |
Quote: Why does she never break up? And because you're the one breaking up with her, you give her the image that you don't need her . . . something that she can't accept. Quote: How do I break up with her and resist my temptations? |
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| Author: | Junglepimp [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 12:36 pm ] |
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From what I'm going through, here's a suggestion guys. Never date a passive aggressive chick. A highly insecure one. It seems good at first. You can easily dominate her. But when she comes into action and does things to get attention or revenge, boy, you're fucked. I wonder if love-hate relations, full of ego, even work in the long run.... |
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| Author: | Junglepimp [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 12:39 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wont let me BREAK UP! |
Quote: Quote: Why does she never break up? And because you're the one breaking up with her, you give her the image that you don't need her . . . something that she can't accept. Quote: How do I break up with her and resist my temptations? Second part, didn't get ya.. |
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| Author: | Junglepimp [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 5:51 pm ] |
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BROKEN UP. Finally. Don't feel guilty. I feel free. I hope I continue to. Time to read some after-breakup tips! |
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| Author: | AFCJimmyDoyle [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 6:10 pm ] |
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Quote: BROKEN UP. Finally. Don't feel guilty. I feel free. I hope I continue to. Time to read some after-breakup tips!
How did you do it then? I want to see if it is PUA game worthy?  Better not have but on your wife-beater and necked some Stella! |
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| Author: | cedius [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 8:27 pm ] |
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Quote: If you want to be an emotionally healthy person, you have to insist on a baseline of emotional health with any person you get involved with.
That was great...going to be my next FB quote of the day!Don't worry about her, take care of yourself...in the end, you are who you need to make happy. You will be better off sooner and relish what's to come later! You may go through some phases where you are going to want to call or text her...don't... that is very AFC-ish and if you do....you may as well hand her your balls as well. Be strong...don't look back and learn from this. Good luck....I think you will realize very soon you made a wise choice. |
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| Author: | bvanevery [ Sun Jan 23, 2011 7:52 am ] |
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Quote: BROKEN UP. Finally. Don't feel guilty. I feel free. I hope I continue to. Time to read some after-breakup tips!
Congrats!
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