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Author:  P1nkstar [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 11:36 am ]
Post subject:  Attraction inside relationship, discuss!? :)
Good afternoon...

Well, as we all know, we initiate a relationship with attraction....
after a couple of months the 2 people know eachother...
they state they love eachother...

What happens to attraction in this phase...!? Apparently it's still there...
Apparently you made a connection then and the attraction is harder to lose...?

I know it's good to get that sparking again once in a while... but are there effective ways of doing this... I don't really want to start a fight for nothing just to get attraction pumping... Teasing seems less effective...?

Eventually, i want to make my girls head even more crazy... that's where i'm after...

I would love to have ur point of views on this one, cuase it's been bugging me for a while! :D

P1nkstar
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 11:47 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Attraction inside relationship, discuss!? :)
Quote:
Good afternoon...

Well, as we all know, we initiate a relationship with attraction....
after a couple of months the 2 people know eachother...
they state they love eachother...

What happens to attraction in this phase...!? Apparently it's still there...
Apparently you made a connection then and the attraction is harder to lose...?

I know it's good to get that sparking again once in a while... but are there effective ways of doing this... I don't really want to start a fight for nothing just to get attraction pumping... Teasing seems less effective...?

Eventually, i want to make my girls head even more crazy... that's where i'm after...

I would love to have ur point of views on this one, cuase it's been bugging me for a while! :D

P1nkstar
If you're asking about re-igniting attraction after you've been going out a while, then just keep things interesting by mixing it up, keeping her guessing, doing things that are spontaneous and being a dominant leader, especially in the bedroom.

Starting a fight just for the sake of angry make-up sex, to be honest isn't such a bad idea ;-)

If you do actually love her, then making her "more crazy" isn't something you should be wanting to do. Unless you mean more crazy in love with you. In which case, just telling her to meet you at a certain place and time, to dress sexy, and keeping everything mysterious, and then taking her on an impromptu date, maybe a picnic in the park at night, or on a relive-your-childhood date to the carnival in town followed by ice cream, or something like that.
Author:  P1nkstar [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 2:37 pm ]
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Nice! We got mystery, Being Alpha...

Alpha i think you must always be, mystery, going to try this...

Periods of no contact?

Thanks for fast reply!
Author:  Fin [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 10:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Attraction inside relationship, discuss!? :)
Quote:
Good afternoon...

Well, as we all know, we initiate a relationship with attraction....
after a couple of months the 2 people know eachother...
they state they love eachother...

What happens to attraction in this phase...!? Apparently it's still there...
Apparently you made a connection then and the attraction is harder to lose...?

I know it's good to get that sparking again once in a while... but are there effective ways of doing this... I don't really want to start a fight for nothing just to get attraction pumping... Teasing seems less effective...?

Eventually, i want to make my girls head even more crazy... that's where i'm after...

I would love to have ur point of views on this one, cuase it's been bugging me for a while! :D

P1nkstar
The mechanics of a Pick up are very different to the mechanics of a relationship.

As a relationship progress's the thrill ride can be kept by doing new, novel and fun things TOGETHER.

And this should NEVER be at the expense of the safety and comfort offered in a relaitonship.
Author:  poet1234 [ Thu Jan 20, 2011 1:33 pm ]
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Great answers above,here is a observation maybe a bit out of topic.Remember in a relationship there are 2 persons who are investing.You can't make it work if the other doesn't want it to work(some people just say: "i'm bored" and leave it at that) that doesn't mean you should not try ofc.Just remember you're not supposed to do it alone
If you bring something new in the relationship and it works(she supports you in this,and loves how you struggle to maintain attraction),it means she also wants it.
If you bring something new,and nothing changes(she isn't in the mood) well...that's not your fault
Girls like to surprise their boyfriends too,true story.
It doesn't have to be something that original,go somewhere where you have a memory(first date),take a weekend trip in the mountains,you know...As long as she complies there shouldn't be something to worry about.
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Periods of no contact?
I don't wanna be rude,but you sound like the pilot of a plane crashing
Author:  cedius [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 7:50 am ]
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Ok...my opinion and this is just from my experiences...

It has been the little things that attracted the most. Don't try too hard and don't look for a reaction, you will come off as having an agenda, not good, crash and burn.

Make small cheap dates around town. Any lakes around? Show her a little about the fun things you like. Want to flip it on her...tell her...I want to know you better, I'll drive, you tell me where you want to take me so I can get a feel for what you like...make it fun. Relationships are about getting to know one another and money is not needed to really ground the relationship. Check your local paper and tell her you have been wanting to check out a certain something. Listen for queues on things she is interested in and then surprise her...that goes over well, just don't do it too often, like an ace to really spice things up every so often.

Just know that the harder you try to keep the attraction...the faster you will lose it!
Author:  bvanevery [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 9:58 am ]
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Alpha i think you must always be,
Alpha my ass. Strong, yes. Never sublimate or efface yourself. Dominant, no. A relationship means you've got a partner; you will only go the long distance by communicating with your partner, and treating her like a partner. Treat her like "your bitch" and you may end up marrying her, having kids with her, divorcing her, and giving half your money to her. Because someday, she'll finally get a spine and stand up to you being an asshole. May take 3 years, may take 30, but she will. At that point you'll realize what a crock of shit all that "Alpha Male" stuff is for most of society. Not unless you're willing to go to the next level, and conquer a neighboring kingdom, have a harem, take many wives, become a cult leader, shun the younger males in your religion so they can't have your wives, kill those scheming for your throne, and all manner of really old school male competition.

"Alpha Male" is for getting you laid. Not for making you happy over the long haul. If all you're trying to do is to keep a sex partner interested for an extended period of time, that's not a relationship. That's just fucking, with some cordiality and social graces thrown into it. It's not what couples aspire to. Too much "Alpha Male" and you will lead an empty life of dominance and aggression. The world will call you on your bullshit sooner or later.
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