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Author:  Jay dog [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 7:25 am ]
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Hey Guys,
After 3 months of seeing each other, and having oral sex twice, my ex decided to just be friends because she's not the relationship type of girl....So we broke up and after a good 3 weeks of cutting her off, she texted me couple days and i ended the conversation because she hooks up a lot with guys, and that's not the type of girl that i'd love to be with(in terms of relationships).

She texted me an hour ago, its 1 in the morning...She wanted to meet up with me and when we did, she was crying because she had a huge argument with her roommates and they are leaving her because they think she's immature and untrustable. She started telling me how she doesn't want to hook up with random guys anymore and wants to prove it to "them" that she actually wants to change. She made a bet with me and she was asking me if i'm going out with anyone and if i hooked up with anyone. I told her i'm kinda "seeing" a girl.

I felt that she was trying to tell me that she's changing so she can be in a relationship with me maybe? we also might go to the movies tomorrow with my friends.If we do, should i do anything or talk to her about anything? Why do you think she's doing this?
Author:  cedius [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 9:28 am ]
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People can change if the truly want to, I know first hand because I have. BUT...you also have to know that if she doesn't have the mindset for such a drastic change, she will most likely revert back to what she is used to and that may be while she is with you. You can't be with her every second and that there will fuck with your head if you let it...but the flip-side to that is...YOU yourself will need to trust her, you can't go snooping or accusing her, that will make it worse.

It's a big decision and only you will be affected by it...if you want her, do what you think is right.

What to talk about...why the change?

If you are kinda seeing someone, is this girl a better choice or did you just say that?

Just know, you can't "game" this girl into changing her ways.
Author:  Chelios [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 10:11 am ]
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She seems she wants to change for you.

Remember, actions speak louder than words.

My opinion, you like her, hence making this thread and aksing advice. People can change. Give her a chance, but still see the other girl, and let her prove herself, puts less pressure on you, and you really have nothing to close if she doesn't change.

Find out which girl is better suited to you.
Author:  Mr_Amazing [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 10:26 am ]
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she`s running game on you. she doesn`t want to change, she just wants someone who is gonna put up with her immature behavior. the only reason why you are even considering taking her back is the posibility of fucking her. so fuck her. but don`t get back with her and don`t go on any dates with her (unless she pays).
Author:  Chelios [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 10:43 am ]
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she`s running game on you. she doesn`t want to change, she just wants someone who is gonna put up with her immature behavior. the only reason why you are even considering taking her back is the posibility of fucking her. so fuck her. but don`t get back with her and don`t go on any dates with her (unless she pays).
That's another reason why I said let her prove herself, whilst he still dates other girls, then he loses nothing.
Author:  bigdog225 [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 11:12 am ]
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I think she just wants you because her friends left her, because she's immature and slutty or whatever, and she knows you're a loyal guy and she wants someone like you there for her
I think she will change for a few weeks, but once all is well she will go back to being a slut and hooking up with guys, despite being in a relationship
Author:  snaskit [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 1:31 pm ]
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If the sex is worth the drama go for it, but under no circumstances should you stop seeing other chicks until she has more than proven herself!

One can decide to change, sure, but to change a habit PERMANENTLY it normally takes between 1-3 months, so no loosing contact with the other sugar-pop until then (=!
Author:  Mr_Amazing [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 2:10 pm ]
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I think she just wants you because her friends left her, because she's immature and slutty or whatever, and she knows you're a loyal guy and she wants someone like you there for her
I think she will change for a few weeks, but once all is well she will go back to being a slut and hooking up with guys, despite being in a relationship
exactly...forget all that "letting her prove herself stuff". 3 months and all you got was 2 blowjobs. that right there tells you what she thinks of you. if you wanna fuck her, just do it. but don`t take her back or be her shoulder to cry on.
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 3:01 pm ]
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3 months and all you got was 2 blowjobs. that right there tells you what she thinks of you. if you wanna fuck her, just do it. but don`t take her back or be her shoulder to cry on.
Yup. Keep seeing other girls, if she wants to fuck, great, but everything should be completely on YOUR terms.
Author:  TheJ [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 3:17 pm ]
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She started telling me how she doesn't want to hook up with random guys anymore and wants to prove it to "them" that she actually wants to change.
I don't like this part one bit. That's not a good reason to change and it won't stick. Changing to prove to people they where wrong shows terrible personality in my book .

Anyhow that's just my .02$. You can try it out if you feel like it, give her a shot, but it better be on your terms.
Author:  Jay dog [ Tue Jan 18, 2011 7:56 pm ]
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Thanks everyone :)
i think i ll give it a try i guess but i ll let her prove herself. Tonight we're going to the movies, should i pull the trigger or should i act as a friend?
Author:  bigdog225 [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 12:25 am ]
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Thanks everyone :)
i think i ll give it a try i guess but i ll let her prove herself. Tonight we're going to the movies, should i pull the trigger or should i act as a friend?
Don't expect much,and don't emotionally invest, if I were you I'd try to fuck her tonight
Author:  bigdog225 [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 1:32 am ]
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Tell us how it went man :D
Author:  Jay dog [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 5:33 am ]
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Well we went and had dinner and then we went to the movies. Is it just me or do you guys think this is weird, i haven't heard of any friends who have dinner and hit the movies oh and hold hands too...however when it came to pulling the trigger, it didn't work :S
Author:  Chelios [ Wed Jan 19, 2011 8:36 am ]
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Well we went and had dinner and then we went to the movies. Is it just me or do you guys think this is weird, i haven't heard of any friends who have dinner and hit the movies oh and hold hands too...however when it came to pulling the trigger, it didn't work :S
Freeze out, so you don't fall into the LJBF zone. After her and her ways, she can still fuck you.

So FREEZE OUT!
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