This is hypothetical that the breakup is under common circumstances
Getting broken up with.
Sadly for males, this happens alot more than us breaking up with them. Most of the time you will know why, or it will have been a while in the making. But If a girl breaks up with you, and you dont fully understand why, ask and LISTEN to the reason. This is the most important part. Whether you were not committed enough, too demanding, or did something wrong, this will be your breakthrough for success in the future. Dont worry there will be success again.
I know how hard it is, but you must cop it on the chin. If it applies, admit that you had been doing wrong say sorry, and maybe one day that they can forgive you. Have some time to self reflect, but DONT DWELL, Its in the past and you cant do nothing about it now. LEARN and move on from the mistake/reasons and if there
are areas in your life that were objectified to needing improvement, and you believe they do, well now you can work on those. Or if you dont believe there was anything wrong with you, then you either are in denial, or at least you were true to yourself and who you are.
You may well go through many emotional pre-acceptance phases, of sadness, anger, depression, but you must refrain from blowing your top off. This means:
No begging for forgiveness
No telling her how much you love her and miss her and want her back.
No anger regression towards them
No getting them back
No calling them all night
No stalking lol
These acts only make it worse. It is one of lifes sad paradoxes, and no matter how badly you want to, but the more you do these, the worse it will make it for you. Your friends and social circle will all think less of you, and the people they will tell will hear the worst side of it, spreading fire that will burn many more bridges than just 1.
begging and saying sorry and pleading may have worked when you were both in love, but when she breaks up with you, generally the feelings she had for these to have worked are gone. This is where i believe principles of playing it cool and not being needy come back into play. (like when you first meet someone and use the old cat string theory) make yourself realise that you dont need them.
wish her the best with her life. and leave it at that. you must be strong enough to drop it here. I know how easy that is to say, but deleting their number and getting rid of photos and memories will help.
Everyone is different, but face it. You will now be alone and feel lonely as fuck.
You may get other girls in bed straight away, but they wont help much apart from trying to replace the sex that you miss with your girlfriend. Its best to use this time to rebuild yourself. It may take a little while to get the energy back, but as soon as you do, join a gym, get social again, see friends that you now have the extra time to see. basically try improve on on the 3 big areas of your life: Health, Social and Assets. All which you will have extra time for now!
What else couldnt you do when you were in the relationship that you now can?
Whilst you are occupied with all these, time will do its thing and slowly mend the hurt.
This implies you will not get back together with the ex. It is hard to accept but you'll have to face it. The sooner you can get rid of the hope of getting back with them, the better.
I personally am not a believer in staying close friends after a breakup unless you intend to get back together. This is ESPECIALLY in the case where they break up with you as they will have all the emotional leverage over the friendship and you will just get hurt. There is still too much emotion and heartache that gets in the way. Only once it has truly subsided, which is usually years later, can this work.
At the end of the day. Stay true to yourself, but you can always work on improving yourself. Dont get in another relationship til you are ready, for many reasons. And use all this as a learning curve.
