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Talked to her in person. I basically laid out all the shit I said I was going to because I just didn't care if I looked like a chump, she was going to know what she did wrong. She realized that she wasn't making any effort and I realized that I typically man-handle her, which puts her on the defensive. I started to think why I do this and I realized if I'm not really interested in a girl, I'll play with her to build my own arousal and keep my interest up. So, in that way, I've been doing relationships wrong and dating women I never really got to know and like outside of sexual gratification. On the plus side, I've been having really good sex.
I didn't think there was a problem with being overtly sexual all the time, but there is. There's a reason not everybody acts like a horny teenager when they like someone, I just assumed it was because they were less passionate than me. It does distract from you appreciating someone as a person. I told her some of the advice you guys gave and for the record, I am not bad at sex and no problem building arousal. I figured I'd ask while I was acting like an insecure bitch anyway. At this point she's going to work to win me back and I'm just going to manhandle her less. She says this will make her more inclined to want sex more often, but what a woman says...
Ah so with a bit more insight it seems you both had a hand in this. Hope it turns out well.