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Author:  Fireworks [ Wed Apr 14, 2010 1:09 am ]
Post subject:  I finally trust her, but I don't trust her PUA friend

I finally trust my gf. I let her go out and I give her space. But she has this friend that I'm insanely jealous of. She says he fucks random girls all the time. She says he can't have her though. I still can't help but feel that he's so good that he will end up fucking her. What should I do? I don't wanna seem insecure, but this guy seems good. What bothers me the most is not losing her, but the fact that he would just use her.

EDIT: Just some background info. This girl left a millionaire for me. I don't even have a job right now. So she totally fell for me and still says she loves me. But I just hate this guy! They hung out at a pub earlier.

Author:  PuaTempest [ Wed Apr 14, 2010 2:02 am ]
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okay, it sounds unusual t tell a girl something like this but tell her that every one is jealous and it is a natural part of life and the way that humans feel. Its like everything somebody loves, when that something is threatened we proect it. It seems like this is a problem that will progress if not taken care of soon.

I had somewhat of a similar situation with a girl i kno she is verrry social and she is very very beautiful. we are not together but definately will be soon. She knows quite a few guys that obviously dont like me and are going for her but on a very suddely . I had a fellow pua friend act like he didnt kno me, and befriend them and tell them we are interested in eachother and how he goes to the same muay thai gym that i do and that i have a very bad temper and am a very skilled fighter. im a pretty big guy will a more muscular build (5' 11" 235lbs) This made them a little more cautious around her and ultimately made them search for something new. I explained to her that i totally trust her but do not favor them at all. She completely undrstood after i explained to her why poeple are naturally jealous.

oh and use alot of "well wouldnt you feel bad if...." never say well how would you feel?... it comes off to defensive. good luck man =]

Author:  True Visage [ Sat Apr 17, 2010 1:23 am ]
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Obviously you don't want to sound like a jealous immature douche, because that's exactly what will drive your gf into someone else's arms. You could either bring it up in a mature way like Tempest suggests, which is often a good option. Another good option is the one which I used when I had a jealousy problem with my gf and another guy, which was to not even remotely let on I had any such feelings and ensure I was doing everything to make sure I was too good to risk losing. For anyone who says this is a emotionally repressed way of going about it then piss off, it's called not dumping all your angsty problems on your girlfriend.

Tbh given the backstory that you have I'd assume you've got a big confidence problem rather than a trust issue (but if I'm wrong then my bad). It's not the lack of trust in her as a loving, amazing girl, it's the lack of faith in you being good enough to keep her.

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Author:  slimsta [ Sat Apr 17, 2010 4:43 am ]
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yo just take the guy to the side and have a quick chat ;) if i was in your situation, i would make sure he knows what's up, and if he does do something, then that would be the last time he ever fucks a girl 8)

Author:  Brendan [ Sat Apr 17, 2010 9:15 am ]
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Who cares man.. if she fucks him, you dump her. you move on. if she doesn't, you can be happy that you have a good girl who respects your relationship. worrying about it achieves nothing.

Author:  Ezo [ Sat Apr 17, 2010 11:06 am ]
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Well, the only way you can be sure that she will stick with you is to be better than him. Sorry but there are no guarantees.

Author:  Fireworks [ Sat Apr 17, 2010 10:21 pm ]
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Thanks for the advice guys. Right now I'm focusing on having a life (I became an AFC and focused too much on her). I'm sure it pushed her away. Last night I went out, I'm going out again today and I simply feel like a new person. 8)

I definitely want it to work, but yeah if it doesn't I won't cry about it. I'll move on.

Author:  Consistence [ Mon Apr 19, 2010 2:11 pm ]
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Thanks for the advice guys. Right now I'm focusing on having a life (I became an AFC and focused too much on her). I'm sure it pushed her away. Last night I went out, I'm going out again today and I simply feel like a new person. 8)

I definitely want it to work, but yeah if it doesn't I won't cry about it. I'll move on.
+1

;)

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