If she acts offended "Hey, you said it, not me".
after all, you just agreed with her.
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| Author: | dlayer [ Wed Apr 08, 2009 6:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Insulted her. |
Ok i did something very, very stupid. I was trying to make a joke/neg about my girlfriends arms when she was talking about how big they were (they are regular sized) and i said "ya you do have really big arms" or something along those lines jokingly and that really offended her. She gave me the silent SPAM and when i apologized and tried to talk to her she just sat in silence. Apparently a friend was joking with her about them and I just added to the problem. I see it as small marbles and childish but it was about her body and apparently her arms are a hang-up. I have no clue where to go from here and what i can really do to show her i wasn't serious and to help her get over her body hang-ups. I am ashamed that i hurt her and it is a horrible feeling and i want to try and work it out. Sorry for the rant and thanks a lot for any help. |
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| Author: | The Big Bad Wolf [ Wed Apr 08, 2009 2:14 pm ] |
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If she acts offended "Hey, you said it, not me". after all, you just agreed with her.
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| Author: | dlayer [ Wed Apr 08, 2009 5:34 pm ] |
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she wasnt exactly saying "i have big arms" she was just looking at them and saying "how do they get this big" so that might not work. thanks though. |
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| Author: | catalyst1 [ Wed Apr 08, 2009 5:38 pm ] |
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as a general rule, it's best to stay away from things people can't change. this applies for everything, negs and even pissing about with your mates. |
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| Author: | dlayer [ Wed Apr 08, 2009 5:42 pm ] |
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Ya that is a good rule. It was one of those things that as i was saying i just couldnt realize why i was and instantly as i said it i regretted it. I have never really insulted someone like this before. |
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| Author: | Impuls [ Thu Apr 09, 2009 2:54 pm ] |
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Quote: as a general rule, it's best to stay away from things people can't change. this applies for everything, negs and even pissing about with your mates.
Thats a good rule.And also stay away from things that can cause a psychological pang for them. Like if youre target is married or has a BF steer clear of insulting or hurting her feelings with anything to do with guilt-ish things. I've been there done that and was forced to apologize, nearly derailing me. Would've lost that one if I didnt keep the apology sincere enough as well as SHORT. If you must apologize, Do NOT kill her with AFC style apology and grovelling, keep the frame. |
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