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Hi!
So I recently got into a new relationship. The girl is great, she's smart funny and gorgeous. We went on a few dates already and have been messaging frequently.
For her studies she studied a medical related degree about 3 years ago...for whatever reason she's not working in the field as a researcher which is what she wanted (likely could not find a job).
Anyway she's told me she's working as a manager on crazy night shifts but hesitant to say what company it is, she says she took the job to get experience in 'management', however stating she wants to get back into cancer research.
The issue is that I found out she happens to be a manager at McDonalds for the past 3 years
This is a farcry from the medical degree she did. She doesn't have the professional work experience in her field of study.
I've known her for a month, I want to know whether I'am stepping out of my boundaries here by suggesting uni courses she could do (medical information systems?) to get into her field in corporate and out of 'Mcdonalds' or is it too early in the relationship for that?
I guess the thing is because it's early into the relationship, should I even care/bother?
Just to add in my family they won't ever accept a McDonalds manager
They've made that clear. Imho I also think if you've studied a degree you got to work in a professional field.
Thanks for the advice!
If she kept what company she worked at a secret, I wont trust what reason she gives for working there. I dunno, 3 years at McDonalds with a medical degree sounds off, I'd guess she doesnt have the degree or is seriously not applying herself....I just won't trust her reasons as in couldnt find a job if she hid what company it was.
As to whether you should suggest something...if convo comes around her being unhappy at work, sure make suggestions and give advice. Thats not saying just start talking about her career unasked, but if it comes up why not give advice or feedback? Sounds like you and your family would have an issue with her position, which is your right, but stupid imo. If the chick wants to be whatever, Im fine with that and fuck who has a problem with it. If your advice comes from a place of changing her to be "acceptable" for you and your family, dont give it...if it comes from trying to help her along with what she wants to do, sure go ahead.