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While I agree with you in spirit, I don't think this is a practical approach to early courtship that provides the results you want.
It is important to stand out early on, and no be the needy, emotional. paranoid weird guys that most women see. It's important to remain emotionally-centered and to let things happen organically. Most guys get nexted because they don't do this.
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Because that's how relationships start with strong, independent, and socially valuable women. They happen organically, from a chain of positive moments, not a pre-determined agenda.
Pick a point of view please
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and any guy who's sitting at a bar, who has a chance with a 20-something Victoria Secret model, who blows it and then says "o well, don't care" is a liar, lol.
For the millionth time, no one is saying blow up a chick's phone and be controlling. "Blowing it" is throwing up on a chick on the approach, ie doing something thats not natural to you. But expressing yourself from a healthy place and having her reject you for that, is not "blowing it." Like seriously, you cant ask a chick "why are you being so formal?"...a simple question, months in because it's not "fun"? Like seriously? Thats how afraid we have to be of women?
It's not either you're neurotic or you're afraid to speak. How can you tell guys over and over, work out, fuck good, be dominant, be busy, but STILL you cant do this that or that? You're sticking to these needy mindsets...you'll hear the girl is a cheater, you hear she is in therapy, you'll hear she's insecure...but no...it was the time when OP asked her why she was being formal...that's the issue. Lol. The girl aint young...she's hitting 30. The girl aint socially valuable, she's getting ditched by friends.
As I keep telling you, you really need to try coaching these guys IN PERSON. You'll see this whole hot assumption you have based on a girl's actions is crazy. "Ah....a chick doesnt like you anymore...I can tell she's hot and socially valuable!" Like average girls dont break up with people or can have issues. Meet these guys, or at least coach them via SPAM. I have, and guess what...these chicks can be hot, they can be average they can be ugly sometimes. Any chick can have issues, any chick can have attachment problems, any chick can just lose interest.
Guys who come here have approached chicks badly. Guys who come here have had bad relationships. Do we tell them dont approach anymore or have a relationship? No, and thats the same as this because a guy may have communicated with a chick poorly in the past, they should shut up and be afraid to communicate. No, you tell them improve themselves and communicate from a healthy place.