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So just to provide a conclusion for this. This ended poorly. 1) because she probably doesn't give a shit or doesn't want to put in/isn't used to putting in the effort 2)because I'm impulsive. You can make fun of me. It's pretty embarrassing, but i'll be real and share it with you guys. I need to work on myself for a bit.
It happens. The goal is to minimize it. Most guys let it control everything social.
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I mentioned that she should let me know if she's available that week to hang out.
Why?
Just go about your day, and let her wonder about you. You don't always need to "secure" things like this.
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She says sure. She texted me one more time the next day about some run of the mill "how's your day" thing, but no mention of hanging out.
So? It's okay if she doesn't want to hang 24/7.
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My plan was to not initiate any texts or ask to hang out and see if she would initiate.
Then radio silence for a week, don't hear from her no texts.
Another guy.
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I text her after a week during the afternoon seeing how's she's doing... No response. By this time I know she's over it so I text her "hey this obviously isn't working out, but no hard feelings. I'm around if you need anything". 4 hours and no response.
This is totally unnecessary. And the "I'm around if you need anything" response is classic Nice Guy. You don't care about that, you just wanted to sleep with her again.
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So I get a little pissed because I'm feeling like this person who I've known for a month
That's nothing. You don't know her, she doesn't know you.
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have slept with, have spent hundreds of dollars into providing a good time, spent all this time arranging my schedule to hang out, time into cleaning my place, to putting up with her shit... and she can't even text me back saying "thanks bye".
Another guy.
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I text her something like "So, its kinda screwed up you just ignore me so let me be real. I feel like you've led me on for a month, and that you've been disrespectful to me as a person and for my time. I feel like I've tried to make sure you have a good time and feel somewhat special. I didn't think someone in their 30's could act like that. I kinda just feel used. Anyways, as you said "thanks for the fuck"" (She said that to me as she left my place the first time)
What's the point of this? Just go out and find better women. Hell, find a 20-something, lol.
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So she texts me back an hour later flipping out about it. She says she was working on a project that was due soon and put her phone away for a while
Bullshit.
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She tells me she stopped texting me
Ugh. This sounds like you asked her "why did you stop texting me".
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because she thought I felt "whatever" about her
Bullshit.
Pay less attention to what women say, and more to what they do.
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I felt bad and apologized about the impulsivity and my harsh words, but I had some things to say. She said she'd call me the next day to talk about it, but never did (that was 4 days ago)
that was her way of ending the conversation smoothly.
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Especially when she never responded, it really kinda hurt me.
Welcome to the world of 9's and 10's. They ignore guys without a HINT of remorse, the way I ignore advances from cougars and obese women.
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Like neo said, she was really hot and I liked the idea of her, but her herself was pretty underwhelming.
The hotness will get you, haha.
I used my green light this weekend on an ex-fling at a bar. On June 1, this woman (bartender) straight up asked me over to her place to fuck her via text. I said no, then invited her over for a threesome with my gf. She said no.
On June 10th she texts me, asks me to dump my gf and take her camping for the weekend. I said "No can do, if you weren't such a maniac...."
So my gf gives me a green light because she knows I get bored with women after a while (crafty girl). I refuse at first, but she orders me, lol. So last night I go into the bar, and the bartender starts flirting with me. I say "when do you get off your shift?" she says "1:30". I say "You're coming over. But give me a 30 minute heads-up" she says "I'm juggling too many guys right now (she just dumped her boyfriend of 8 years), it's probably not going to happen tonight." (perhaps revenge from me turning her down and lording my gf over her I suppose).
So I go home with another girl, and text the bartender this at 1:30 "hey, I have to pull that invite back. Something came up. Have a great night."
Even worse, I hung around way too long at the bar, and hurt my value by being too pushy (and lingering). I basically chased a woman needlessly (a 10, granted) when she was chasing me. It was completely stupid, emotional, and beta. All i had to do was just wait for another one of her hook-up texts. Instead, I hurt attraction.
So it happens, man. Even to me with women we are really drawn to. The key, like I said, is to minimize it. And I am, by not contacting this woman again until she contacts me.
Learn to recognize when you are over-contacting women, being emotional, controlling, and lingering. None of this stuff should happen within the first three months! Women will run from it. They will be drawn to emotionally-centered, fun men who are good in bed.
In my case last night, I wanted it bad. So bad I let it control me. Not a good way to go.