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Hey guys,
I was partying like 2 months ago when a (female) friend came to me and said "try to pick up a friend of mine, just for fun". She was only a 6.5, maybe a 7, but I like running routines etc so I just went for it.
We really hit it off, we connected for some reason, even tho I didn't find her very attractive. That same night we all went sleeping at my place and after a lot of push-pulling (at one point I even called her a ho and told her to go home) she ended up sleeping with me.
In the next weeks that followed we chatted ALOT and had sex approximately 2 times a week. The sex was just fantastic. I really believe God made us for the sole purpose to have sex with each other. We also went to a private wellness together and she loved it. On several occasions she told me she started having feelings but I always told her I wasn't looking for a serious relationship.
The 5th week she went skiing. She took one of my shirts (the one she always slept in when she stayed at my place) and sprayed it with my perfume. We continued texting and everything seemed normal. Our friends (even her best friend) were telling me that I should give her a chance and that we would be a great couple etc. so slowly I started to change my mind.
On the day of her return she texted me ''we need to talk''.. boy do I hate those words.
I went to her place and she told me that she wasn't ready for a relationship, that her feelings were not enough for this to work, that she felt she couldn't breath anymore... I was pissed. It was her who had feelings, not me! WTF!
She asked for a hug and started licking my neck and whispering in my ear "you gave me the best sex ever" and shit like that. Then when I told her I was leaving she asked for one last kiss and told me I could still stay the night. Like I said, for some reason I was REALLY pissed and just took off (FML, I should have banged her so hard).
After a couple of days I started texting her, that we should still have the sex because it was so great and that I missed her. She never responded. When I was drunk I sent some voice messages. She never responded. One night she (finally) responded that she really wanted to have sex with me but things got to complicated and she could not act like nothing happened.
I really want things to be like they were in the beginning. I don't need a relationship at all. Right now I feel like I'm obsessed with her, I can't seem to get her out of my mind. And I don't even think she's hot....
Can anyone tell me what the f.. just happened here and how I can get her back?
You are PISSED because you now know what its like to have the shoe on the other foot. You realized that at this point you were likely more invested than she is, which you'd estimated was the opposite when you first started fucking her and it was all about your ego.
It's possible that she had initially put more energy into this than you were willing/wanting to give. Why would she want to waste her time when she can find someone else to have great sex + a relationship. <===this explanation is more palatable for your Ego, i am sure - though not necessarily reality.
OR, quite simply you got needy.
Let this one go.