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N2thevoid: Even if I was still attached, how could she possibly know this if we haven't had many interactions and I haven't shown any interest? If anything she feels I've moved on too quickly. I can't think of anything that would indicate to her I'm attached - probably the opposite. I'm treating her like I used to before we got together.
I didn't plan on bumping into her those times with my friend. She shouldn't be surprised that we hang out but I can see your point of the 'enemy'!
R.C: I can honestly say my intentions now are not to get the relationship back (you can see my mindset change as this thread went on!). I can't see myself long term with her unless things drastically changed (very unlikely).
I want to hookup with her again (which I know is possible but I haven't done before!). That's my goal. Nothing serious. Just fun. At the very least I'd like to release all the built up tension because I can't completely avoid her. I'll probably still see her at least a couple of times every month for a long time to come!
The fact you're still looking to her for guidance / to lead. If she snapped her fingers and wanted you back right now you'd be with her, let's be real.
Its the ENERGY you hold, women have a sixth sense for such things and if she doesn't know it now she'll know soon enough in your actions. Even your posts in here all point to you looking at her and how she may / may not interpret things. Its the looking to her which will eventually do you in.
AND you want to HOOK UP with her again why?? There are thousands of girls out there but this ONE, your EX of all people is the one you want a chance to have sex with again? Please. You're drinking the attachment koolaid.
I would not get back in a relationship if she wanted. I've seen too many red flags and I know it won't be long term. We get a long very well and see each other a lot so it would be good to have her as a fwb. Had we dated for more than a couple of months/had a bad breakup then it would be different.
Update: She called me late last night. Was driving home from the gym so didn't answer. She then messaged me to "put this channel on quickly". She then called again. Didn't answer again (still driving). When I got home I called her back. We talked for a while. She'd been watching a talk show and someone I liked a lot came on and she didn't want me to miss it. I did miss it, so she explained everything they talked about. Most of the conversation after that was on very neurtral topics. She said things that showed she had been thinking about me. Didn't talk about "us" and I didn't show much interest. Was just relaxed (probably because I was tired and almost falling asleep).
I then ended it on a good note.
This was good because it reduced the bad tension that had built up.