She gave you the instructions to her. She wants you to ask her out. She wants you to give her a day and a time and not treat her like a FB.

I hear exactly what everyone is saying, and my question is where is the line of her giving you the instructions and where is it that it becomes supplicating. Because just because she wants a relationship and asks for one doesn't necessarily mean she deserves one.

Specifically: Couldn't this be the same as some random girl asking you to take her out to dinner? Just because she is an attractive woman many men will do so, but if you were to form a relationship in a better way, and these are just my thoughts, then maybe you make her earn that dinner? Like for example, if she was an awesome FB then you upgrade her to more where she then really appreciates that dinner because she really had to work for it. Then it is more valuable to her, and the relationship is more set in the dynamic of your preference.

***UPDATE***
Thanks for all the advise guys. What I am looking at most and I'm not sure if it is right or not, but she's telling me she needs more and that I am not meeting her needs in this 'relationship'. Anyway, I realize that I don't have the value in her eyes to stick to a pure fuck buddy frame, so the only opportunity to get this girl playing on the team is give her something more of what she wants. Maybe the rocks vs. diamonds conundrum that Neil first talked about in the game.

And I could be just setting myself of for further betaisation but I will learn from it. I followed up with this girl from where we left off from up above, I waited a day to text:

Me: Will you go out with me monday evening?
Her: Sure what do you want to do?
Me: Well since you actually want to get to know me I'll take you to one of my favorite places downtown

[here I want to reframe her bad behavior of bitching and complaining from before. My objective is to communicate to her I didn't really know what she was after and that she can do a better job of communicating that (I really didn't know she was looking to date me), but my hope is that this curves the negative behavior into positive behavior in the future. we'll see]

Her: Sounds great
Me: Could you meet me at my house at 6pm monday? Then we can leave from there
Her: We're going downtown?
Me: Yes, I'll have more info for you on monday, what to where, dress etc. but would like to keep a surprise. Cool?
Her: Yeah, that's fine.. But my apartment is pretty much on the way to downtown..Can you just pick me up?
Me: Sure I can meet at your place and you can drive us
Her: Um... Sure

I don't really like this final response, but my thoughts are this shit isn't free and she still has to work for it. In addition, setting the romantic date frame of I pick you up and drop you off, just isn't beneficial quite at this point. This girl is rather resistant to extreme dominance IE she doesn't like to feel controlled (each time I've told her what to do, where to go, she has given me shit. This may be something I won't put up with, or maybe something she will get over after she trusts me more. I don't know, but I am about to find out.).

My plan is to not text until monday and then just get her address and proceed like normal. She has a roommate so it's not ideal logistics and my concern is that we will go on the date and then no sex at the end. Could be a trap that I am walking into, but I'll learn.

This girl is rather resistant to extreme dominance IE she doesn't like to feel controlled (each time I've told her what to do, where to go, she has given me shit. This may be something I won't put up with, or maybe something she will get over after she trusts me more. I don't know, but I am about to find out.).

If the conversation before is an example of this "extreme dominance" she's more so resistant to you being awkward. You're taking her downtown, which is closer to her...come on man, dont make it look so obvious and silly. You set your date up in such a way that its silly to meet at your place. You say SHE has to work for it, let me tell you...you're awkward texts away from this chick texting you "forget the whole thing...this is too complicated and doesnt feel normal."

I'ma speak frankly, you fucked her twice and she's obviously not interested in your dick to the extent to fuck you without more. Cool if you want to keep her in FWB land, but an important part of that is a finding a girl who enjoys fucking you to the point that thats enough. Thats not this chick. Can you get her as a fwb? Not really unless you improve your performance or something inside her changes to just want casual sex. As it stands, this girl is not that.

Now, you'll wait till Monday....take her out to dinner or whatever, maybe take her back to yours and bang. Great. Then you'll hit her up later that week, plan another date, bang. Then she'll just get tired of going out and fucking you. She's not gonna do this for long, and if after 2 bangs she's putting up resistance, you have maybe another 2 bangs before she just stops altogether.

But...stop being so awkward and stop thinking of whether something is supplicating. Because your actions and words are just gonna come off as weird. This girl is already cautious about you, and throwing in "you drive us" isnt going to make her less cautious or do you any favors.

You fucked her. Twice. And if she's not chasing your dick, you cant change her through supplicating or non supplicating, or whatever into a girl who will sleep with you consistently. FWBs dont start nor do they work like that. You want to fuck this girl more than 2 more times? Go the bf route. You dont want to be anything serious? Well, you already had 2 shots to fuck her and it didnt work.