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| Author: | Ivan Carmona [ Tue Aug 18, 2015 3:40 am ] |
| Post subject: | I don't know shit |
I've been in a relationship with this girl almost 5 months. She's 17 years old, virgin, and a prude. I have almost 21 years old and not a virgin. We live in different cities but I see her every weekend. We love each other. Her family know me and invited me for dinner, quick trips and things like that. I've seen posts that mention that relationships without sex or sex after being in a relationship isn't good. That the relationship is supposed to be sex first and relationship second. So, how fuck am I? and if there's a solution, how could I make it? |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Tue Aug 18, 2015 3:46 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I don't know shit |
What you're asking isn't really about pickup. If you're happy then cool - stay happy. Most guys here wouldn't enter into a relationship without the sexual element... That's sort of a major factor in most relationships. I think that's probably what you've been seeing/reading. Is sex a big deal for you? If it is: 1) why did you get into a relationship with someone who won't put out? 2) is it a big enough deal for you that you can have an honest discussion with her... Ie: "sex is a big part of serious relationships and I'm not getting it... How can we compromise? (Ie: oral sex?) You're In a relationship. No need for pickup. Communicate like adults. |
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| Author: | Ivan Carmona [ Tue Aug 18, 2015 3:57 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I don't know shit |
yeah, i had thought about it (communicate it) but, we have never talked about sex. I'm really insecure bringing that subject with her. I think it would scare her or something like that, like an alarm in her brain haha. Whatever my choice is about sex in a relationship, do you think I should "man the fuck up" and be straight with her? like, "honey what do you think about sex in a relationship?" Thank you for your last reply dude! |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Tue Aug 18, 2015 4:02 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I don't know shit |
Quote: yeah, i had thought about it (communicate it) but, we have never talked about sex. I'm really insecure bringing that subject with her. I think it would scare her or something like that, like an alarm in her brain haha. Whatever my choice is about sex in a relationship, do you think I should "man the fuck up" and be straight with her? like, "honey what do you think about sex in a relationship?"
Personally - absolutely. You should communicate in relationships - always. Thank you for your last reply dude! And it's an elephant in the room in your situation. I'm sure she's thinking about it as well. By saying nothing, you're saying you're fine with it. It may end up that she's not ok with sex -- and that you move on from each other... But maybe that's a good thing. You obviously want different things. |
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| Author: | neo87 [ Tue Aug 18, 2015 4:33 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I don't know shit |
Quote: yeah, i had thought about it (communicate it) but, we have never talked about sex. I'm really insecure bringing that subject with her. I think it would scare her or something like that, like an alarm in her brain haha. Whatever my choice is about sex in a relationship, do you think I should "man the fuck up" and be straight with her? like, "honey what do you think about sex in a relationship?"
Thank you for your last reply dude! To be frank, you're desperate. You've waited months to even kiss this girl, she's younger, and you live in different cities...plus no sex. Then you're afraid to call something out, and when you think you should, your inclination is to ASK?! :"honey what do you think about sex in a relationship?" Being straight is saying how you feel, not asking her. I cant imagine that you had any good options before if this is the situation you're in. At the end of the day, you gotta decide if you can live without this girl and find better. If you can't, stay with her, dont risk saying anything and keep going the way you're going. If you feel like you deserve to be happy, tell her what's up, be prepared to scare her, and be prepared to lose her if she doesnt want sex. If she walks, at least you've taken the first step to getting the relationship you really want. Improve yourself and meet other women. If you cant communicate with your gf or she'll leave you, what is the point. |
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| Author: | Ivan Carmona [ Tue Aug 18, 2015 7:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I don't know shit |
Thanks for your replies. I'm happy with her and viceversa but, maybe I'm desperate. And yeah obviously I would love to make love to her, and she had think about it, I'm sure. How I see it and what I think I'm going to do is to escalate progressively until it happens. I would not mention or discuss about sex with her. What I'm doing is to open her up, little by little, make her more comfortable around me, and put sexual tension when we make eye contact. |
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| Author: | younglady [ Tue Aug 25, 2015 3:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I don't know shit |
Quote: Thanks for your replies. I'm happy with her and viceversa but, maybe I'm desperate. And yeah obviously I would love to make love to her, and she had think about it, I'm sure. How I see it and what I think I'm going to do is to escalate progressively until it happens. I would not mention or discuss about sex with her. What I'm doing is to open her up, little by little, make her more comfortable around me, and put sexual tension when we make eye contact.
Did you not read what people wrote above or something...
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| Author: | Dragula [ Tue Aug 25, 2015 4:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I don't know shit |
Long distance= red flag Prude= red flag Virgin= red flag 17 years old= red flag ...and you're in a relationship? You poor thing Hahahaha Just do as Charles says.. And, as young lady has highlighted...stop brushing it under the carpet and talk to her. What have you got to lose? Also, give my sig link a read |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Tue Aug 25, 2015 6:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I don't know shit |
A woman decides she wants to be in a relationship after the quality of "time" that she has been giving by the person she is interested and the man decides( or should decide) he wants to be in a relationship based on the level of compliance that he has gotten from the woman. So consider how high on the compliance scale sex is for a girl who has never had sex before. You've met the family, thats compliance. I'd personally say you're in a okay position. Now if she was a girl that had sex numerous of times you wouldn't be, because sex wouldn't be high on the compliance scale for a girl thats already had sex with multiple people. You're fine. |
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| Author: | hoboken [ Tue Oct 20, 2015 9:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I don't know shit |
Quote: A woman decides she wants to be in a relationship after the quality of "time" that she has been giving by the person she is interested and the man decides( or should decide) he wants to be in a relationship based on the level of compliance that he has gotten from the woman.
Could you elaborate some more on this "compliance" concept? This is new to me. So consider how high on the compliance scale sex is for a girl who has never had sex before. You've met the family, thats compliance. I'd personally say you're in a okay position. Now if she was a girl that had sex numerous of times you wouldn't be, because sex wouldn't be high on the compliance scale for a girl thats already had sex with multiple people. You're fine. Thanks! |
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