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I never understand why guys are with girls who they know are very insecure, yet they get into a rs with these girls and think that problems like this aren't gonna come up.
Men are programmed to protect. The insecure girls have an air of weakness which attracts a certain type of guys that have insecurities too.
The insecurity of the girl satisfies the insecurity that the guy has to feel wanted. It is an unhealthy dynamic but usually it repeats itself.
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She is very insecure. That's the problem. If you didnt want a girl like this don't wife her. If you do wife her, prepare to do stuff like deleting girls from your fb.
This will add fuel to continue the unhealthy dynamics. The truth is that he really likes this girl. If he didn't like her he wouldn't be with her.
He can work on his inner game and get more secure himself and then she will follow his good example.
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Keep the chicks, she'll be sad, insecure, and may end it. It's up to you. But that's what you get when you date insecure chicks.
That's fear: she might end it. That's keeping the insecure pattern in place. No fear= secure
A person that has high confidence and high self esteem will not accept someone else setting boundaries to their freedom. They will accept only the boundaries that they are comfortable with.
She is freaking out because she wants him and she is insecure that she wants him more than he wants her.
She deleted the guys just to set the example of how he should behave.
If she sticks to his ground she will get even more insecure but she will try harder because she is already hooked on him. A girl that leaves easily is a girl that hasn't invested much. Only a very secure girl would make sure she is not investing more than the other person. She isn't this.
If he won't unfollow those women but he keeps reassuring her verbally that he loves her she is going to fall in love with him deeper. She might even start obsessing over him.