I'll try to keep this post short. My Gf of a year and a half have been rocky for the past few months. We both love each other, and I want to make it work with this girl again, but we just keep missing each other for some reason. What happened last night was preceded by a fight we had had the night before, so from the get-go was hypersensitive to everything. My gf was at a dinner/house party with her friends, and afterwards they decided to go to a strip club where I met them. I get there and my girlfriend is already plastered and in a bad mood. She keeps egging me on for a fight, so i decide to go outside for some air. When I come back i see her and all her friends are in the washroom of the club, so i decide to go back outside again. Now THIS is where all hell breaks loose. When I came back in she's livid confronts me saying i walked into the washroom with a girl and then when i saw her ran out, supposedly the stripper said ''oh is that your boyfriend?'' Later on she said I was holding her hand and just kept adding lies. As we're arguing she slaps me across the face a few times, says she hates me, at which point I leave. Stupidly because im weak i come back and we're at it again. Next she's all lovey again, and I decide we're going home. At this point shes so drunk she can barely walk. As we're making our way to the car, shes telling me how much she hates me, telling me how low i am, how poor i am, how i bring my family down (?), on top of all this shes hitting me, spitting, running away, even threw a cone at me (shes 28 btw). Finally we get to the car and she starts fucking with me while driving, changing the gears pulling the e-break. After all this we get home, i put her in bed and call it a night. Next morning she wakes up apologizing saying she loves me, i tell her i'd never disrespect anyone like that and that i need a break and time to re-evaluate everything. That Im on the brink of breaking up. I know this is going to sound dumb to alot of people but i do still care about this girl and would want to work it out, but only in a way where I'll be happy. So now that its come to this point, wtf do i do? Shes never done anything even remotely close to this, and for me its the final straw. What do I do now? I NEED my manhood and respect from her. I will only stay in this relationship if i can get what i want, ive been a doormat for too long. What do I do?

You can always sort things out the day after, when she's calmer, more rational and probably aware of how ridiculous she was being.

I'll try to keep this post short. My Gf of a year and a half have been rocky for the past few months. We both love each other, and I want to make it work with this girl again, but we just keep missing each other for some reason. What happened last night was preceded by a fight we had had the night before, so from the get-go was hypersensitive to everything. My gf was at a dinner/house party with her friends, and afterwards they decided to go to a strip club where I met them. I get there and my girlfriend is already plastered and in a bad mood. She keeps egging me on for a fight, so i decide to go outside for some air. When I come back i see her and all her friends are in the washroom of the club, so i decide to go back outside again. Now THIS is where all hell breaks loose. When I came back in she's livid confronts me saying i walked into the washroom with a girl and then when i saw her ran out, supposedly the stripper said ''oh is that your boyfriend?'' Later on she said I was holding her hand and just kept adding lies. As we're arguing she slaps me across the face a few times, says she hates me, at which point I leave. Stupidly because im weak i come back and we're at it again. Next she's all lovey again, and I decide we're going home. At this point shes so drunk she can barely walk. As we're making our way to the car, shes telling me how much she hates me, telling me how low i am, how poor i am, how i bring my family down (?), on top of all this shes hitting me, spitting, running away, even threw a cone at me (shes 28 btw). Finally we get to the car and she starts fucking with me while driving, changing the gears pulling the e-break. After all this we get home, i put her in bed and call it a night. Next morning she wakes up apologizing saying she loves me, i tell her i'd never disrespect anyone like that and that i need a break and time to re-evaluate everything. That Im on the brink of breaking up. I know this is going to sound dumb to alot of people but i do still care about this girl and would want to work it out, but only in a way where I'll be happy. So now that its come to this point, wtf do i do? Shes never done anything even remotely close to this, and for me its the final straw. What do I do now? I NEED my manhood and respect from her. I will only stay in this relationship if i can get what i want, ive been a doormat for too long. What do I do?

If she still drinks, smokes and parties at the age of 28, she's not worth it unless you like the Lindsay Lohan type of girl. Maturity and emotionally stable are the first two things you should always look for before considering getting into a relationship with a girl. However, if you just want to continue to fuck her, by all mean, do so but don't bet all your chips on a losing hand.

I was in this almost exact situation recently, I don't want you to make the same mistakes I did so do yourself a favor and walk away. WALK AWAY. WALK AWAY. WALK AWAY.

I dragged it on for months man. The girl disrespected me many times, wasted my time, blew me off on dates, and then flaked out on sex as well. I didn't have the guts to walk away, but I fucking wish I did. It would have made my life a hell of a lot easier, and she would probably be fucking me again today. Instead, she walked out on me, and she ain't coming back.

She is egging you on into walking out on this one- you are kidding yourself if you think it's remotely okay for her to withhold sex from you. I don't care how much time you spend with her, that is bull shit nonsense and doesn't even warrant a response. Walk out, and you will ironically win her back.

You better walk away, or you will regret how much of a bitch you became in the relationship. She withholds sex from you after you buy her a present?? FUCK THAT.

It's time for you to walk away man. She's not cheating on you, but she isn't respecting you. If she doesn't respect you, she will never love you. You have to walk away from this situation, let her start missing you for a while, and let her choose to come back into your life and give her best self to you.

The best way to go about this is to sit her down, say it isn't working for you, and that you are leaving her. Don't turn it into an argument, just say you are doing what is best for you- don't criticize her anymore, say you care about her deeply, but that you have to leave the relationship for your own health and freedom. She may not like it, but she will be attracted to it, because that's what people who respect themselves do- they don't let people disrespect them on a regular basis. Don't apologize for anything, just leave, and don't contact her.


It may to tough to go no-contact for a few days, or a few weeks, but I'd be willing to bet you hear from her. And when that happens, you can set up a casual get together.

I am sorry you are in this situation man, it is a mother fucker to deal with, but you have to put your long term health first, you have to risk losing her to gain her attraction. If she doesn't come back, then that's her loss man. However, if you do what I tell you, and stand up for yourself, like a man should, and leave, she will very likely come back.

Today she called apologizing and crying, an i told her its over. I cant have someone like that who disrespects me so much in my life. I'll see how the next little while goes, im hoping to work things out but only under my terms. Ill never stoop so low again

Today she called apologizing and crying, an i told her its over. I cant have someone like that who disrespects me so much in my life. I'll see how the next little while goes, im hoping to work things out but only under my terms. Ill never stoop so low again

When a girl wrongly calls you out for cheating, it usually means she is cheating herself and trying to deflect attention away from herself.