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Author:  NorthBoy [ Mon Sep 08, 2014 1:37 am ]
Post subject:  GF went back to her country -> Will not see her in 2.5 month
How to maintain the high level of interest?

Here's the story, I'll write a summary below. During the last week of June, I met this Mexican. There was a pretty big cultural difference between my north american mindset and hers. Over the last few weeks, I was able to adjust and we got closer and closer to the point where we are together now. I introduced her to my mother and friends. She also introduced me to her friends. It got to the point where she wanted to stay here. Unfortunately, it was impossible for her to stay here due to financial reasons. Even though she genuinely wanted to stay, it was not possible. When she talked about me to her family, they suggested to invite me to a beach in mexico in november (with her family). After that week, nothing is certain, but she stated her interest to come back to where I live. Even though I don't know her that much, it is definitely more serious that you would expect from a 2 month relationship.

Short story ->
- Met this girl through a friend at the end of June
- We are now officially together and she loves me beyond what I could ever imagine
- Her family asked her to invite me to Mexico in 12 weeks. I'm not 100% sure I should go but I want to maintain the level of interest until then.

Assuming that I want to go to Mexico in November, how do I maintain a high level of interest? How much attention should I give her?
Author:  younglady [ Mon Sep 08, 2014 3:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: GF went back to her country -> Will not see her in 2.5 m
Every girl is diifferent, but I think there are some things we have in common. Getting to see you is the most important thing, while we are apart. If it were me, I would be very happy with 1 SPAM conversation, or even just 1 new recorded video from you per week so I can see your face and hear your voice. Just ensure that you are visible and audible. If she really likes you already, that will be more than enough.

Have you ever observed how girls will fall in love with celebrities they have never met? It's easy once a girl can see the object of her affection. I hope things work out for you.
Author:  neo87 [ Mon Sep 08, 2014 3:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: GF went back to her country -> Will not see her in 2.5 m
Is this the Virgin girl?

What was your success with women before this relationship?
Author:  NorthBoy [ Wed Sep 10, 2014 1:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: GF went back to her country -> Will not see her in 2.5 m
Thanks younglady, I had something like 2-3 times per week in mind but maybe that's too much. idk
Quote:
Is this the Virgin girl?

What was your success with women before this relationship?
Yes it is. I'd say I have my fair amount of success. I can find girls without too much difficulty

If anyone is or has been in a similar situation, feel free to comment! :D
Author:  neo87 [ Wed Sep 10, 2014 2:15 am ]
Post subject:  Re: GF went back to her country -> Will not see her in 2.5 m
Ok.

First off, I won't recommend doing long distance for a girl you haven't slept with. Words of love are bs if she's holding off on sex with you. If you're going to take the long distance plunge, better to at least know her words are true. Ldr will test you connection and if she hasn't slept with you its already rocky.

Second if your doing a Ldr, have a plan. Both of you need to know when she'll be back instead of just hoping. How is she going to get back and at what time frame. Knowing how long it will be long distance is really important.

Third, be prepared. Like it or not, you're someone that can get her back to your country. She has a reason or use to keeping a relationship with you going. Make sure she is worth the effort. In Mexican culture the man provides so be ready for potential friction if you don't or can't help her out of her situation. Her family wants to meet you to get you invested in her to help her get back. Coming to the US as a foreigner myself, I can tell you that when a family is telling you to come visit it's to get you invested to get their kid out of the situation. Make sure she has her own plan to get back to North America and she can do so on her own.

I am not telling you to proceed just giving my opinion. I'd walk away. The distance and especially with a foreigner is too complicated for my tastes. But that's just me.
Author:  NorthBoy [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 12:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: GF went back to her country -> Will not see her in 2.5 m
Quote:
Ok.

First off, I won't recommend doing long distance for a girl you haven't slept with. Words of love are bs if she's holding off on sex with you. If you're going to take the long distance plunge, better to at least know her words are true. Ldr will test you connection and if she hasn't slept with you its already rocky.

Second if your doing a Ldr, have a plan. Both of you need to know when she'll be back instead of just hoping. How is she going to get back and at what time frame. Knowing how long it will be long distance is really important.

Third, be prepared. Like it or not, you're someone that can get her back to your country. She has a reason or use to keeping a relationship with you going. Make sure she is worth the effort. In Mexican culture the man provides so be ready for potential friction if you don't or can't help her out of her situation. Her family wants to meet you to get you invested in her to help her get back. Coming to the US as a foreigner myself, I can tell you that when a family is telling you to come visit it's to get you invested to get their kid out of the situation. Make sure she has her own plan to get back to North America and she can do so on her own.

I am not telling you to proceed just giving my opinion. I'd walk away. The distance and especially with a foreigner is too complicated for my tastes. But that's just me.
Wow thanks I really appreciate your advice. Well, first she is no longer virgin. Actually, she lived with me for the whole week before she left.

I totally agree with what you said about having a plan. I know that a desire to come back without a plan is nothing more than a dream and I told her that. She is thinking about how and when she could come back. I say "she" because I cannot move out of my country due to many reasons but she loves the city where I live and I really believe she has a strong desire to come back. Now I guess it has to translate into something concrete.

I'm not sure about your third point. Do you mean that she is in a bad situation (mexico being poorer than canada)? If so, I don't think it is applicable to my situation. Her father seems to be very wealthy and they are happy that she is in mexico :wink:.

You know, I'd tell my friends to walk away if they asked me advice on a similar situation. It's just too complicated and I know it. However, I'm very picky with girls and I think she is only the second girl I ever considered having a relationship with. I'm not saying she's the one, but being in this situation right now, I don't really feel like giving up yet :roll:

Thanks for the comments guys and don't hesitate to say a few words if you have been in a similar situation!
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