So I just graduated Highschool, and this girl and I were inseparable in middle school. only thing was she as about 200 pounds Always had a pretty face tho. We stayed in touch via facebook, and saw eachother around town. Four years later, I invited her to my grad party and she came! Little did I know she dropped about 70 pounds and is a solid HB8.5
Like this girl in a bikini
so, she was my new target. also shes gonna be a college sophomore and i just graduated highschool as a young senior. shes almost 2 years older than me (im feeling proud)
Fast forward to now (4 weeks later), we hang out, kiss as of the last week, go on long drives. things are pretty good. We both know im leaving out of state, were friends first, and this is just two close friends who will always be close turning things romantically for a short period of time. She has this psycho ex boyfriend tho that is in her mutual friend group, and were really open about it. She was with him so long that she has feelings for his still, but he annoys the shit out of her, calls her every day, and shes getting annoyed. but they already signed the lease and shes moving in with him and someone else (a mutual friend) next year for college. She keeps things cordial. they got drunk and kissed on the beach last week. I dont really care, its just her complicated problem.
Two days ago I texted her 4 times that day without a single response (she works a lot) so I dont text her the next day until she texts me late at night. I watched her 3 month old puppy for her yesterday, we hang out, she says "ill text you later". I made plans with someone else, she blows up at me, with lines including "I dont want to take things too fast" "I dont want to define things, I like them how they are" "I cant read you"
Shes mad because Im doing push pull and mirroring her. Shes pretty complicated, and im pretty much throwing it right back at her. lol its like shes looking in the mirror socially, and doesnt like that she cant figure herself out. I didnt get it that "ill text you later" meant she wanted to hang out last night after she had to go home and eat with her family real quick. She said she feels like I dont want to hang out with her. (I do a lot of push pull and freeze outs, because its hard to be the male, two years younger. I need to keep control) I told her I missed her already and she said "goodnight." at like 8 pm. Then at like 10, i get three consecutive texts "I miss you" "I miss you' "I miss you"
The question is- do I play the freeze out, push pull game and maintain power but piss her off? Or do I pull even when she pushes and risk being too easy, giving her the power, yet making her happy? What game do I play today?
-Dy