sup everybody, went from being chased to being the AFC chaser need advice plz. and maybe others can relate.
STORY Hit it off with a HB10, went on 2 dates, she was really into me, initiated 80% of communication and we were going really well. I played it pretty cool and didnt want to become needy and over-text etc. Shes pretty busy and can only meet up like once a week at best so our main contact was through text, but i may not have shown enough interest by not initiating enough.
We planned on a 3rd date but she wasnt free for like 9 days, me trying to be non-needy caused a 4 day gap in any contact. UNTIL i broke the ice by foolishly drunk texting her and coming across as an idiot. The actual convo didnt end too bad, just me looking like an idiot and DLV. The next day (also the day before the planned date) i initiate contact to try and get some pre-date communication but it was a little late and she wasnt really down to talk and ended with " ill text you tomorrow! gnite
. *through something i noticed on social media im pretty sure she thinks im acutally a big dumbass at this point.THE BUST its the next day and we planned to go out. i waited for her to msg me (like she said) when she was off work or doing whatever, And also kind of to assess her interest level. No txt or anything and i eventually ask if we were still going to chill tonight (even though its too late, mostly to just see whats up) She replies that she was waiting for ME to msg her and that i didnt etc..
SO kinda laughing it off, we reschedule for the next day in which she bails and txts me in the morning about family plans she forgot about (which was true). but doesnt suggest a reschedule.
i was able to keep my responses to the flake (shes flaked before too..) pretty chill and i go back to bed.
Suddenly i feel a neediness overcome me later in the day and i msg her trying to start pointless convo, mostly just to let her know im not upset or anything, and to create an opportunity for HER to reschedule. And basically just "reaching" for her attention. first message was completely ignored. she msgs me 6 hrs later about an inside joke we have. Our convos are very spaced (because of her plans) and going nowhere really. It ends with her asking what im doing, me telling her (going to this movie) and then no response from her. even a day later.
Its obvious iv become the chaser, and her interest has dropped a lot. she Used to poke me with some form of communication all the time (social media, instagram etc.). no apology about the flake and seems like shes not that interested anymore
i think we were both were playing mind games and fucked it all up. and now her interest in lost.
Its only been 2days since the flake but id like to know where to head. and if its fixable
Does this situation call for a FREEZE-OUT? let her reinitiate? me reinitiate after a week or so? or me just pretend nothing happend and try to rebuild rapport and try to set something up for later? or game over..?
She thinks im super hot, and was digging me so hard, i feel like there must be a way to regain my value and recover.
I was very clearly a high value guy at the start, and went extreme DLV. is it possible to recover this?