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| Author: | Ondas [ Sun Oct 20, 2013 11:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | Close friend, things got complicated |
Hey guys, this is my first post here so let me know if I'm doing something wrong and I'll try to fix it. The Girl: HB7, cute blonde, completely my type. She's had several boyfriends before and doesn't really seem into the hookup culture at my school for the most part. We met at the beginning of the year, and I've been gaming her for a couple months while still hooking up with other girls. We're pretty close friends now, and I've known she was down to hook up for a while now. Situation: I was out at a party with some friends last weekend, she was at a different party with different friends. I texted her trying to hook up, and we eventually agreed to have some no-strings-attached fun. She knows that I'm not looking for a girlfriend, and she told me she accepted that before we hooked up. We ended up having sex at my place, and she left the same night to sleep at her place. We've been texting and talking like nothing changed for the most part, but recently she started texting me when something goes wrong and she wants to talk (problems with her family or ex) and I'm afraid I'm becoming a shoulder to cry on. I really like hanging out with her as friends and hooking up with her, but I'm not looking for anything serious or long-term; I don't want to meet her parents or have her over to meet my family or anything like that. Problem: I'm a sophomore in college that went from not talking much to girls in high school to a couple great groups of friends and multiple SNLs with HB8+ in the past couple of months alone. I love the game and what it's done for my life, and I want to keep going out and getting better; I really don't want a relationship right now. When I texted her, I wanted a casual hookup or a friends-with-benefits setup with her, but now I think I'm the first person she turns to when she needs to talk. Is it possible to be close friends who also have sex, or am I completely kidding myself? How can I keep our relationship from becoming too serious while still being friends? |
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| Author: | neo87 [ Sun Oct 20, 2013 1:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Close friend, things got complicated |
If she is a close friend wouldnt you talk to her anyway when she needs you? |
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| Author: | Ondas [ Sun Oct 20, 2013 9:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Close friend, things got complicated |
Yeah, we'd probably talk, but this seems more serious. Normally we just talk about superficial and fun stuff, but now it seems like she wants more. HB7: my ex just said some really terrible things to me HB7: god i hate my mom I'm the only people she sends these types of texts to, and I'm afraid that she's trying to take our relationship to a higher level. |
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| Author: | Rough Operator [ Sun Oct 20, 2013 11:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Close friend, things got complicated |
If you're close friends already, then tell her you're not looking for a relationship and LJBF her |
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| Author: | Xoved [ Mon Oct 21, 2013 9:03 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Close friend, things got complicated |
If you are JUST friends with benefits, that's fine. But if you become BEST friends with benefits, you are doomed and you will be heading to a relationship when she becomes attached to you. Immediately change the subject when she starts using you to talk about her problems. Better yet in my opinion is telling her that you already made your mind and you do not currently want a relationship, but that you'd love on keep seeing her. I suggest you see her not more than once a week so she doesn't get attached. |
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