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| Author: | Shadowx157 [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 4:36 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Ultimate Relationship Sticking Point? Myself!? |
Setting: U.S.A Miami, FL Age 19, College Freshmen Situation: I've been in only 2 Relationships, the previous girls were both bad they both had never kept a relationship longer than 2 months. My current & 3rd relationship I'm in now (although has it's own complications) has been the best, and the girl has been in a long relationship of her own before. Her profile is HB 8.7, Tomboyish, Secret Nerd, Can dress sexy. So my problem is in ->all 3<- relationships the girls have said I'm Childish, Like a kid, even Immature..... 1st Relationship it was ok, we were still in high school, 2nd Relationship it was ok, the girl I was dating was 2 years older 3rd Relationship wtf, 3rd time a girl has told me this and I'm in college, have a job, and she's my same age... I don't know what to do about this, this is who I am, I am truly a kid at heart after all the PUA stuff in the beginning... Every time a girlfriend or girl comes to this conclusion it eventually shortens the overall "attraction" (because they want a "man") in the end I feel like shit cause they imply I'm less of a "man" by acting like a kid.... Conclusion: What can I do when my gf thinks I'm not a "man" when this is who I am (I don't mean I'm a kid but it's just my mannerisms) All in all I wanna act myself..... What to do, Opinions??? |
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| Author: | vhou812 [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 5:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ultimate Relationship Sticking Point? Myself!? |
Assuming they are correct when you act like a child, you can grow up. You're 19, you've probably got some growing up to do. That's life. If multiple women are telling you that you act like a child, either you are attracting a specific type of woman with similar issues of their own, or you are the problem. You can't claim to be a man, and act like a child. When you say this is me, if you are a child, then you cannot claim to be a man and not act like it. If you think your current gf is a good girl, and you want to keep her, when she mentions that you act like a child, ask her how, in what ways, and have her help you recognize when you act that way by yourself. This is a classic instance where a relationship can help you be your best self. And chances are if you don't become a man, it is only a matter of time before she leaves you. Sooner or later she will meet a man, and want one of her own. Could me days, weeks, months, or several years, but it will happen sooner or later. |
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| Author: | Shadowx157 [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 6:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ultimate Relationship Sticking Point? Myself!? |
Okay I see what you mean in how I contradict myself, I can be mature when need be, when it comes to making plans and saving to pay bills I can be serious, but otherwise. Why should I change how I am to fulfill what society envisions as a "man", society has spoon feed this specific image of what a "man" is to females... Life is too serious, I pretended to act like a kid so I can be mature inside, and have fun and be childish out, girls don't get this and think I'm all kid out cause my Manliness is Stealth.... I guess that's the problem lolz... |
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| Author: | RealMe [ Mon Oct 21, 2013 10:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ultimate Relationship Sticking Point? Myself!? |
Quote: Life is too serious, I pretended to act like a kid so I can be mature inside, and have fun and be childish out, girls don't get this and think I'm all kid out cause my Manliness is Stealth....
You frame it very positively, thats nice. What are the childish things you are "pretending"?
I guess that's the problem lolz... |
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