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Author:  CroDude [ Thu Sep 05, 2013 3:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Girl initiates contact a lot, but doesn't initiate dates.
I believe I said everything in the subject of the topic, lol.

After 2 years of gaming, partying and dating lots of girls, I've found that one girl that I really like, and consider a relationship prospect (although I do have 4 more girls gravitating towards me, but I don't consider them for anything more serious than casual dating). We've been seeing each other for more than a month now (went out 3 times) and everything is going smooth, although I would like to know what you guys think about following: I initiate contact (via text or fb) once, and for every single/one time I initiate contact, she initiates contact the next 4 or 5 times. That means she initiates more than 80 % contact via text/fb. But, the thing is she doesn't initiate meet ups/dates, although she is thrilled and very happy when I call her out and when she sees me, and I initiated a meet up each of those 3 times.

I'll wait for a week or so, just to see what happens, maybe she will initiate a meet up, but I'd like to know, did you experience something like that? How did you deal with it?

I know, we have to be dominant, decisive, assertive, etc., but one-sidedly initiating a meet up over and over and over again isn't a way. Tell me what you think.

Thanks.

Cheers!

Btw. @mods and admins, I've been thinking and reading instructions about where to put this topic, and I couldn't think of a better subforum than this, if I missed the subforum, I apologize, I'm still new here. ;)
Author:  AFCToTheMax [ Fri Sep 06, 2013 8:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl initiates contact a lot, but doesn't initiate dates
Quote:
I believe I said everything in the subject of the topic, lol.

After 2 years of gaming, partying and dating lots of girls, I've found that one girl that I really like, and consider a relationship prospect (although I do have 4 more girls gravitating towards me, but I don't consider them for anything more serious than casual dating). We've been seeing each other for more than a month now (went out 3 times) and everything is going smooth, although I would like to know what you guys think about following: I initiate contact (via text or fb) once, and for every single/one time I initiate contact, she initiates contact the next 4 or 5 times. That means she initiates more than 80 % contact via text/fb. But, the thing is she doesn't initiate meet ups/dates, although she is thrilled and very happy when I call her out and when she sees me, and I initiated a meet up each of those 3 times.

I'll wait for a week or so, just to see what happens, maybe she will initiate a meet up, but I'd like to know, did you experience something like that? How did you deal with it?

I know, we have to be dominant, decisive, assertive, etc., but one-sidedly initiating a meet up over and over and over again isn't a way. Tell me what you think.

Thanks.

Cheers!

Btw. @mods and admins, I've been thinking and reading instructions about where to put this topic, and I couldn't think of a better subforum than this, if I missed the subforum, I apologize, I'm still new here. ;)
Men should normally come up with plans for a date. That's it. I used to think like you. But what is your issue with initiating the date ? You can suggest stuff that YOU want to do. You have all the power to make the decisions and pick stuff you actually enjoy.
I normally don't let my girl to make any plans.
The fact that she is happy when you call her etc. is a very good sign.
Don't start playing the unavailibilty bullshit game. Initiate every time. It's the mans job.
Author:  CroDude [ Fri Sep 06, 2013 12:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl initiates contact a lot, but doesn't initiate dates
I don't have an issue with initiating dates, at all. When we are on a date, I always lead, take her places, say what we'll do, and she follows. Even though we have to be dominant, assertive and decisive, shouldn't a girl show her interest in us by initiating dates and meet ups, just like she does when initiating contact? Being more precise, that is my question.
Author:  AFCToTheMax [ Fri Sep 06, 2013 12:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl initiates contact a lot, but doesn't initiate dates
Well then if this bothers you tell her.

I had the same problem with my girl. Except it was about that she never initiates sex. I told her. Now she does. Effective communication. That's it.
Author:  CroDude [ Fri Sep 06, 2013 1:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl initiates contact a lot, but doesn't initiate dates
I'll consider it, but I'll first give it some time to see whether she will initiate and to get to know her some more. Thanks.
Author:  Wolfwoodd [ Fri Sep 06, 2013 1:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl initiates contact a lot, but doesn't initiate dates
Generally, a girl will show her interest by initiating contact, but it's still your job to make the dates. There's nothing wrong with a girl who waits for you to invite her out. It's a "traditional gender roles" thing.

-Wolf
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