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Author:  Muzz [ Sun Aug 18, 2013 8:24 am ]
Post subject:  New point in my life
Long story short, I've slept with more women than I can count. My games not amazing but I do well with what I've got. Living in Atlantic City helps too. It's all just getting old though and I'd like something more consistent. Any advice on how to get a girl I'm not just sleeping with? I seem to have a problem where girls only use me to sleep with me. Yes, I'm serious. I'm getting older, time for some settling.
Author:  Trevino [ Mon Aug 19, 2013 7:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New point in my life
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What do you offer besides sex to the girls? (Serious question)
I agree with Hobbit on this. I had a friend recently tell me she was ready to be in a relationship. The only problem is that she has been single so long she doesnt know how. Not that it is too late but a relationship is different than 'hooking up' or even 'dating.'

What are you willing to offer to a women? Are you willing to change your whole life and split your priorities between two people? Do you think you can go see a chick flick when youd rather go watch the game? Can you come home early from a bachelor party instead of staying out with your boys all night partying? These are just small things and it doesnt mean you cant still do them it just means there is someone else you have to think about when you do.
Author:  Muzz [ Mon Aug 19, 2013 11:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New point in my life
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Long story short, I've slept with more women than I can count. My games not amazing but I do well with what I've got. Living in Atlantic City helps too. It's all just getting old though and I'd like something more consistent. Any advice on how to get a girl I'm not just sleeping with? I seem to have a problem where girls only use me to sleep with me. Yes, I'm serious. I'm getting older, time for some settling.
What do you offer besides sex to the girls? (Serious question)
I have a lot going for me really. I'm not needy but I naturally want to take care of someone. I'm fun, like a hell of a good time. I have a solid job and an apartment. I'm genuinely a good hearted person. I'm a man about things. Physically I do well. Just seems like the girls I feel a connection with end up not wanting any relationship. Don't know if the problem is me personally or I just like the wrong females.
Author:  vhou812 [ Tue Aug 20, 2013 5:12 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New point in my life
Sounds to me like you need to assess when and how you are indicating you want a relationship.

The whole laws of attraction thing means that game is important early on. If you drop your game or indicate you want a relationship too soon, just like it will cool a woman off in pickup, it can lower your value with regards to a relationship. Your best bet is to let them think they are pulling you into a relationship.

Once you're fully in a relationship, then I drop the game and the rules are different, but until you reach that point, coming on to them too strong or telling them you want to invest in them will almost always make them stop and reassess your value.
Author:  detox75 [ Tue Aug 20, 2013 5:23 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New point in my life
with all candidness, this isn't a relationship forum
Author:  cmd [ Tue Aug 20, 2013 10:46 am ]
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Apparently both the STICKY and the ANNOUNCEMENT continue to be ignored.

I can understand that people might post something in the lounge that shouldn't be there, or in the "inner game section" when it actually has something to do with theory or beliefs. It is easy to get mixed up with some of these sections (sometimes).

However there should be absolutely no confusion in the relationship section. Not only are there posts explaining where to go....but it is the RELATIONSHIP section.

You have a girlfriend and want advice, not "I want a girlfriend and need advice"
Hey Hobbit, how come you are locking a thread because of above reasons, and at the same time give advice on another one which clearly doesn't belong here either according to your own rules? Double-standard much? (Serious question)

Muzz, sorry for hijacking your thread but it looks too hypocritical not to be pointed out...
Author:  Muzz [ Tue Aug 20, 2013 4:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New point in my life
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Sounds to me like you need to assess when and how you are indicating you want a relationship.

The whole laws of attraction thing means that game is important early on. If you drop your game or indicate you want a relationship too soon, just like it will cool a woman off in pickup, it can lower your value with regards to a relationship. Your best bet is to let them think they are pulling you into a relationship.

Once you're fully in a relationship, then I drop the game and the rules are different, but until you reach that point, coming on to them too strong or telling them you want to invest in them will almost always make them stop and reassess your value.
Awesome advice here thank you.
Author:  cmd [ Wed Aug 21, 2013 8:02 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New point in my life
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Is this thread about trying to get back someone's ex girlfriend? Doesn't seem the same to me at all.

And life isn't fair :) Write your Congressman about this PUA Forum injustice. Or at least have the decency to PM me instead of trying to engage in some pointless argument in this poor guy's thread.
...says the guy who quotes someone else to justify closing a thread. Don't get all defensive just because I pointed something out. I'll pm you no problem, but looks already like you can't handle constructive criticism...

If you actually read what you quoted from someone else, before pasting it: "You have a girlfriend and want advice, not "I want a girlfriend and need advice""

This is exactly what is happening in this thread. I doubt you can argue with that. Yes life isn't fair, good to know we have a moderator who isn't either... I am all for bending the rules but don't measure with different units.
Author:  Wolfwoodd [ Wed Aug 21, 2013 2:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New point in my life
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If you actually read what you quoted from someone else, before pasting it: "You have a girlfriend and want advice, not "I want a girlfriend and need advice""

This is exactly what is happening in this thread. I doubt you can argue with that. Yes life isn't fair, good to know we have a moderator who isn't either... I am all for bending the rules but don't measure with different units.
If Op is sleeping with girls, then he has relationships.. just a FB relationships. He's asking us how to avoid this trend in the future and/or turn his FB relationships to LTR's. That's within the forum rules.

On the whole, I'm pretty happy with moderation of this site. Cut Hobbit some slack.

Now, my advice to the OP: Screen for "good girls", avoid one night stands (maybe don't focus so much on the bar/club scene?). Also, take the girls on dates, and invite the girls to hang out at least twice a week. Cuddle after sex, let them spend the night, talk about each others' families and life goals.

-Wolf
Author:  cmd [ Sat Aug 24, 2013 10:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New point in my life
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If Op is sleeping with girls, then he has relationships.. just a FB relationships. He's asking us how to avoid this trend in the future and/or turn his FB relationships to LTR's. That's within the forum rules.
Don't really agree with this. He only stated he has slept with more women than he can count (not that he is currently doing so), and that his game is alright. So no, he is not in a relationship. But he would like to be in one. It's not even about a specific woman... Wrong forum.

Even if it was about a specific FB (which it isn't), FBs are not relationships. Do you write down "F#ck Buddy" when asked to state your current relationship status on official papers? If everyone posted about their FBs in the Relationships section, there wouldn't be much difference to the "General Questions" one.

Anyway I've made my point and shall leave it at that :wink:
Author:  cmd [ Sat Aug 24, 2013 10:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New point in my life
Hehe good 1 Hobbit :lol: I think he's already been helped thanks to vhou's good advice...

As for you, either follow your own rules or don't. Either lock threads or don't. Just don't be favoring threads over others.
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Author:  cmd [ Mon Aug 26, 2013 9:25 am ]
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I'm getting the feeling that on the relationship forum, I'm Neo and you are Agent Smith. We achieve balance :)
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