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| Author: | DmR [ Thu May 23, 2013 10:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | She wants to be fuck buddies, what to do? |
Hey everyone, here goes; I know this girl from work (but not in the same office) for about half a year and we've been talking here and there until I saw her by chance during independence day. we started talking and she joined me with my friends for that night and at the end of the night I kiss closed. We've been together for a month or so until she told me that she felt that it has all gone too fast for her (she asked me to have sex with her although she was a virgin). She told me that she met her EX and that she is confused etc. That day we broke up, and she called me in the evening and said she wanted to give this relationship a try but for now as a "going out" thing and nothing committed. I agreed to that but at the end of the night I told her that the 'giving more space' thing is alright with me, but I do sometimes miss talking to her, she practically freaked out. At the end of the night she asked for us to be fuck buddies and just hangout when we can but no commitment (although she admitted that she has feelings for me) and she said that she isn't sure if she wants to have a serious relationship with anyone anytime soon and that she needs to figure herself out. The catch is that she is post-religious from a religious family. your thoughts guys, I have feelings to this girl and I don't want her just as a fuck buddy. should I do it or not? and if it's possible how do I turn her back into my girlfriend.. I'm clueless and I feel like I can't read her at all. All thoughts are welcome.. |
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| Author: | In$tinct [ Thu May 23, 2013 11:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wants to be fuck buddies, what to do? |
It's not your fault you can't read her. She doesn't know what she wants either. On the positive side at least she admits to it, but still this girl is very immature... I wouldn't give this too much hope until she gets her shit together. You basically have 2 options: 1) Give her space like she said... In fact you can give her so much space that in the meantime you can bang a ton of girls who are worth your time. 2) Don't give a crap about what she says, just fuck her whenever possible. This is not too advisable as you've said you too already have feelings for her, but you should know better what you can pull off. Your choice. |
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| Author: | krular [ Thu May 23, 2013 1:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wants to be fuck buddies, what to do? |
Quote: It's not your fault you can't read her. She doesn't know what she wants either. On the positive side at least she admits to it, but still this girl is very immature... I wouldn't give this too much hope until she gets her shit together. You basically have 2 options:
1) Give her space like she said... In fact you can give her so much space that in the meantime you can bang a ton of girls who are worth your time. 2) Don't give a crap about what she says, just fuck her whenever possible. This is not too advisable as you've said you too already have feelings for her, but you should know better what you can pull off. Your choice. I would go with choice took and game other girls til you come across someone else you might want to be in a relationship with. If she cant make her mind up bout a relationship with you now, why bother waiting to see if it works out. Her lose and your gain. |
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| Author: | DmR [ Thu May 23, 2013 7:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wants to be fuck buddies, what to do? |
What made me lose it is when she said "But I have a seriously weird request.. please tell me if your'e fucking another girl. I won't do anything about it but I just wanna know" seriously? fuck buddies is when we fuck each other and we know that each one of us has sex with other people, we know it's there but we don't talk about it. what the hell, why did she ask that? she didn't tell me. Do I need to understand anything from this? |
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| Author: | krular [ Thu May 23, 2013 7:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wants to be fuck buddies, what to do? |
she wants to know if she still owns you. |
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| Author: | Themagicalone [ Thu May 23, 2013 10:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wants to be fuck buddies, what to do? |
Quote: Hey everyone, here goes;
Seems to me like she wants to go through a slut phase(lost her v card looking to explore). Your best bet at locking her down is to give her soft nexts and establish a higher value to her (gaming other girls, better looking girls then her). If this doesn't work I'd suggest going no contact. If she really wants to go through the slut phase there's not much you can do, you'll just get hurt, by not talking to her it allows you to game more women and get over her.
I know this girl from work (but not in the same office) for about half a year and we've been talking here and there until I saw her by chance during independence day. we started talking and she joined me with my friends for that night and at the end of the night I kiss closed. We've been together for a month or so until she told me that she felt that it has all gone too fast for her (she asked me to have sex with her although she was a virgin). She told me that she met her EX and that she is confused etc. That day we broke up, and she called me in the evening and said she wanted to give this relationship a try but for now as a "going out" thing and nothing committed. I agreed to that but at the end of the night I told her that the 'giving more space' thing is alright with me, but I do sometimes miss talking to her, she practically freaked out. At the end of the night she asked for us to be fuck buddies and just hangout when we can but no commitment (although she admitted that she has feelings for me) and she said that she isn't sure if she wants to have a serious relationship with anyone anytime soon and that she needs to figure herself out. The catch is that she is post-religious from a religious family. your thoughts guys, I have feelings to this girl and I don't want her just as a fuck buddy. should I do it or not? and if it's possible how do I turn her back into my girlfriend.. I'm clueless and I feel like I can't read her at all. All thoughts are welcome.. |
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| Author: | DmR [ Fri May 24, 2013 10:35 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wants to be fuck buddies, what to do? |
Thanks for the replies everyone, but I didn't understand what did you mean by saying 'soft nexts', I do game other girls and I'm gonna tell her about it as she asked to make her jealous I hope. Should I go low profile for now? and keep in touch for much less than I do now because I'm responsible for most of the contact between us. Yesterday we both went out each one with our friends and she was supposed to come to my place after but she didn't call me, I texted her at 2 am and when she got back to me after an hour she apologized and said that she's too drunk and not in the mood to fuck so she went home with her friends. I start to feel like I'm chasing her a bit, should I just lower my efforts to initiate contact? |
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| Author: | Themagicalone [ Fri May 24, 2013 11:51 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wants to be fuck buddies, what to do? |
Quote: Thanks for the replies everyone, but I didn't understand what did you mean by saying 'soft nexts', I do game other girls and I'm gonna tell her about it as she asked to make her jealous I hope.
Yes she needs to be the one putting out more effort trying to talk to you. You look needy constantly texting her and trying to set up something first, needy=beta.
Should I go low profile for now? and keep in touch for much less than I do now because I'm responsible for most of the contact between us. Yesterday we both went out each one with our friends and she was supposed to come to my place after but she didn't call me, I texted her at 2 am and when she got back to me after an hour she apologized and said that she's too drunk and not in the mood to fuck so she went home with her friends. I start to feel like I'm chasing her a bit, should I just lower my efforts to initiate contact? |
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| Author: | In$tinct [ Fri May 24, 2013 8:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wants to be fuck buddies, what to do? |
Yeah next time don't text her until she does. |
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| Author: | DmR [ Sat May 25, 2013 4:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: She wants to be fuck buddies, what to do? |
Alright, I get the point of going more or less no contact from my side. But I'm still struggling to understand how to act with her, we're working together, mostly talking on the phone multiple times a day. Should I act completely normal and have a casual conversation with her now and then? or just going completely no contact work-related-only talk? |
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