Thanks for the responses, but I was thinking more along the lines of making a lasting impression after the breakup. Instead of grasping at the air for desperate ways to save the relationship and preventing her from breaking up with me, I prepared for it and assimilated the situation. It's funny that it had a reverse effect on her.
Our conversation has been mostly on facebook; I'll post it up as soon as I have the time. I basically told her that she had made a decision and my messages let her know that I was completely OK with it, which is true. I had made peace with it, thanks Sedona Method! I gave short responses to her messages without doing anything to show emotion, attachment or neediness (especially neediness!).
It seems that the lack of emotional response from me caught her totally off balance and she started getting dramatic about it, lol. So instead of me allowing her to "frame" the interaction with her drama, I "reframed" and pulled her into mine, saying that she was being melodramatic and that I found it funny. She gave into my frame and I continued to create "negative space" or whatever you call it when you hardly contact her and have her chasing you, trying to close the space.
Now she's basically changing her discourse and wrote me a long message saying that a lot has been going through her head and that she has feelings for me, etc. She wants to talk and probably wants to work things out. I still haven't seen her since a week ago when she went on a spiritual retreat and came back with doubts about us. My responses have been sincere but short. There have been times in the past few days where she has written me and I didn't respond. Go figure.
So now what? I'm not some plaything, that's for sure. And I'm not some loyal puppy dog who jumps when she snaps her fingers, I think I'm getting that across. I suppose I'll have to tell her that she's gonna do this, this, and that if she wants to stay together.
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