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| Author: | Xeydo [ Wed Nov 21, 2012 10:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Everything is fucked up |
I'm with this girl for 2.5 years, broke it off few months ago, now got her back after seeing her with some other guy. I feel really insecure at the moment, I basically let her walk all over me, but I do tell her it's bothering me and I will not take such behavior. She's treating me really bad, and she says it's because she's afraid I'll cheat on her or break up with her once again. I'm in a really low place right now, and the last thing in my mind is to break up with her. ofcourse I never tell her that, but today, she really disrespected me, so I wrote her a push-pull breakup SMS, knowing she WILL crawl back: "You know what I am, HB? I am your teardrop... I was conceived in your heart... I was born in your eyes... I live on your cheeks... and I will die on your lips. I think about you day and night. You are so beautiful and I adore you. But now I must go. You have touched me on a very deep level and it is more than I can bear. I am helpless before other women and I will only hurt you and myself. I can't see you anymore." I was terrified she will move on and won't care, but... She ofcourse called me RIGHT AWAY and asked what the fuck. She said she was kidding and sleepy and can't believe I broke up with her again...we started arguing and I felt seriously like a weak small kid with no chance against an adult. Meanwhile we're OK but I don't know how much more I can take, or when she'll start sensing my beta smell and move on to someone else. So I try to keep my frame but I can barely hold it. I know this relationship is unhealthy but I just CAN'T leave it now. I can barely sleep at night, I have massive diarrhea everyday and am worried about this ALL THE TIME. Oneitis? YES. I need to de-attach myself emotionally or else I'll do something really stupid in case of a breakup. I come from a very needy place, I feel so low right now. I don't feel this way about other girls - this other girl I met at a bar is basically throwing herself at me but it doesn't help for my self esteem and my confidence. UPDATE: great, she's flaking.... What to do what to do?? How do I emotionally de-attach myself from this bad seed, without the need to breakup FIRST??? Update: So we've talked a bit and she seems OK now. Why the fuck do I even care what this girl feels at the moment? Why do I care what she thinks of me? Why am I so attached to her, and when she pushes me away I feel like I'm losing everything ?! I really need to get my shit together, and stop letting her affect my life |
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| Author: | do8 [ Sat Nov 24, 2012 10:21 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Everything is fucked up |
GFTOW sounds like a solution. |
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| Author: | Crypto [ Thu Nov 29, 2012 2:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Everything is fucked up |
Most of the people on this site, and even those who know nothing of the PUA community have been hurt, sometimes really badly. This will not be the last time you get hurt in your young life but this one will better prepare you for the next. This girl is nothing more than another human being; she is no more special or important than any other human being. The problem is that you have placed her in higher regard than others (including yourself) which allows your mind to trick you into believing without her your life will be miserable and you will be alone forever. Hit me back on my PM Peace... |
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| Author: | dark one [ Thu Nov 29, 2012 5:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Everything is fucked up |
I feel your pain, I know exactly what you are going through....its sucks! You feel like you can't control it, you cry, you don't want to eat, and feel like you just lost everything! I just went through a breakup with a girl I spent 4 years with, 3 of which we lived together...hardest thing I ever had to do was admit that we are done. BUT....you know what man it gets better! you will start to realize that you are better off without her, chances are she took you for granted. It will take time to heal, you will feel like shit for a little while, but you will learn to move on. Chances are she was not the angle you thought she was and you will realize this in the long run. Right now you need to talk with family and friends about your feelings, ask their opinion and they will open your eyes to things you didn't see in the relationship. Call up your parents, call up friends, just find people who give solid advice and talk it out! Spend a couple days just crying and feeling like shit, get your emotions out, it sucks but you will feel better. Don't be needy or cling on in any way! this will only push her farther away and make you feel shitty! Cut contact with her or you will say things from an emotional place instead of thinking strait...I made this mistake. Realize that every decision you make from here on out has to be for you! its can't be for her! it can't be because maybe the two of you will get back together, or because you worry about her! the two of you are done now and you have to look out for you! she is looking out her self and you should do the same...be honest with your self and your actions, have your actions been to benefit you? or her? have they been to better your life or to get back with her? You have to move on bro! its hard, and its one of the hardest things you will do! but I promise it will get easier. |
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