PUA Forum :: Looks mean very little in the grand scheme!

I have always known that looks were not a major part of attraction, but I didn't really know how little they meant until recently when my gf and I almost broke up. This post is not meant to suggest that you should let your self go, but rather that if you are a not so good looking guy you have a shot with beautiful women.

My Girl friend and I of almost 4 years almost broke up last week, thing got boring in our relationship, I started acting "beta" and was not being my self, I was working more, and she was not putting in the effort either....well what do you think happened? she came to me and said "I don't feel the same way about you, and im not excited about our relationship like I was before" this threw me! I was shocked and asked her what was it? she said to me "Im not as attracted to you as I once was"

My jaw dropped! I was shocked and my ego was stomped on!....see I consider my self a 9 mabey a 10 our of 10 in the looks department, Im in good shape, I use to model, ect ect and I never thought I would hear those words from my any womens mouth! but before I could ask her what she meant she told me something that I will never ever forget! she said:

"Its not a physical thing........you know.....you know when girls goes crazy over a guy like robert pattinson because of who he in a move, its not really his looks, its who is playing, thats how I feel with you, you don't act like you use to and you don't seem you self, I use to be so attracted to the way you acted and made me feel"

BOOOOM! My mind was blown! not because this was something that I had not heard before but because I realized in this moment my looks could not save me! they meant nothing to her! in that moment she was as attracted to me as she would be to Nick Nolte after a drug binge lol My looks that had helped me my whole life meant ZERO!

Then I did a little research, I looked at all the guys my gf had dated before me (she is a solid hb 9 or 10) and found that non of them were anything to wright home about, in fact a couple of them were shockingly ugly! yet they were able to date my gf!

So what did I do? I started acting like my self, I stopped trying to please her and started making life plans right away!, I started being more fun, joking more, not taking my self so seriously.

a week later my gf is like a different person! she is all over me, she is laughing again, she looks at me like she use to, and we are having sex again more often! last night when I was about to fall asleep she just started going to town on me and went nuts! haha it didn't take long to see the change in her and it seems like the more I challenged her, the more I led the relationship, the more she wanted me!

This was a good lesson for me! and I hope by sharing it I can help some of your guys out!

P.s the first couple days when I did challenge her, disagree with her, and spoke my mind, she shit tested me like crazy! she through fits and got mad! and I would always laugh at her and tell her to calm down....after a couple day I could tell she knew I meant business and that I was not going to cave into her demands, that's when she started being much nicer, showering me with complements, more sex, talking about our future, I went from an attraction level of about 50% to %100 in a week!

Author:	dark one [ Tue Jun 19, 2012 3:47 pm ]
Post subject:	Looks mean very little in the grand scheme!
I have always known that looks were not a major part of attraction, but I didn't really know how little they meant until recently when my gf and I almost broke up. This post is not meant to suggest that you should let your self go, but rather that if you are a not so good looking guy you have a shot with beautiful women. My Girl friend and I of almost 4 years almost broke up last week, thing got boring in our relationship, I started acting "beta" and was not being my self, I was working more, and she was not putting in the effort either....well what do you think happened? she came to me and said "I don't feel the same way about you, and im not excited about our relationship like I was before" this threw me! I was shocked and asked her what was it? she said to me "Im not as attracted to you as I once was" My jaw dropped! I was shocked and my ego was stomped on!....see I consider my self a 9 mabey a 10 our of 10 in the looks department, Im in good shape, I use to model, ect ect and I never thought I would hear those words from my any womens mouth! but before I could ask her what she meant she told me something that I will never ever forget! she said: "Its not a physical thing........you know.....you know when girls goes crazy over a guy like robert pattinson because of who he in a move, its not really his looks, its who is playing, thats how I feel with you, you don't act like you use to and you don't seem you self, I use to be so attracted to the way you acted and made me feel" BOOOOM! My mind was blown! not because this was something that I had not heard before but because I realized in this moment my looks could not save me! they meant nothing to her! in that moment she was as attracted to me as she would be to Nick Nolte after a drug binge lol My looks that had helped me my whole life meant ZERO! Then I did a little research, I looked at all the guys my gf had dated before me (she is a solid hb 9 or 10) and found that non of them were anything to wright home about, in fact a couple of them were shockingly ugly! yet they were able to date my gf! So what did I do? I started acting like my self, I stopped trying to please her and started making life plans right away!, I started being more fun, joking more, not taking my self so seriously. a week later my gf is like a different person! she is all over me, she is laughing again, she looks at me like she use to, and we are having sex again more often! last night when I was about to fall asleep she just started going to town on me and went nuts! haha it didn't take long to see the change in her and it seems like the more I challenged her, the more I led the relationship, the more she wanted me! This was a good lesson for me! and I hope by sharing it I can help some of your guys out! P.s the first couple days when I did challenge her, disagree with her, and spoke my mind, she shit tested me like crazy! she through fits and got mad! and I would always laugh at her and tell her to calm down....after a couple day I could tell she knew I meant business and that I was not going to cave into her demands, that's when she started being much nicer, showering me with complements, more sex, talking about our future, I went from an attraction level of about 50% to %100 in a week!

Author:	midlife_crysus [ Tue Jun 19, 2012 4:17 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Looks mean very little in the grand scheme!
Quote: I have always known that looks were not a major part of attraction, but I didn't really know how little they meant until recently when my gf and I almost broke up. This post is not meant to suggest that you should let your self go, but rather that if you are a not so good looking guy you have a shot with beautiful women. My Girl friend and I of almost 4 years almost broke up last week, thing got boring in our relationship, I started acting "beta" and was not being my self, I was working more, and she was not putting in the effort either....well what do you think happened? she came to me and said "I don't feel the same way about you, and im not excited about our relationship like I was before" this threw me! I was shocked and asked her what was it? she said to me "Im not as attracted to you as I once was" My jaw dropped! I was shocked and my ego was stomped on!....see I consider my self a 9 mabey a 10 our of 10 in the looks department, Im in good shape, I use to model, ect ect and I never thought I would hear those words from my any womens mouth! but before I could ask her what she meant she told me something that I will never ever forget! she said: "Its not a physical thing........you know.....you know when girls goes crazy over a guy like robert pattinson because of who he in a move, its not really his looks, its who is playing, thats how I feel with you, you don't act like you use to and you don't seem you self, I use to be so attracted to the way you acted and made me feel" BOOOOM! My mind was blown! not because this was something that I had not heard before but because I realized in this moment my looks could not save me! they meant nothing to her! in that moment she was as attracted to me as she would be to Nick Nolte after a drug binge lol My looks that had helped me my whole life meant ZERO! Then I did a little research, I looked at all the guys my gf had dated before me (she is a solid hb 9 or 10) and found that non of them were anything to wright home about, in fact a couple of them were shockingly ugly! yet they were able to date my gf! So what did I do? I started acting like my self, I stopped trying to please her and started making life plans right away!, I started being more fun, joking more, not taking my self so seriously. a week later my gf is like a different person! she is all over me, she is laughing again, she looks at me like she use to, and we are having sex again more often! last night when I was about to fall asleep she just started going to town on me and went nuts! haha it didn't take long to see the change in her and it seems like the more I challenged her, the more I led the relationship, the more she wanted me! This was a good lesson for me! and I hope by sharing it I can help some of your guys out! P.s the first couple days when I did challenge her, disagree with her, and spoke my mind, she shit tested me like crazy! she through fits and got mad! and I would always laugh at her and tell her to calm down....after a couple day I could tell she knew I meant business and that I was not going to cave into her demands, that's when she started being much nicer, showering me with complements, more sex, talking about our future, I went from an attraction level of about 50% to %100 in a week! People claim this often, but I havent seen it. I have seen mismatchs in looks from time to time, but for the most part, good looking stay with good looking, average stay with average, and ugly stay with ugly. But I do think women tend to settle for less than mr perfect after a while. Partly cause of the bio clock ticking. But there is a difference between a woman choosing to be with you in spite of your looks, than being animaly attracted to you where she wants to rip your shirt off. I think women think of tall dark and handsome, but realize that doesnt make for a great life always either.

Author:	dark one [ Tue Jun 19, 2012 4:57 pm ]
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Looks help, don't get me wrong! its much easier to pick a women up when you are better looking, but building attraction has zero to do with looks! I would tend to think most good looking men are "alpha" males because they have been good looking their whole life and have always had the attention on them which would allow them to be more confident and forward. Looks area a factor but they are a small piece of the pie. It hard to believe as a male because we are naturally so into looks! Its hard for us to understand that looks are not much of a factor, just as its hard to understand how a neg could make a girl want you more. Obviously if the guy is a 1/10, un healthy, over weight, and grosses the girl out she's not going to give him a chance, but if you take a guy who is a 10/10 and a guy who is a 6/10, and the guy who is a 6/10 is better at building and keeping attraction then he will win her over every time! Look at most celebrities that women drool over, many of them are avg, to slightly above avg at best, yet women flock to them like a fly on shit! lol why? two reasons, 1# they are wanted, which makes them alpha, which drives women crazy, 2# they are playing a part, they are tuning into what women want in a man and giving that to them in large quantities....most of these guys wouldn't get a second look from your gf on the street but because of who they are, and their status they drive women crazy!

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Jun 19, 2012 4:59 pm ]
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Women want a MAN, This site has a never ending bunch of definitions as written by Women Read between the lines fells, read between the lines!: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=a+man

Author:	TheSeagull [ Tue Jun 19, 2012 5:07 pm ]
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Quote: if you take a guy who is a 10/10 and a guy who is a 6/10, and the guy who is a 6/10 is better at building and keeping attraction then he will win her over every time! this.

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