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| Author: | PUAzilla [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 11:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | My girlfriend's frame. |
My girlfriend has a really good frame. She's pretty much always happy, calm and relaxed. I have girls commenting on my facebook, I go out clubbing, don't always text her and generally keep the relationship good. The problem is though, she shows no sign of caring about any of these things. Either she's brilliant at bottling it or she doesn't care. Can you guys work out what's going on here? I really want her to care. I care about her doing that kind of thing but I don't show it. Let me know what you think! |
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| Author: | league [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 11:51 am ] |
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Believe me mate you'd be complaining ten times as much if it was the other way round, it sounds like you're onto a good thing |
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| Author: | PUAzilla [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 12:11 pm ] |
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Why? It would remove all my insecurities if she had insecurities. |
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| Author: | GreenGranted [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 1:48 pm ] |
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Quote: Why? It would remove all my insecurities if she had insecurities.
No, it's actually the other way around. You're looking for a sign that she is insecure, so you're actually seeking HER approval. You perceive her to be very confident, and it becomes true. It is all in yourself. |
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| Author: | PUAzilla [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 1:53 pm ] |
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Okay... I'm very relaxed and confident myself though. It's just my inner game that is struggling. |
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| Author: | league [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 2:10 pm ] |
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Girls like that are the ones you want, believe me if you spent three months with my nutty ex and you'll see what I mean |
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| Author: | Wolfwoodd [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 4:11 pm ] |
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Quote: Okay...
This is contradictory. You can't be relaxed and confident while simultaneously struggling with inner game. It's one or the other. I think you are taking something that is not a problem and making it into a problem. Wanting your girlfriend to display insecurities as a way of side-stepping your own is a counter-productive approach and it wont help you in the long run. Do your best to work through the core reasons you feel insecure and hopefully get a handle on them. I'm very relaxed and confident myself though. It's just my inner game that is struggling. In the meantime, you should be rewarding your girlfriend's behavior instead of worrying about it. Praise her for being so cool and laid back; she sounds like one of the good ones. -Wolf |
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| Author: | PUAzilla [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 5:17 pm ] |
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Thanks Wolf (as ever). I'm not saying that I want her to be insecure, everyone has insecurities of a kind. I was just wondering why she doesn't seem to show any. She's a great girl and we're very in love. I'll work on it. |
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