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| Author: | djsavoy [ Fri Jun 08, 2012 11:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Haven`t seen my GF in 2 weeks... still talk but a gap? |
Hey guys, I`ve been with my GF for over a month.. I haven`t seen her in 2 weeks cuz I had my Army duty for a week, and now she`s in Tennessee with her friends for a trip. The last I seen her was May 28th... (Today is June 8th) We talked everyday and called but I feel like its getting awkward talking to her over the phone... I feel so distant that I don`t even miss her anymore.. Her texts are getting simpler.. We agreed that she`ll come over on Monday, June 11th... She`s also just naturally unaffactionate, meaning she`s not like all cuddly and horny.. How do I fix that too? How would I recover this? Or make it happen that those 2 weeks never happened? |
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| Author: | Rough Operator [ Sat Jun 09, 2012 12:01 am ] |
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I wouldn't sweat it too much. A girl and I fell madly in love with each other over several months until she returned to the United States at Christmas. We haven't seen one another since then but we kept in contact. At times there have been periods where things have seemed a bit awkward and forced over SPAM and her texts definitely got more abrupt and there were even times when I thought we just weren't gonna talk anymore. But guess what? Recently she has invited me to come and stay with her and she says she misses me so much she cries, this is months later. Learn from my mistakes: 1. Don't make an issue about it AT ALL. It sucks and it can make you question the strength of the bond between you, but admittedly you have only been together a month so it's worth not getting to attached just yet. But don't bring it up it causes conflict, I know, I slipped into betaness a couple of times. 2. Don't be needy and be nothing but a positive force in her life during times apart. Don't bring her down ever. When you're apart from someone, you're limited in ways you can positively impact her life. I think sometimes this means doing things that break the conventional "rules of the game" one might follow when in normal, close proximity relationships and dating. This includes being a rock for her, listening to her and nothing but a positive element in her life. If you've already fucked her, doing this can strengthen your bond, or at least it did for my LDR when she was going through some tough times. Be the person she can SPAM with at the end of a shitty day and make her feel better 3. Game other women and have options, even if you don't sleep with them, it helps with clinginess and neediness. I did sleep with other women because we both agreed we can't do an exclusive LDR. 4. FORCE YOURSELF NOT TO GET JEALOUS Obviously, you're not apart for long, but take those points for future reference. She'll come back to you dude, don't sweat it. If something seems up, then re-evaluate it face to face, but for now, don't worry about it and don't let it get to you. |
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| Author: | TheSeagull [ Sat Jun 09, 2012 1:21 am ] |
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Quote: I know, I slipped into betaness a couple of times.
from my experience, a couple of not major beta moments, which come to a conclusion fairly quickly, are not necessarily a bad thing. they might be seen as lowering one's shield and letting emotions pass through. might even be positive on the long run. just be alpha 99% of the time and a minor slip should be fine.
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| Author: | Rough Operator [ Sun Jun 10, 2012 11:14 pm ] |
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Quote: Quote: I know, I slipped into betaness a couple of times.
from my experience, a couple of not major beta moments, which come to a conclusion fairly quickly, are not necessarily a bad thing. they might be seen as lowering one's shield and letting emotions pass through. might even be positive on the long run. just be alpha 99% of the time and a minor slip should be fine. |
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| Author: | Crypto [ Mon Jun 11, 2012 1:39 pm ] |
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You send a mixed signal in your OP! Do you want her to want you, or is it that you don't know if you want her anymore? |
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