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Author:  LBot [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 8:38 am ]
Post subject:  New GF I'm turning into a drama queen?
So basically have been with this girl for just over 6 weeks in a commited relationship.
I have been single for around a year before this. I'm very attracted to her and I guess I'm a sore loser because I get worked up over mistakes I make pretty easily.

Drinking might be a bit of the probem but basically she tells me off for stuff I do or say fairly often and I'm not used to it. When I was drunk I flipped out and basically dumped her over it. At the time I actually did want to break up with her but because I was so drunk she wouldn't let me leave as I had to drive.
[Edit] This night also involved alot of shit testing from her and I was being an asshole and not complying with any of them as she was asking me to do stupid crap like get her a tissue when she was closer to them etc.

Hormones set in and we made up and had sex in the morning I completely regretted what I had said that night and realized I have strongish feelings for her.

I hate drama and I have no idea why all of a sudden I'm acting this way being immature is not something I'm proud of. She didn't want to break up but I have put doubt in her mind as i brought up incompatibility and the like when I was giving her my drunken lecture.
I can't act this way ever again regardless of wether it is with her or another girl.

Any tips on things I can do to stop this kind of crap creeping into my life? I'm literally wanting to slap myself. I can't really work out why it is happening, because I like her more or less than I think I do? Because I'm a dick and want to sabbotage it? Because I havn't been in a relationship for a while so am not used to these types of situations and over reacting?
Author:  league [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 8:52 am ]
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You're a grown man why should you be told off for things you say or do aslong as they don't cross obvious boundries, she's your gf not your school teacher
Author:  LBot [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 8:58 am ]
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You're a grown man why should you be told off for things you say or do aslong as they don't cross obvious boundries, she's your gf not your school teacher
Well I made it pretty clear that was what was bothering me although I would have done it in a completely AFC way based on it being a drunken rant. I didn't apologize for any of the things I did although I did break and apologize for being such a dick over my rant.

Any suggestions on where to take this and not lose control, I don't like feeling like I should be a suck up because I made a mistake and I want to make sure she knows I'm not going to take her acting that way.
Author:  Apocalyptica [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 11:44 am ]
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You are in a LTR for 6 weeks (!!!) and it's already drama?

Stop drinking and start to act mature. This can help you.
Author:  Crypto [ Thu Jun 07, 2012 12:40 pm ]
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Each time she disrespects you and you accept it, you are reinforcing her actions and she will do it more! The next time she disrespects you, pull her aside and tell her "You don't talk to me like I am a fucking child! If you do it again, I am gone!" If she tests you, then simply tell her goodbye and leave her ass where she stands! Freeze her out for a week or so and then she will know that you are not beneith her...


Peace...
Author:  LBot [ Fri Jun 08, 2012 7:52 am ]
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Each time she disrespects you and you accept it, you are reinforcing her actions and she will do it more! The next time she disrespects you, pull her aside and tell her "You don't talk to me like I am a fucking child! If you do it again, I am gone!" If she tests you, then simply tell her goodbye and leave her ass where she stands! Freeze her out for a week or so and then she will know that you are not beneith her...


Peace...

Sweet dude thanks for the advice.
Author:  Furiox [ Fri Jun 08, 2012 8:44 am ]
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Each time she disrespects you and you accept it, you are reinforcing her actions and she will do it more! The next time she disrespects you, pull her aside and tell her "You don't talk to me like I am a fucking child! If you do it again, I am gone!" If she tests you, then simply tell her goodbye and leave her ass where she stands! Freeze her out for a week or so and then she will know that you are not beneith her...


Peace...
Or she changes her relationship status on Facebook to single again.
Author:  LBot [ Fri Jun 08, 2012 9:02 am ]
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Or she changes her relationship status on Facebook to single again.
She probably still has it set to single since its only early days. That might be the way things go if we don't find some kind of compromise.
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