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| Author: | hero99 [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 9:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | One week to save the relationship.. Txacoli Get in here! |
Hey all.. I recently posted a thread saying how I had a lowish sex drive and that it was getting to my girlfriend. Well since I posted that thread I have really tried to get more into it. I had a spontaneous session in a disabled toilet at University with her. That was fun! I was only having sex around once a week and in this last week I have blown my load about 7 times. Even twice in one night (unheard of for me). But now my girlfriend has turned around and says i'm not into the relationship. Dammnnnn. Some background info: *Im 19, shes 18 *Both at the same University and live 15 mins apart *Both good looking, although I'd like her to lose some weight. *Both socially comfortable So yeah she said I don't initiate anything (which is kind of true tbh). She said I have got complacent. We both agree we both love each other to bits. So she says I have a week to get into it or she's done... What do I do? Regards as always Hero |
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| Author: | Reo [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 12:22 am ] |
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So you're gonna let her give you that ultimatum like i would have check that bitch so hard and showed her the door. She's not a very supportive girlfriend she knows your having some problems and not doing anything to help what a bitch. |
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| Author: | SignAFC [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 4:39 am ] |
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Yeah... You should say "I actually don't need a week, Bye." and then dump her. |
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| Author: | hero99 [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 9:00 am ] |
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Quote: So you're gonna let her give you that ultimatum like i would have check that bitch so hard and showed her the door. She's not a very supportive girlfriend she knows your having some problems and not doing anything to help what a bitch.
Hey man. Thanks for input. I must say that it is easy for you to say that since your not in the situation. This girl means alot to me and I am lazy in the relationship. She's the one calling me, texting me etc.. But I admit I kind of want a chilled out relationship. I'm in uni, I don't want to be tied down all the time. I wanna be out with my mates, seeing the world. So I guess I have to decide what to do.. She is obvoooualy wanting something slightly different than me... Hmmm
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| Author: | hero99 [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 9:01 am ] |
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Quote: Yeah... You should say "I actually don't need a week, Bye." and then dump her.
Thanks but see the above post^
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| Author: | Thedutchone [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 11:54 am ] |
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A deadline with a week = fail if she wants a behavioural change (on the long run). Speak about what kind of things she want to do. Give her attention as in plan something first, don't always wait her to do something for you guys... Mostly a low sex drive has other reasons in a relationship, now you discovered why. I had the same with my last relationship and it ended (badly). |
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| Author: | hero99 [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 2:20 pm ] |
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Quote: A deadline with a week = fail if she wants a behavioural change (on the long run).
Thanks again for input. Yeah the week deadline is a fail. Yeah I'm trying to organise things now but who knows. If she dumps me bang on a week I'll proba just laugh. But I'll be gutted when it sinks in. Speak about what kind of things she want to do. Give her attention as in plan something first, don't always wait her to do something for you guys... Mostly a low sex drive has other reasons in a relationship, now you discovered why. I had the same with my last relationship and it ended (badly). Anyone else? |
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| Author: | SmoothOp [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 2:28 pm ] |
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Quote: Hey man. Thanks for input. I must say that it is easy for you to say that since your not in the situation. This girl means alot to me and I am lazy in the relationship. She's the one calling me, texting me etc.. But I admit I kind of want a chilled out relationship. I'm in uni, I don't want to be tied down all the time. I wanna be out with my mates, seeing the world. So I guess I have to decide what to do.. She is obvoooualy wanting something slightly different than me... Hmmm
Mother fucker you are like me except I'm 4 years deep. Solution, man the fuck up an put in some effort. Your lazy and asking for magic solutions!! The other route if you want to experience life is to let her go. She is looking for something else that you aren't ready to offer. I'm taking this from my experience and I am assuming she really likes you and this is her cry for help. I don't think this her being a bitch as much as it is hoping you change. You should think about wants best for her and you will find your answer. Word to yo mother, |
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| Author: | hero99 [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 5:53 pm ] |
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Quote: Quote: Hey man. Thanks for input. I must say that it is easy for you to say that since your not in the situation. This girl means alot to me and I am lazy in the relationship. She's the one calling me, texting me etc.. But I admit I kind of want a chilled out relationship. I'm in uni, I don't want to be tied down all the time. I wanna be out with my mates, seeing the world. So I guess I have to decide what to do.. She is obvoooualy wanting something slightly different than me... Hmmm
Mother fucker you are like me except I'm 4 years deep. Solution, man the fuck up an put in some effort. Your lazy and asking for magic solutions!! The other route if you want to experience life is to let her go. She is looking for something else that you aren't ready to offer. I'm taking this from my experience and I am assuming she really likes you and this is her cry for help. I don't think this her being a bitch as much as it is hoping you change. You should think about wants best for her and you will find your answer. Word to yo mother, |
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| Author: | SmoothOp [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 7:01 pm ] |
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Quote: Good answer man. Yeah I've realised that if I wanna continue then its time for me to man up and start organising shit. I'm just not sure if I wanna do that yet! I'm 19 for christs sake. Man. What do you mean when ur 4 years deep. She wants long term but you not sure? Hero
I mean I'm 4 years deep into a relationship that I wasn't ready for when I got into it and still am still living the life of a dreamer ready for my next adventure. She doesn't like that to much lol. Her ultimatum sounds like a way to recieve more commitment from you. You are 19 dude! You should focus on being that age and having fun. |
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| Author: | Txacoli [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 8:19 pm ] |
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Sorry for the late reply Hero. I actually agree with SmoothOp. I know you love her and everything, but the fact is, at your age, it's probably gonna end at some point. If you're pressured to commit, it's just gonna shorten the life span of that relationship. These early relationships are a learning ground anyways. If you wanna give the relationship a shot, then do by all means. Nobody can decide that for you, I can only tell you how I view those things now, about 10 years later in life. I have very mixed feelings about my earliest LTR, from 20-23. This was my first love and I thought I'd never ever find a girl who will love me like her and would be equally big-breasted I would have rather chased every cute girl and just enjoyed myself. I have to do it now when I'm 30 lol. Another thing I noticed, this isn't a rule, but I notice it in my friends too, is that later in life it's more difficult to fall for someone head over heels as you do when you're younger. I don't know if this is the effect of being a part of the PUA community, but very few, really very few girls make me feel that way. When I was younger I would move mountains for love, I miss that feeling. However, if you have to ask yourself if you want to commit, I'd say the answer is obviously no. You're in a comfortable place, receiving regular attention from her and you like her a lot. My estimate. But if you loved her to bits, as you say, you wouldn't have to think twice, actually this thread would never have happened, because you would have been moving mountains and thinking you were gonna marry her someday. I think you're just very comfortable with the situation, not being in too deep, maybe you've closed the door for other girls and wild college life, but you're keeping the window open. So what now? If you break up, will it feel like the end of the world? Maybe for about a week. But it gets really awesome after that. Don't be afraid to lose this girl because you think there will be no other or because you don't want to lose her as a person, you guys can be friends later, it's possible if both of you are normal people. If you do feel you would move mountains for her, then do it! It will be a great ride, you'll learn a lot, experience a lot. If it's not how you feel, then find a girl for whom you'll feel that, it's awesome. In any case, if you stay in or get out, there will be good moments and bad, pleasure and some pain too, but that's what makes life fun. Awww I'm so romantic today, must be ovulating. |
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| Author: | SmoothOp [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 8:25 pm ] |
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Quote: equally big-breasted
I'm intrigued, picture please |
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| Author: | Txacoli [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 8:26 pm ] |
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Quote: So you're gonna let her give you that ultimatum like i would have check that bitch so hard and showed her the door. She's not a very supportive girlfriend she knows your having some problems and not doing anything to help what a bitch.
I've been meaning to tell you this for a while now, I just loooove your avatar. Makes me stare for a minute every time |
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| Author: | Txacoli [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 8:27 pm ] |
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Quote: Quote: equally big-breasted
I'm intrigued, picture please |
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| Author: | goodnamesaretaken [ Wed Feb 01, 2012 12:24 am ] |
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She's trying to turn you into her bitch. If you give in to her once then, in her mind, you will give in again. BUT, at the same time, if you really like her then why are you being lazy in the relationship? It makes me think that you don't like her like you say. I can't say who's wrong here because you are giving us a one-sided view as to what is really going on. If she is letting you smash and all of that and if you really do like her that much then you need to stop treating her like a fuck buddy and more like your gf. |
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