So me and my ex broke up on New Years. We'd been in a relationship for just over a year and on New Years I caught her kissing another guy.

So me and my ex broke up on New Years. We'd been in a relationship for just over a year and on New Years I caught her kissing another guy. I'd dropped the game when I started seeing her and completely left my social circle. I know that was all a "mistake" but oddly enough I'm glad for how things turned out.

We've stayed in touch since the break up and we still express a lot of love towards one another and I've been out sarging quite a few other girls since then too. About a week after our break up I met a cute 19 year old girl in the mall. We had sex twice and I told my ex about it. I did say "oh this girls not a girl I want to date though" I think that may have been a mistake.

What I'm really hoping to do is get my ex's attraction back and qualify her as a lead girl in an MLTR. I've already expressed this desire to her and she seems surprisingly open to it. She's said things like "It doesn't bother me so much that you see other girls I mean as long as I have your son that's what counts." even while we were dating I'd brought up the idea of an open relationship and she was coping with it better then me actually.

I've told her about some of my recent sarges and she reacts in a wide variety of ways. The last time she expressed frustration saying "I don't want to be just another one of your girls." and said "I actually met someone I'm kind of interested in." I really get the vibe that if I displayed high value she would respond by chasing me. There's still a lot of chemistry and attraction between us but I've told her I find her more attractive then the other girls I've been picking up.

I need to know where I should take this. I was thinking I should go out and sarge a really decent girl and express interest towards her. Make it clear to my ex that she does have a privileged position but that position won't last forever. I want to bring her in and establish a relationship where I can attract different girls and qualify them for three somes with my gf. Now I should mention that this is my goal regardless of whether things work out with my ex. I really want a full on gf and then a social circle, or harem if you will, of other girls that we both find attractive (she is bi).

How should I approach this? How can I make her comfortable with other girls and answer this question of "I don't want to be just another one of your girls." Is it a good idea to sarge out a new girl and start qualifying her as a new potential girl friend? If I pickup a new girl will this put positive pressure on my ex or negative pressure?